03/28/2026
This is going to make some people mad.
I’m your hair artist,
not your therapist.
I don’t like being called a “hairapist.”
It minimizes what real therapy is and the impact it has.
And it places a weight on service providers that we didn’t agree to carry.
Lately, I’ve been seeing more and more burnout in this industry.
And a big part of that comes from an unspoken expectation:
that we provide not only a physical service…
but an emotional one too.
Hair. Nails. Tattoos.
We are here to create, to care, to hold space within reason.
Now let me be clear—
what I do is healing.
I’ve been part of so many transformations,
so many new chapters,
so many moments where someone is becoming themselves again.
I even offer services intentionally designed for that kind of release and reset. ( If you need them book them.)
But there is a difference between sharing…
and trauma dumping.
Sharing is human.
Connection is welcome.
If you’re going through something heavy, and you tell me—
I will hold you in that moment.
I will soften the space.
I will remind you of yourself.
But trauma dumping—
especially without awareness, timing, or consent—
crosses a line.
We are still people.
We are still working.
And we don’t have the option to step away mid-service.
Before you share something deeply heavy, ask yourself:
Is this the right space?
Is this the right moment?
Is this the right person?
And if you’re unsure, just ask:
“Hey, I want to share something a bit heavy—do you have the capacity for that right now?”
Consent matters.
In every space.
Most of us truly care.
We want to be part of your growth, your healing, your becoming.
Just remember—
we can’t carry it for you.
🖤
I’d love to have your opinion on this.