03/26/2026
Let's talk about why a natural transition causes so much suffering. And then what we can do about it:
This is just my two cents, but I have a feeling it will resonate.
Evolutionarily, we're meant to be supported by a whole village. Through every me**es, pregnancy, miscarriage, delivery, postpartum, and every phase of motherhood. (This means our social nervous systems are meant to experience a web of support, a full community of resource, and a true sense of fully being held by sisterhoods of women, through all major life stresses and transitions.)
Perimenopause is deep wisdom based on 6 million years of evolution. Our biology is meant to move us out of reproductive fertility because that's what is BEST, not only for our personal survival and the survival of our own offspring, but also the survival of young children and young mothers of the community.
The problem isn't our physiology - the problem is that our society and culture has changed. Dramatically. In a matter of decades.
Historically, our systems were going through this huge biological transition at a time when demands on our lives and bodies were waning... and after having had decades of experience being held communally by other women in support and resource.
Our current reality is that – first of all – we haven’t ever been held and supported at the level of our bodies which means we carry a lifetime of unresolved adversity, loss, stress and trauma in our systems AND our biology is going through this dramatic change at a time in our life where we are often at the height of our careers, plus deep in active mothering, plus beginning to care for aging parents as well.
In today’s society perimenopause hits when a woman’s life and body demands couldn’t possibly be higher. So we SUFFER with perimenopause because we were barely holding it all together before... and now the natural changes inside of us actually add to the stress load felt in our already overwhelmed systems.
So what can we DO about it? Read top comment
