06/09/2025
***Shout out to all my fellow singles***π
Taking radical responsibility for yourself takes incredible courage & vulnerability. To accept reality, not the dismissive stories we tell ourselves, requires gentleness, compassion & forgiveness.
Sometimes we allow ourselves to become consumed by our victimhood, our work, our shame, our shadows, our addictions etc, that we don't know how to show up for ourselves....so how can we be in authentic relationship if we abandon our own heart?
There is zero shame in being single, finding yourself, opening up to healing & learning how to truly honor your soul. Especially if you didn't receive the love or dignity you needed as a child.
I've done the "living as roommates" for years, never being met halfway, settled for breadcrumbs, been labeled for being "the bad guy" because I chose to leave. Nobody really knows what happens behind closed doors, and it's none ya business! But it takes 2 to tango people. Nobody can carry a relationship on their own.
Society claims that when relationships break down, it's due to infidelity, financial issues, or abuse. But relationships also break down due to unhealed trauma, mental health conditions, illness/disease, adverse childhood experiences, grief, emotional instability, unhealthy coping skills, infertility, disregulated nervous system, the list goes on.
This is where partners should come together to help support each other. But sometimes, they don't want to fix (or admit) what's broken & you both fall apart. As much as we want to be there, sometimes we have to let go. And that's part of our journey to experience.
I decided 11 years ago that I will always choose me. For myself & for my children. I'm growing, healing & evolving into the best version of myself. For that, I am grateful.
Maybe one day, the right person who has done the work, who is willing to meet me halfway, to nourish our relationship in union, will be someone who also chooses themselves. But until then, I'm gonna keep doing me as best as I can.
Life is an adventure. Each day is a blessing. Enjoy the journey, single or not β€οΈ
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