02/07/2026
Grief & The Post-Birthday Blues •
I keep thinking if I do enough of what I love it’ll tip the scales of sadness in my favour and I’ll feel a little less miserable. Hasn’t worked for me yet.
I try to get into in my most creative mindset just before birthdays - thinking if I just do something I love it’ll soften the blow when the day comes and the shock of loss kicks back in. It doesn’t soften anything. Birthdays are the hardest.
It happened after mine and Craig’s in August, then after our first son’s in October. And now again, our youngest just celebrated his 15th birthday and the pattern repeated: deep set sadness that is just so exhausting!!
All the fun I had in planning the event at The Souk felt like it got tackled by the bigness of Grief 🤍
The good news is, I’m getting to know grief on a much deeper and personal level. I am starting to understand that it doesn’t inherently want to be a thief of joy, it just doesn’t really know how to express itself. So WE need to show it how.
Grief is a relentless, little beast … and, so am I 🙋🏻♀️ I shall befriend it, and together we’ll take on the world (or just a small community of like-minded humans who wanna hang out, get creative, be themselves and dance 🪩 )
Thanks for listening to my Grief Talk!
Big hugs xo
Jeanelle
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