07/13/2022
No one.
Not the other moms.
Not the wealthy ones.
Not the therapists.
Not even the Instagram influencers.
No one.
That illusion that someone else has a clean home, is doing all of the things, never makes mistakes, can juggle competing priorities, has perfect relationships, the perfect life, does not exist.
Here is what I know to be true: Each and every single one of us is doing our best, and we are flawed and messy humans. Sometimes we can pick a bomb outfit and talk a good game, but we are all imperfectly human.
I truly think that if we all started normalizing the existence of hard things, we wouldn’t beat ourselves up believing that others have it so easy.
So, here’s a little helpful prompt: every time you find yourself wondering about how perfect someone else’s life is, or how easy things come to others, I want you to begin some imaginary wondering with this phrase: “the story I’m telling myself about their life is that…” and then offer yourself some much needed grace: “what I know to be true is that no one has it all together”.
Does offering yourself this experience in the moment fix everything? He’ll no, but with repeated practice, if begins to shift our daily experience into one of self trust versus self blame; nothing is wrong with you when something feels hard.
