12/23/2025
Giving the Gift of Yourself
Do you know someone who is grieving and not sure how to help? Being there for them with an offer of your time, help, support and compassion may be the best gift you ever give.
Sometimes, it’s hard to know how to help. You want to be supportive, but you don’t want to be intrusive or say the wrong thing. Don’t let your hesitation or discomfort prevent you from reaching out to a friend or loved one. They need your support during this life-changing time – to lend a hand, offer a tissue or a loving embrace – and let them know they are not alone.
Practical ways to help:
• Listen. Don’t feel the need to talk, interject or solve their problems. Give them space to express themselves and lead the discussion.
• Offer to help with household tasks such as cleaning, picking up children, mowing the lawn, shovelling the snow, grocery shopping or meal preparation. Don’t say, “Call me if you need anything.” Make the offer first.
• Acknowledge their loss and validate the feelings they are experiencing. Talk about the death and their beloved.
• Prepare a ‘care package’ containing comfort food, a blanket, a scented candle and a journal to express their thoughts.
• Remember to keep in contact. Let them know you are thinking about them even if it’s a quick text or phone call.
• Offer to drive them to appointment or go with them to a support meeting.
• Invite them to go for a walk, have dinner or go to a movie. Maybe, sit beside them and do an activity such as a jigsaw puzzle.
There are many ways to give the gift of yourself to others in need. Always remember, those on the receiving end will be forever grateful for your companionship at their time of need.
© Wojcik’s Funeral Chapel/CFHC Online
