10/06/2022
Let’s talk about the impact bullying can have on us as adults. First, as adults there’s this idea that we’re just supposed to “get over” and “move on” from bullying we experienced. Bullying, in any form can impact us throughout our lifetime. But research shows is that being bullied in our childhood, especially when we are still in the process of developing our personalities & the way we see the world can have long lasting effects on our adulthood. Childhood bullying can be traumatic & it can impact the way we see ourselves and the world.
I want to remind you that the thing that once kept you safe is no longer what you need, even though it may be hard to reverse, it is possible. Here are some ways:
1. Avoid social isolation & hyperindependence when possible. Build a community if you do not already have one, and allow your support system to actually support you rather than needing to do everything on your own. baby steps!
2. Try to practice staying present in the moment. You may experience emotional flashbacks, but it is important to label them and remind yourself that you are in a different place now & will cope in a different way.
3. I’m not the biggest fan of CBT, but I think in this scenario, recognizing your thought patterns as well as any cognitive distortions (black & white thinking, fortune telling etc) can be helpful. I’m not asking you to challenge your thoughts, but instead be aware of what your mind is telling you.
4. Learn how to regulate your emotions & self-soothe when you get triggered. I have many examples of this on my page.
One more note- I don’t love finding the positivity in all negative experiences because sometimes they just hurt. But, research shows up that being bullied builds inner-strength, self reliance & trust, resilience, empathy & compassion.
