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11/22/2025

The Art Of Partnership: 6 Ways To Be On The Same Team When You’re Totally Different People

By Stu Gray

When two people come together with different personalities and perspectives, it might seem like a recipe for conflict. But the truth is, some of the strongest partnerships are built between people who see the world through completely different lenses.

Whether you're navigating a romantic relationship, a business partnership, or a deep friendship, the ability to celebrate differences is what separates partnerships that survive from those that genuinely thrive. Being on the same team means respecting your unique strengths and choosing to move forward as a unit.

Here are six ways to be on the same team when you’re totally different people:

Opposites don't have to clash; they can complement.

11/21/2025

Anxious People Who Eventually Find True Inner Peace Do These 7 Things To Find A Happier Inner Self

By Moreah Vestan

We're all very human. Sometimes we have stress and want to ease our heart, mind, and body. If we believe it's doable to go there, guess what? We can! Here's how.

Anxious people who eventually find true inner peace do these 7 things to find a happier inner self
1. They do regular check-ins ... with themselves
I believe everything we do is meant to meet a need of ours, whether we're in touch with that or not. So checking in is the most important step to inner and outer harmony.

Set your timer to 30 or 60 minutes; the more out of sync and unconnected you feel, the longer time you may need. Ask, "What need am I wanting to meet right now?" This can be an accomplishment, comfort, support, consistency, integrity, or many other needs that all humans share.

Recently, I found myself feeling inner resistance as I sat at my desk. I wasn't sure why I was restless. Only when I stopped to ask myself what I was missing, wanting, or needing did I identify that I had a strong need to feel free!

When I stopped working on what was a "should" and identified what felt rewarding, my resistance was gone. I know we don't always get to do whatever we feel like at any given moment, but even if I had committed to handling that "should," I could connect with my pleasure when I got to the place of completion.

If my check-in reveals that I'm needing calmness, I'm likely to take a 15-minute nap or walk around the block, meditate, or read quotes I like. If instead, I crave accomplishment and am feeling scattered, I focus on the one most important task I've been working on and commit to completing it.

The happiest people don't wait for all that stress to build up.

11/20/2025

Needy People Almost Always Say These 11 Phrases When They Feel Insecure
By Marielisa Reyes

After a particularly rough day at work or just life in general, people want a bit of comfort and words of encouragement, both of which can make all the difference in the world. But for those who are extra needy and suffer from low self-esteem, they may ask friends or their partner if they're mad at them or wonder why they didn't text back. Unfortunately, needy people almost always say these phrases when they feel insecure.

For those who are overly dependent on others, uttering these words often can be a sign of deep insecurity in themselves. Whether it's with a partner or a loved one, depending on others to make yourself feel better isn't just unhealthy, it's truly toxic. It's important to be mindful of the language you use when you're feeling down on yourself, as seeking validation outside of yourself never does any good.

Needy people almost always say these 11 phrases when they feel insecure

They're looking for validation and acceptance in all the wrong ways.

11/19/2025

Mom Of A Boy Bullied For Being Gay Shares 9 Ways Parents Can Help Stop Anti-LGBTQ Bullying
By Lisa A. Goldstein

“Move it, gay boy!” a classmate told my 14-year-old son as he walked up the middle school stairway. Another kid told his lunch table, as a joke, that he was dating my son. And yet another insisted to my son that being gay is a choice.

Kids like my son are far from alone when it comes to their experiences with bullying in schools. LGBTQ youth are bullied every day as they simply try to get an education in a place they're supposed to feel safe.

What would you do if your kid were the one being bullied, or if you knew your kid was the one being a bully to other children? After all, it's up to parents to learn how to stop bullying and teach kids to treat their fellow humans with dignity and respect.

Mom of a boy bullied for being gay shares 9 ways all parents can help stop anti-LGBTQ bullying:

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Your kids will hear homophobic slurs and hate speech and they need to know how to respond.

11/18/2025

7 Signs You Have Passed Your Soul's Most Painful Test
By Chris Mattice

The breaking point that wasn’t the end. For those of us who have grown through something that felt like the end, the heartbreak that felt like it shattered our lives, the loss that stole our breath, the moment others look at us and say, I do not know how you survived that, you will understand what I am about to share. There was a weekend when everything in my life collided and then imploded. My relationship, my work, my sense of purpose, all of it crumbled in a way that forced me to look inward and admit something I had avoided for years. I was the common denominator in every storm. At first, I could not believe I was going through something so hard again. It felt unfair, relentless. But that collapse became my awakening. Because what I came to realize is that every ending that feels unbearable is also a mirror, reflecting the exact lessons the soul has been trying to teach us all along.

If you are in that place right now, where your world feels unrecognizable, I want you to know that this is not your ending. It is a beautiful beginning. Someone, somewhere, believed you were ready for this level of transformation. I know you may not see it just yet, but I needed these words not so long ago, and I want you to hear them. The soul does not send you lessons to break you. It sends them to prepare you for the life you have been asking for. You are being refined, not ruined. The pain you are feeling is the heat of your becoming. In that collapse, I learned that growth is not clean. It is sacred chaos. It is the soul doing whatever it must to bring us back into alignment with who we really are. Healing is not about becoming someone new. It is about remembering who you have always been beneath the conditioning. Sometimes the most divine beginnings arrive disguised as loss, and sometimes, it takes everything falling apart to realize you were never broken at all.

Here are 7 signs you have passed your soul’s most painful test:

You'll know your soul passed the test when peace stops feeling like numbness and starts feeling like freedom.

11/17/2025

The Art Of Healing: Renowned Psychologist Explains How To Keep A Broken Heart From Consuming Your Whole Life
By NyRee Ausler

Breakups are one of the most painful experiences you can have in life, especially when you expect the relationship to last forever. It can take months or even years to finally move past the heartbreak you feel from the separation.

There are no shortcuts or even objectively right and wrong ways to heal and move on with your life, but according to world-famous psychologist Guy Winch, there is something you can do to recover after having your heart broken.

Research found that experiencing a breakup was associated with significant increases in psychological distress and declines in life satisfaction, particularly for those who had been cohabiting or had plans for marriage. It can take months or even years to finally move past the heartbreak you feel from the separation.

In a video uploaded to the TED Talks TikTok account in late 2022, Guy explains that “our hearts might sometimes be broken, but we don’t have to break with them.” Here's what Dr. Winch says is the key to not letting a broken heart break us.

The 2017 TED Talk entitled “How to fix a broken heart” started with Winch telling viewers that “Getting over heartbreak is not a journey. It’s a fight and your reason is your strongest weapon”. He went on to say that no explanation for the breakup will satisfy you.

According to Winch, no rationale will ease your pain, so looking for one is a waste of time. If you happen to be looking for something that gives you closure, he offers two ways of making it make sense to yourself.

@ confidence

A leading psychologist shares the secret steps to healing after heartbreak.

11/16/2025

Women Really Are More Anxious Than Men — But There's A Really Good Reason Why
Hint: It’s not hormones or hysteria.
By Maria Cassano

If you’ve read my articles, you probably know I’m not a huge fan of the way doctors treat women — but it used to be a lot worse. Historically, physicians believed that our uteruses floated around our bodies, pressing on our organs and making us insane. Others blamed our toxic period blood, and men’s semen (which supposedly had “healing properties”) was the antidote.

Sigmund Freud thought women went nuts because they were distraught over not being men. (He conveniently overlooked the fact that many of his female patients were abused by family members as children.) Freud’s prescribed treatment? Be intimate with a man and give birth to baby boys.

Brilliant! Nothing says “scientific breakthrough” like yet another man who thinks the world revolves around them. As of 1980, “hysterical neurosis” is no longer a medically recognized diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

But people still find ample ways to call women crazy. Drama queen, hormonal, hot mess, unhinged, psycho ex-girlfriend, crazy cat lady, irrational, emotional, needy, clingy, moody, uptight, neurotic, the list goes on.

As a woman who’s healed from a dissociative disorder, I often write about women’s mental health. Without fail, a man (or several men) in my comments section simply must remind me that “Statistically, women are way more anxious than men” — as if that discredits all of our grievances.

Turns out, there's actually a really good reason women are more anxious than men.

Hint: It’s not hormones or hysteria.

11/15/2025

We All Need A Place For The Tears We Shed Through The Years
Mine is the Deschutes River and the canyon it carves.
By Ryan Chin

Asphalt turns to gravel; the washboard rumble is the cue — slow down and feel it all. How many miles have I driven with the Deschutes River out my window? How many tears have I shed here? For almost 20 years, this river and canyon have guided me through miscarriages, parenthood, divorce, breakups, and the loss of my Dad.

Fresh off a trip to Chicago to visit family, and after a talk with my ex-girlfriend this morning, my heart aches. Dad is in his last months. He’s bedridden, skin and bones, and doesn’t recognize me. Unlike too many people I know, I don’t have trauma caused by my Dad. I don’t have to forgive him; I will only miss him.

It’s time, Dad.

Mine is the Deschutes River and the canyon it carves.

11/14/2025

The Art Of No Regrets: 5 Simple Habits Of People Who Live Fully And Let Go Easily
By Mitzi Bockmann

Letting go of regrets is harder than it seems. We wish we could just be free of them, to learn any lessons that stand to be learned, and then move on and grow. The regrets we often want to be rid of are the ones that give you a pit in your stomach when you think about them — choices that you did or didn’t make.

Regrets can be hard to live with. They make you think about the way your life could have been if only you'd gone a different direction. And, unfortunately, regrets can keep us mired in the past instead of living in the now and seeing the potential of the future.

Here are 5 simple habits of people who live fully and let go easily:

People who live with no regrets don't have perfect lives — they just have powerful habits.

11/06/2025

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