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- You're working to be more peaceful as a parent and you want more support.
- You want to yell less and connect more.

My father used to punish my mother with silence.He’d stop eating. Stop talking.Call it a “strike.”The result?Three stent...
23/10/2025

My father used to punish my mother with silence.
He’d stop eating. Stop talking.
Call it a “strike.”

The result?
Three stents in his heart.

I did the same in my twenties.
Didn’t eat. Didn’t speak.
Just said, “I’m fine.”

Result: gastritis.

Years later, when my daughter grew up, I realized something brutal —
she was copying me.
Same cold face. Same silence.

That’s when I stopped.
Stopped pretending.
Stopped acting strong.
Started talking.

My daughter is healthy.
Every camp paper says:
“No health issues.”

Here’s the truth no one likes to hear:

Silence is not strength.
It’s pride dressed as control.
It’s the body paying for what the mouth refuses to say.

- You can call it self-discipline.
- You can call it being private.
But your body knows when you’re lying.

Most professionals I meet —
smart, successful, exhausted —
are doing the same thing.
Building perfect lives while slowly killing their truth.

They drink to relax.
They scroll to forget.
They smile to survive.

And then they wonder why their life feels like someone else’s.

My wake-up call?

Real strength is not “holding it together.”
Real strength is saying, “This is not working.”
Real strength is breaking the silence before it breaks your body.

If you feel trapped in a version of success that’s making you sick,
this is your permission slip:
Stop performing.
Start talking.

You are going to be different.
Let that happen.
Can you feel that?

P.S.
Taken in Luzern, 2014 — my father and my daughter.
Three hearts, one story.
The difference is: mine finally learned to speak.

There was a time when I couldn’t walk into a room without armor.It didn’t matter if it was a mastermind session, a strat...
20/10/2025

There was a time when I couldn’t walk into a room without armor.

It didn’t matter if it was a mastermind session, a strategy call, or coffee with a colleague — the moment someone shared their method or insight, I felt a silent inner shift.

That itch.

That need to step in.

To one-up.

To prove that my way was more effective, faster, dieeper.

And so I did — politely, of course. But make no mistake, I was at war. Not with them… with me. My worth was on trial in every conversation, and I was both defendant and prosecutor.

Each interaction left me hollowed out. Not because I didn’t belong, but because I was hustling for a verdict that was never coming.

Wasn’t my value obvious yet? Didn’t they see what I had overcome, built, created?

But here’s what I learned the hard way:

The people who know their value don’t need to prove it.

Their energy does the talking.
Their silence? Power.
Their “no”? Sacred.

Sound familiar?

If you’re navigating career change, or simply hunting for work that feels right — you may know this loop intimately.

It’s the “prove-yourself” trap.

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation exhausted — not from the topic, but from the tension of needing to be seen — you know this trap well.

It’s the “prove yourself” loop.

It spins fast.
It drains faster.

But there’s a quieter path.

A path that doesn’t require debate, only trust. A path where your presence is enough — where your method doesn’t need a podium, because it already has results.

Here’s how I found my way out:

1. Notice the “yes” that isn’t real.

If you feel that subtle spike of anxiety when someone questions your approach, pause. That impulse to jump in, to explain — it’s not clarity. It’s a trauma echo.

2. Wait.

Just… wait. Don’t reply right away. Let silence become your ally. When you stop filling the space, truth rushes in.

3. Let your body decide.

If it’s not a full-bodied “yes”? Don’t say yes. Not out of fear. Not to look smart. Not to protect your reputation. If your gut isn’t grounded… opt out.

I still love deep convrsations. I still believe in healthy debate. But now I don’t come with armor — I come with openness. And when someone challenges my view?

I smile. And sometimes… I say nothing at all.
I let silence be my boundary.

Because I no longer need to win the room.

My energy is better spent building the work that proves itself.

The dare?

Don’t defend your worth in every room.
Save your brilliance for the spaces that honor it.

So tell me… do you still have that need of proving?

At work?
In love?
Online?

Can you find something that would change if you stopped?

There’s so much BS coaching advice on productivity.But these are the TOP 9 Worst — through the lens of Human Design:1) “...
19/10/2025

There’s so much BS coaching advice on productivity.

But these are the TOP 9 Worst — through the lens of Human Design:

1) “Wake up early and crush the day.”
→ That’s your Head (Inspiration) Center trying to solve everyone’s questions but your own.
You don’t need more ideas — you need quiet so the right one can land.

2) “You just need to focus harder.”
→ That’s the Ajna (Clarity) Center pretending it needs to be certain before moving.
Real clarity doesn’t come from thinking — it comes from waiting for the right recognition or response.

3)) “Confidence is is everything.”
→ That’s your Throat (Expression) Center forcing output.
You don’t need to “sound confident.” You need to speak when the energy is actually there to be heard.

4) “You have to keep your energy high.”
→ That’s the G (Identity) Center chasing a fixed sense of direction.
You’re not lost — you’re evolving. Direction isn’t found by forcing movement; it’s revealed through alignment.

5) “Just prove them wrong.”
→ That’s the Ego (Worth) Center trying to earn value through willpower.
You don’t have to prove anything. Value doesn’t need validation.

6) “Always be consistent.”
→ That’s the Sacral (Energy) Center saying yes to what drains you just to look reliable.
True consistency comes from energy that’s alive — not forced.

7) “Don’t let emotions get in the way.”
→ That’s the Solar Plexus (Emotion) Center avoiding its own waves.
You don’t need to be fast. You need to be clear.

8) “Push through the pressure.”
→ That’s the Root (Drive) Center in survival mode.
The rush isn’t productivity — it’s panic disguised as progress.

9)” Stick with what’s working.”
→ That’s the Spleen (Instinct) Center clinging to comfort.
Safety isn’t the same as alignment.



Real productivity isn’tt about control.
It’s about trust.

P.S.
This photo — me pointing toward the Sun — isn’t random.
In Human Design Psychology, the Sun represents about 70% of who you are.

It’s the core frequency that fuels your entire chart — your life force, your creative expression, your purpose.

When you align with that solar energy, you stop chasing artificial light.
You simply shine where you’re designed to shine.

I believed a lie. Maybe you do too...Push harder.Say yes to everything.Sacrifice for your kids, your career, your family...
02/10/2025

I believed a lie. Maybe you do too...

Push harder.
Say yes to everything.
Sacrifice for your kids, your career, your family.
Someday, it’ll all balance out.

A dear friend of mine is living this story right now.

She’s always exhausted.
Working long hours.
Saying yes to everyone.
Two kids at home who miss her presence.
Her body’s screaming. Her soul’s whispering.

And the prescription?
“Try therapy. It’s covered by health insurance.”

But therapy can’t replace rest.
It can’t set boundaries.
It can’t refill a soul that’s being drained dry by default.
And it certainly can’t explain that you’re an emotional being — riding powerful moods and waves — with a Solar Plexus unconsciously defined.

She keeps whispering, “I’ll take care of myself someday.”
But someday doesn’t have a calendar date.

Here’s what I’ve learned (the hard way):

At 28, I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis.
My body forced me to slow down.
It was either change… or collapse.

Now, at 45, I’m healthier than ever.
I play 90-minute football games every week.
And every time I take out my racing bike, I ride arround 50 km.
Not because I found a miracle cure — but because I stopped betraying myself for every “yes” I thought I owed the world.

Your body doesn’t run on “someday.”
It runs on truth. On alignment. On decisions that feel like full-bodied YESes.

When your yes is honest, your energy flows like a river.
When it’s forced?
That river dries up — fast.

I used to drain my life force chasing expectations.
Success, milestones, being everything for everyone.

It cost me... deeply.
I was a ghost for years.

Nothing changed until I did.

Now?
I wait for clarity.
I honor my energy like it’s sacred (because it is).
I define my enough.

And I protect it — like gold.

Because I want to be fully here for my life.
Not half-present, half-alive, and wholly depleted.

If this resonates… you’re not alone.
You’re not broken.
You’re just ready to live in alignment with yourself.

Your tea goes cold.Your cursor blinks.The pros & cons list is finished.And you’re still stuck.Everyone Thinks Career Suc...
26/09/2025

Your tea goes cold.
Your cursor blinks.
The pros & cons list is finished.
And you’re still stuck.

Everyone Thinks Career Success Comes From Logic. It Doesn’t.

Wednesday night usually means Foster’s lagers and laughter with your best friend.
The bar is noisy — the kind of noisy that feels alive.
Glasses clink, the smell of fried food drifts past, and a song you both know plays too loud over the speakers.

But tonight you’re not out.
Tonight you’re home.
Alone.

Instead of chatting, you’re staring at the glow of your laptop.
A half-finished cup of fresh mint tea cools on the table beside you.
The spreadsheet is open again.
Columns of “pros” and “cons” blur under your tired eyes.

You rub your temples.
Tap the pen against the page.
Scroll through yet another scenario.

“Should I take it?” you mutter. “Or will I regret it?”

The playlist hums softly from your speaker, the cursor blinks, and still—no clarity. Just the storm in your head.

Most professionals do this.
They overthink their next career step.
They build spreadsheets, pros & cons lists, endless scenarios.

But here’s the problem:
The mind is great at solving math.
It’s terrible at giving direction.
It creates confusion, not clarity.

A better way?
When you’re stuck in mental loops, don’t try to think harder. Ask someone you trust, a friend, a colleague, a mentor, to walk you through the decision.

Let them ask you simple questions:

- Do I see myself doing this with real energy?
- Your body in laughing when you imagine saying “yes”?
- Are you sad when you imagine saying “no”?
- Does this give me a full-body "yes"?

Pay attention to your response — not your words, but your breath, your posture, your energy.
Does it expand or contract? Does it rise or drain?

That’s feedback. That’s your compass.

So here’s the action:
Next time you plan a career move, don’t just ask:
“Does this make sense?”
Ask:
“Does this give me the energy to keep going?
Will it drain me after a half o year?”

Because the right path isn’t the one that looks perfect on paper.
It’s the one your whole body can stand behind.

My dare:
Stop forcing clarity in your head.
Let someone help you listen to your energy.
That’s how you build a career that actually fits.

You Don’t Have to Fight Someone Else’s WarWhen the war in Ukraine began, my days filled with smoke.Not real smoke — but ...
17/09/2025

You Don’t Have to Fight Someone Else’s War

When the war in Ukraine began, my days filled with smoke.

Not real smoke — but the kind that comes from endless scrolling.
Telegram. LinkedIn. News alerts that stung like metal in my mouth.

Coffee tasted flat. Sleep slipped away.
My jaw clenched until it ached.

At the office I shared with three women, Ruth noticed.
She was a seasoned coach, calm as oak. She was Ruth Wenger.
Her name was the first one on the door outside, mine the last.
While others passed by, she looked directly at me:
“Where are your parents now? How close are they to the war zone?”

Her question went straight to the wound.

I was ready to fight.
With a rifle, or inside my chest.
Every headline lit the fire higher.
I walked like a soldier waiting for orders.

Ruth invited me into a session.
I sat in the same room where I usually welcomed clients —
but this time, I was the one speaking.

Words spilled out: Putin, soldiers, injustice, fear.
She let me pour it all until the storm thinned.

Then she said quietly:
“You don’t have access to the whole truth.
And this isn’t your war.”

Her words cut the fog.

I realized the rage wasn’t only about today.
It was older — ancestral grief, stories from my grandmother,
unresolved rage carried forward.

My warrior energy had grabbed a battle that wasn’t mine to fight.

And then Ruth gave me the sentence I’ll never forget:
“Alex, you deserve to live in peace.”

The air changed.
The radiator’s click sounded softer.
My jaw loosened.
For the first time in weeks, my body remembered safety.

Here’s the truth I carried away:
Not every fight is yours.
Not every surge of fury needs a battlefield.
Some of us try to find ourselves through the fight —
testing, failing, adapting, chasing identity in crisis.

Some of us try to prove our worth through struggle —
pushing harder, selling louder, carrying wars that aren’t ours.

Both patterns lead to exhaustion, not peace.

If you find yourself consumed by battles you can’t win, try this:

Notice your body: chest tight, teeth clenched, hands restless?
Ask: “Is this mine, or is it old grief I’m carrying?”
Find a witness: a friend, a coach, a steady listener who won’t fuel the fire.
Not every war belongs to you.
Sometimes the bravest act is to stop proving, stop carrying, and choose peace.

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You’re Not Procrastinating — You’re ProcessingEmotional clarity doesn’t arrive on a calendar invite.For most of my caree...
13/09/2025

You’re Not Procrastinating — You’re Processing

Emotional clarity doesn’t arrive on a calendar invite.

For most of my career, I believed quick decisions meant strength.
In school, in corporate IT and project management, even at home — the faster the answer, the better. Or so I thought.

But life had other plans.

At 28, my body forced me into a pause. Seven days in a psychiatric clinic shattered the illusion that I could just “push through.” I came out searching for answers in: bee honey and venom, acupuncture, emotional workshops, traditional medicine, Amazonian herbs. Slowly, my health returned.

Years later, fatherhood deepened that pause. Staying home with my daughters meant slowing down in ways my old self never would have tolerated.

And then, in 2022, I discovered something that finally explained it all: my timing was never broken. It was personal.

The Problem Most Professionals Face

So many talented people I work with carry the same story:

- They call themselves procrastinators.
- They’re praised for speed in meetings — but privately, they feel paralyzed.
- Pressure mounts, bosses want instant clarity, and inside, they just don’t know.

They think something’s wrong with them.

The Truth About “Not Deciding Yet”

Do you want to interrupt the patern?
Here’s the reframe: you’re not procrastinating — you’re processing.

Your timing doesn’t always line up with the world’s deadlines. That doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human.

And when you honor that timing, something shifts:

Decisions land with certainty instead of doubt.

You stop burning energy second-guessing yourself.

Trust in yourself returns.

Waiting is not weakness. Waiting is wisdom.

A Practical First Step

Next time you feel stuck in a decision, try this:

1. Name the pressure. Say to yourself: “I don’t need to know yet.”
2. Buy yourself time. Even one night of sleep can make the difference. Not possible? Steal a break for going at the toilet or for a coffee. Say that you will answer in 30 / 45 / 55 minutes.
3. Notice what changes. Often, clarity arrives when you stop forcing it.

Where This Can Take You

This is the heart of what I teach in my Immersion HD Workshop and coaching practice. It’s not another productivity hack. It’s a way of restoring trust in your own process, learning to work with your energy instead of against it, and finally experiencing what it feels like to move from frustration to real satisfaction.

So let me ask you this:

It happened to you not deciding yet turned out to be the smartest move you made?

If this resonates, DM me. Your pause might just be the beginning of your breakthrough.

Stop hacking productivity. Ready to discover how your real energy is flowing?

PS:
This morning, I came back from the Saturday local market with my daughter. We sat down on the way home, taking a break to enjoy fresh blackberries.

In 2003, I was just a young guy sitting in a quiet corner of the University of Mathematics, utterly lost.You’d think som...
08/09/2025

In 2003, I was just a young guy sitting in a quiet corner of the University of Mathematics, utterly lost.

You’d think someone drawn to math would crave clarity — formulas, precision, clean lines. But I was suffocating in uncertainty. Differential equations felt like a cruel puzzle designed to expose just how confused I really was. And I didn’t want anyone to see that.

Most nights, I sat alone with my notes, cracked open a bottle of Fanta, and tried to trick my brain into feeling something like control. I wasn’t excelling. I was trying to survive. To prove I had the right to be there — to be anywhere, really.

And it wasn’t just the academics.

There was this constant low hum under everything — a feeling that I had to earn my worth, perform my value, or I might disappear entirely.

I didn’t have the language for it back then. I just knew something felt off.

Fast forward to the day I found Human Design... and the moment I learned about the Ego Center. It felt like someone cracked open a window and let fresh air in.

See, most people hear “ego” and flinch. They think... arrogance, pride, selfishness.

But this center? It’s not about any of that.

It’s about willpower. Promises. Value. It’s about the material plane — resources, commitments, and the quiet truth of self-worth. Not the loud kind. Not the kind that needs applause. The kind you carry deep in your bones.

Here’s what I’ve seen in my work:

If you have a defined Ego Center, you probably don’t understand why others need constant reassurance. Your willpower is steady. Your sense of value is consistent. But that doesn’t mean you don’t face challenges. Sometimes it makes it hard to ask for help, or to see how deeply others struggle with self-worth.

If your Ego Center is undefined, it can feel like you’re on a treadmill of proving. Achieving. Hustling for approval. But the truth is, you’re not here to prove anything. You’re not here to make promises you can’t keep. You’re here to recognize when you’re amplifying someone else’s willpower — and to let go of the endless proving game.

And this is the real teaching:

The Ego isn’t about domination. It isn’t about power over others. In its correct expression, it’s about clean bargains, clear commitments, and resources that sustain the tribe.

So what does this center ask of us?

It asks us to stop bargaining for our worth.
To honor the promises we can keep — and release the ones we can’t.
To trust that love isn’t earned through performance.

I don’t speak from theory. I’ve tested it. I’ve lived it.
Here’s what actually works:

The Ego Center isn’t about puffing yourself up.
It’s about resting in the worth that’s already there.
It’s about power within — the kind that doesn’t collapse in the face of silence or rejection.

This isn’t a sales pitch.

This is just one human talking to another... telling you what I wish someone had told me back in that Fanta-stained dorm room.

You don’t have to prove anything anymore.

You are already enough.

When the Spirit Feels Low (Gate 55)These last few days, I haven’t felt like posting.The energy to share wasn’t there.And...
01/09/2025

When the Spirit Feels Low (Gate 55)

These last few days, I haven’t felt like posting.
The energy to share wasn’t there.
And instead of forcing myself, I let the silence be.

In Human Design, my Personality Sun is in Gate 55 — The Gate of Spirit.
It’s the central frequency I radiate into the world. And the truth about this gate is: the spirit moves in rhythms.

Sometimes it’s high, expressive, abundant.
Sometimes it drops low, heavy with melancholy.

That’s not a mistake.
That’s the wave of the Solar Plexus.
And Gate 55 carries it in its purest form.

This week I was watching a Disney+ documentary about the ancient stones in England — circles of stone and wood, built to align with the Sun on solstices. Those cultures understood that life itself is cyclical: light rises, light falls, and both phases matter.

My inner spirit is like that too.
Sometimes radiant like summer solstice, sometimes dark like winter solstice.
Both sacred. Both creative.

So if you also feel those dips in confidence, those days when you don’t want to show up — maybe you’re not broken.
Maybe you’re just living the rhythm of your own Sun.

Human Design Psychology insight:
Gate 55 teaches us that melancholy is not a flaw — it’s the soil of future creativity. The silence itself is fertile.

So if you’ve felt those inner low-tides… if your voice has gone quiet lately…

Here’s my invitation:

Don’t fight it.
Don’t fix it.
Instead — observe it.

The truth is: when your spirit drops… you’re not broken.
You’re being shown a rhythm deeper than motivation, louder than hustle.

And maybe—just maybe—it’s time to start the experiment of truly knowing yourself.

So. Question now:
When your spirit drops,
will you fight it,
or finally start the experiment of knowing yourself?

Photo by Nik / Unsplash

Why I Quit Music (and What It Taught Me About Passion)10 years ago, I stopped doing something most people can’t imagine:...
28/08/2025

Why I Quit Music (and What It Taught Me About Passion)

10 years ago, I stopped doing something most people can’t imagine:
I quit listening to music in my headphones.

Instead, I filled my ears with something else:

- Psychology deep dives
- Human Design teachings
- I’Ching wisdom
- Cycles like the Uranus opposition or Saturn return.

It wasn’t a decision I announced — it just happened. My curiosity pulled me in, and soon every walk, commute, or quiet moment was an immersion in this world.

But here’s the funny part.

When I met friends in Zurich and ended up at concerts, I felt a little ashamed.
Everyone around me knew the lyrics, the songs, the singers.
And I… had no clue. Not even able to pronounce corect the name of the Band. Not even knowing the origin country of the band.

For a while, it made me feel out of place. Like I had traded something cultural and fun for something obscure and “too serious”, not fun at all.

But then I realized: this is what passion looks like.
My satisfaction was there.

When you’re lit up by something, you follow it. Even if it makes you weird. Even if it means you don’t fit into every conversation. Even if it makes you stand out.

That’s the gift. That’s what makes life meaningful.

Writing on LinkedIn works the same way.

If it feels boring, maybe you haven’t found your version of “podcast” yet.

Maybe you are searching for work or just inspiration.
To make writing here feel alive:

- Follow your obsession (even if others don’t get it).
- Lean into your difference.
- Trust that the right people will connect with it.

That’s how something that feels like “work” becomes something you can’t imagine not doing.

And no, I still can’t pronounce correctly the name of that band from Zurich — but I can explain why also a Generator and a Projector can be true leaders.

This is just the beginning. Tomorrow, I’ll share why so many of my clients tell me they start earning more money after coming to my meetings… and which parts of your design you should highlight if you want to do the same.

Ps:
Photo: Ruxi Balea

They usually say no.And honestly, I get it.Most of my ideas—especially ones that involve leaving the house for hours—don...
25/08/2025

They usually say no.
And honestly, I get it.

Most of my ideas—especially ones that involve leaving the house for hours—don’t land well with my daughters (13 and 7).

But Sunday was different.
I asked them a question I didn’t expect them to say yes to:

“Do you want to walk through the Sihl-Stollen tunnel with me?”

It was opening day of Zurich’s new 2 km flood relief tunnel—a civil engineering marvel that won’t be open for visits forever.
They looked at me. Paused. And said…

Yes.

And that yes changed everything.

As we walked through the tunnel, something sparked. Their curiosity lit up the darkness. They weren’t being pulled along—they were choosing to be there. And that choice made the whole experience magical.

That moment reminded me of something I teach professionals in my work:

When people say yes from a place of clarity—not pressure—everything shifts.

They show up fully.
They engage.
They lead with energy, not obligation.

It’s something I see again and again in my Human Design Psychology work:
Some of us are wired to respond, not initiate. You and I both know how is to wait for the moment that feels aligned… and then go all in.

And when we do, it’s not just satisfying—it’s powerful.

That tunnel was built to hold back the floods.
Our true yeses do the same: they hold back the frustration and exhaustion that come from saying yes to the wrong things.

If this resonated, I’d love to offer you a gift:

A free PDF showing your unique Design—your personal energetic blueprint.

Just send me your birth date, time, and place, and I’ll send it over.

Let’s find your yes.
Let’s walk that tunnel together.

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