Golden Green Coaching

14/11/2025

This 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗱.
𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲’𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝗹𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

High achievers don’t struggle to care.
They struggle to stop caring about everything.

This weekend, maybe success looks like:

→ not replying right away
→ not fixing what no one asked you to fix
→ remembering that the world keeps turning — even when you rest

Because the strongest version of you
doesn’t carry it all.
She carries wisely.

This is the third in a 5-part series on unlearning the responsibility that was never yours to carry.

💭 What’s one small thing you’re not taking responsibility for this weekend?

🧭 Subscribe to 𝗔𝗺𝗯𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗪𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗘𝘅𝗵𝗮𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 on my LinkedIn profile for strategies that help you reclaim calm without losing your edge.

12/11/2025

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝗹.
𝗜𝘁 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀.

For years, you confused pressure with purpose.
Doing more felt safer than pausing.
And rest? It felt like giving up.

But what if the next version of you doesn't need more control — just more capacity?

This week's issue of 𝘼𝙢𝙗𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙒𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙀𝙭𝙝𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 explores that awkward, liberating gap between the leader who over-functioned and the one learning to lead from peace.

→ 𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪'𝙫𝙚 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙬𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪'𝙧𝙚 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙤𝙣𝙚'𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪.

Read: 𝙍𝙚𝙙𝙚𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙍𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝗹. 𝗜𝘁 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗶...

05/11/2025

Spot on! Still, there should be something in between 🙂

Most people don’t run out of time—they run out of clarity. 💭
Think before you act, but act before you overthink. ⚡

03/11/2025

Somewhere along the way, emotional intelligence got confused with emotional labour,
and high achievers learned to hold everyone’s feelings except their own.

The critical distinction:

→ 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀.
You read the room. You notice what others feel. You stay calm in complexity.

→ 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗯𝘀𝗼𝗿𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
You manage the room. You soften the truth. You make peace at the expense of your presence.

💭 Where in your life are you using empathy to stay safe instead of connected?

💾 Save this post when you need permission to stop carrying what isn’t yours. 😽

03/11/2025

𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴.
𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗖𝗔𝗥𝗥𝗬𝗜𝗡𝗚.
Somewhere along the way, emotional intelligence got confused with emotional labour —
and high achievers learned to hold everyone’s feelings except their own.
The critical distinction:
→ Emotional intelligence is awareness.
You read the room. You notice what others feel. You stay calm in complexity.
→ Emotional labour is absorption.
You manage the room. You soften the truth. You make peace at the expense of your presence.
What over-carrying looks like daily:
1️⃣ You rewrite messages three times to sound “softer.”
2️⃣ You take on invisible work because you “sense” tension.
3️⃣ You keep the peace — even when it costs your clarity.
You call it professionalism.
Your body calls it over-adaptation.
The invisible weight:
→ You want to be helpful, not heavy.
→ You want to lead with empathy, not ego.
→ But beneath it all, you feel the quiet resentment of being unseen —..and you still don’t ask for help, because independence feels safer than being misunderstood.
Who you’ve become:
You’re the reliable one.
The steady one.
The one who “just knows” how to hold it all together.
You’re not resistant to support. You’re over-trained in self-containment.
It’s a protection pattern that once kept you safe… and now keeps you stuck.
Remember this:
Emotional intelligence is about awareness and choice. 🌱
Emotional labour is about responsibility without rest.
True leadership — and true kindness — begin when you can tell the difference.
💭 Where in your life are you using empathy to stay safe instead of connected?
💾 Save this post when you need permission to stop carrying what isn’t yours.

01/11/2025

From the first issue of Ambition Without Exhaustion:

“𝗛𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝘁𝗶𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗰𝗮𝗻’𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗹𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲.
They’re exhausted because their nervous system never got the memo
that it’s 𝘀𝗮𝗳𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗽.”

The white path between fences isn’t asking you to abandon your ambition.
It’s inviting you to remember that even your most brilliant mind
needs moments where it can 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 to create again.

☀️ When you step outside and feel the light,
your body remembers what constant performance makes you forget:

The door at the end of the path isn’t an exit from success.
It’s the entrance to a version of yourself that achieves 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 self-sacrifice.

💾 Save this for when hustle feels like the only option.
🧭 Follow for next week’s issue on reclaiming calm without losing your edge.

31/10/2025

𝗠𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 “𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁.”
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆’𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿-𝗮𝗱𝗮𝗽𝘁𝗲𝗱.

That means your system has learned to 𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗱𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝘀 𝘀𝗮𝗳𝗲𝘁𝘆.
You’ve mastered the art of staying functional. You do it even when you’re not fine.

Here are 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗯𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿-𝗮𝗱𝗮𝗽𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 that often get mistaken for “just being tired”.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲:
1️⃣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗱𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 but can’t remember the last time you felt present.
2️⃣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗮𝘆 “𝗜’𝗺 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗲” faster than you can check if it’s true.
3️⃣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁, but don’t feel rested.
4️⃣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗯𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲 wins quietly because slowing down to feel proud feels indulgent.
5️⃣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 in to-do lists, even during moments meant for joy.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲:
→ 𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝘂𝗻𝗲𝗮𝘀𝘆 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗶𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲.
Your body is used to waiting for the next demand.
Stillness feels like something must be wrong, not like something is finally right.
→ 𝗖𝗮𝗹𝗺 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝘀𝘂𝘀𝗽𝗶𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀.
When things slow down, your nervous system goes on alert.
Peace feels unfamiliar, so it reads as danger instead of safety.
→ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗻𝘂𝗺𝗯𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗲.
After too much stress, shutting down feels like relief.
But the quiet you feel isn’t calm, it’s your system on pause, trying to recover.
→ 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗮 𝗼𝗳 𝗹𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗮 𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝗳𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗱.
Control has become your form of safety.
Surrender feels like falling, even when you’re finally standing still.

𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴, so no one thinks to ask how you’re really doing.
You live in between the achiever who delivers
and the human who’s quietly running on empty.
And you’re not broken. You’re just over-trained in survival.

🌿 This is what we explore in my free newsletter Ambition Without Exhaustion — practical strategies for high performers who want to succeed without self-sacrifice.

💌 Subscribe via my LinkedIn profile and start your own nervous system reset.

31/10/2025

You’re not burned out because you’re weak.
You’re burned out because your system learned to stay “on” even when you needed rest.

High achievers don’t just overwork — they over-adapt.
They make exhaustion look like excellence and calm look like control.

But your body always keeps the score.
It remembers every time you pushed through instead of pausing.

The work now isn’t to do less.
It’s to relearn safety in stillness.
To let calm mean capacity, not complacency.

🌿 This is what we explore in my free newsletter Ambition Without Exhaustion — practical strategies for high performers who want to succeed without self-sacrifice.

💌 Subscribe via my LinkedIn profile and start your own nervous system reset.

31/10/2025

𝗠𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 “𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁.”
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆’𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿-𝗮𝗱𝗮𝗽𝘁𝗲𝗱.

That means your system has learned to 𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗱𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝘀 𝘀𝗮𝗳𝗲𝘁𝘆.
You’ve mastered the art of staying functional. You do it even when you’re not fine.

Here are 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗯𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿-𝗮𝗱𝗮𝗽𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 that often get mistaken for “just being tired”.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲:
1️⃣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗱𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 but can’t remember the last time you felt present.
2️⃣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗮𝘆 “𝗜’𝗺 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗲” faster than you can check if it’s true.
3️⃣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁, but don’t feel rested.
4️⃣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗯𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲 wins quietly because slowing down to feel proud feels indulgent.
5️⃣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 in to-do lists, even during moments meant for joy.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲:
→ 𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝘂𝗻𝗲𝗮𝘀𝘆 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗶𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲.
Your body is used to waiting for the next demand.
Stillness feels like something must be wrong, not like something is finally right.
→ 𝗖𝗮𝗹𝗺 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝘀𝘂𝘀𝗽𝗶𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀.
When things slow down, your nervous system goes on alert.
Peace feels unfamiliar, so it reads as danger instead of safety.
→ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗻𝘂𝗺𝗯𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗲.
After too much stress, shutting down feels like relief.
But the quiet you feel isn’t calm, it’s your system on pause, trying to recover.
→ 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗮 𝗼𝗳 𝗹𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗴𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗮 𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝗳𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗱.
Control has become your form of safety.
Surrender feels like falling, even when you’re finally standing still.

𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴, so no one thinks to ask how you’re really doing.
You live in between the achiever who delivers
and the human who’s quietly running on empty.
And you’re not broken. You’re just over-trained in survival.
Follow for tips on Ambition Without Exhaustion

27/10/2025

Ambition doesn’t have to cost your calm.
But for most high achievers, that’s exactly the trade we’ve been taught to make.

We don’t burn out because we care too little.
We burn out because we care too much —
and our nervous system never got the memo that it’s safe to rest.

If you’ve ever looked at your calendar and thought,
“I built this life — why does it feel like it’s running me?”
you’re not alone.

You’ve been trained to equate worth with output,
availability with reliability,
and exhaustion with excellence.
And you’ve done it beautifully.

You’ve succeeded in all the ways the world applauds — titles, trust, results —
but somehow, the noise got louder, not quieter.

💌 That’s why I created Ambition Without Exhaustion,
a new LinkedIn Newsletter for high performers ready to redefine success
without losing their drive — or their peace.

Each issue offers grounded insights on leadership energy, nervous system resets,
and sustainable ambition — so you can keep growing, without burning through yourself.

✨ Follow to receive the first issue in your feed.
Let’s make every week about resetting, not racing.

24/10/2025

It doesn’t happen all at once.
It’s rarely dramatic.
It’s slow — 𝗵𝗶𝗱𝗱𝗲𝗻 𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 “𝗻𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗹”.

You tell yourself you’re just tired.
That things will ease up after
this project,
this quarter,
this launch.

But here’s what’s really draining you:

→ 𝗠𝗶𝗰𝗿𝗼-𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 —
holding your shoulders just a bit too high for eight hours straight.
→ 𝗜𝗻𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗼𝗿 —
being the reliable one who “just handles it.”
→ 𝗖𝗼𝗴𝗻𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗹𝗼𝗮𝗱 —
solving problems that aren’t yours to solve.
→ 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗮𝗴𝗲 —
absorbing your team’s or family’s stress because you can.
→ 𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 —
performing calm while your nervous system is quietly in overdrive.

And you’re so good at functioning through it that no one notices.
Not even you
until your spark starts feeling dim.