23/10/2025
When You Stop Judging Yourself, Your Heart Starts to Speak
I know that voice.
The quiet, cutting one.
The one that whispers:
“You should have done better.”
Or: “Everyone else can do it – why can’t you?”
Self-judgment is an invisible thief of energy.
It doesn’t just drain you – it disconnects you from your heart.
I’ve learned that it’s easy to judge others.
But the truly destructive thing is when we turn that judgment on ourselves.
When we believe we must always be strong, perfect, good enough.
And when we fail, we pay twice:
once for the mistake – and once for the punishment we give ourselves.
That’s like paying compound interest on pain.
Most of us grew up in environments where love was tied to performance.
“Do it right, and you’ll be loved.”
That message runs deep – and it still whispers, even in our success.
But here’s the truth:
Self-judgment isn’t a virtue.
It’s a defense mechanism that’s outlived its purpose.
Now, when my inner critic shows up, I notice her.
And I tell her:
“Thank you for trying to protect me, but I don’t need you anymore.”
Then I breathe.
And I let the heart speak.
When you stop judging yourself, space appears –
space for curiosity, gentleness, and growth.
You begin to see yourself, not through the eyes of your past,
but through the awareness of your present.
That’s not avoiding responsibility.
It’s a return to self-respect.
A person who treats themselves kindly automatically becomes softer with the world.
That, I believe, is true heart intelligence.
💭 How do you deal with your inner critic?
What helps you to judge yourself less?
Share your thoughts – I’d love to hear your perspective.
