07/03/2026
Everytime you stay with an abusive man, you inch closer towards him murdering you!!!
Women need to know that they have to pay the price of staying too long in spaces they've outgrown; be it marriage, friendships, jobs and even family circles.
Most people have life backwards waiting for things to be perfect before acting. It won't yield anything, I've seen this one too many times with clients and even myself that I now know for a fact that you must learn to take a leap of faith before the universe steps in.
Your husband is abusive, leave at the first opportunity you get or you'll keep creating more space for the abuse to continue, he's dead weight, drop it.
Your friend(s) are unsupportive, drop them, you came into this life alone, your family is abusive, leave, the universe is your sugar mommy, it takes care of you the moment you decide to say yes to yourself at any given opportunity.
Learn to catch opportunities for growth in decays; dead marriages, dead friendships , dead relationships because it's fertile soil for new opportunities.
With every ending comes a new beginning.
For women who stay with abusive partners and claim it's for the sake of the children , know this👇🏾
Your children actually want you to leave, I can guarantee you that your children are far more intelligent than you give them credit for. They would rather you left their abusive parent than stay and cry everyday.
Your children are learning how to accept or become abusive because of what you're tolerating. No need to wonder why your son's new girlfriend reports him to you for being abusive, blame yourself for showing him it's okay because you let them watch how you were being abused and accepted it.
Your child starts disrespecting you, you showed them it's acceptable behavior when they watched you accept it many times.
Nine times out of ten, a child who used to be well behaved and starts acting out is being affected by the events at home. One parent can use them to triangulate the other parent and the child who doesn't yet understand what's happening, starts acting out, fighting, screaming at and being overtly angry towards their peers.
Parental alienation is more common than you think, you have to nip it in the bud once you spot it.
If you have caught your partner telling the child(ren) things that intend to make them hate you, have conversations with them as early about it. Be accountable but teach them appropriate behavior by being honest.
Children don't forget!!!!
Even if the memory fades, it pops back later as trauma.
Talk to them about why the other partner is triangulating you and ensure you tell them it's not okay!
Don't continue cycles your parents pulled with you by not communicating with you and don't repeat your mothers' mistake of staying!
In cases where you're dealing with an extremely violent man who's maybe financially powerful and can manipulate the system after harming you, that's when you can stay and strategically plan an exit.
Besides that, accept that what you thought you were entering into is no longer pleasant and that's not what you signed up for
DITCH SHAME, DITCH SHAME, DITCH SHAME!!!
The more you tolerate abuse in any form, the more you inch closer towards your own demise.
Leave to live
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