04/12/2025
Do you want to have more ease expressing your truth?
The topic of self-expression comes up often with my clients. Many people long to express their thoughts and feelings with more ease, but they carry strong (and unconscious) assumptions about what “the truth” should look like.
A few common ones:
• Truth must be fully formulated
• I must be able to defend it
• I must look emotionally composed
• Once I say something, I can’t change my mind
There is usually a pause when I suggest that expressing the truth could be much simpler. That these rules are made up.
Truth doesn’t have to be polished.
It can be spoken while it’s still forming.
Some examples of expressing truth free from those assumptions:
• “A lot is happening in me right now. I can’t name it yet.”
• “I want to be more open with you. I’m scared… and I also want to try.”
• “Something in me reacts strongly, but I don’t know why.”
• “Can we slow down? I need more time.”
I also see this dynamic very often:
Some people form ideas quickly. They know what they think and what they want. It seems that it is easy for them to speak their truth.
Others process deeply - they feel many layers, perspectives, energies.
Both are intelligent.
But when only the quick voice speaks, the slower, often more nuanced truth gets lost.
Yet when you speak your not-yet-fully-formed truth, when you are sharing what is happening with you here and now, something beautiful happens:
You begin to discover your truth.
Your words connect the layers.
Background becomes figure.
Your real perspective enters the relationship.
Your truth doesn’t have to be a certain way.
It just needs to be real in this moment.
If you are looking for support in exploring your truth, hearing your voice, hearing your heart, you are welcome to get in touch and I will share how we can work together.