15/12/2025
A lot of people talk about the fear of failure, but I want to talk about the fear of success because it is a real thing.
If you are an entrepreneur, a healer, a visionary, or a performer and creative, it directly and deeply impacts your performance and the way you show up, your visibility, and how you truly allow yourself to be seen and heard…
and receive success.
If you had a narcissist as a care giver or in you close proximity growing up, maybe even a friend or a sibling…
Any win or success you had triggered them.
Outshining them was perceived as a war declaration
Instead of celebrating you - they made you pay for it
they publicly shamed you
they made you feel guilty
they played the victim or gave you silent treatment
they rejected you
they trained you to associate success with punishement, with rejection, with love being taken away.
So you learned to dim your light
make yourself smaller
minimize or sabotage your success
feel guilty for it
and unconsciously avoid it
unconsciously fearing it
because it would threaten the connection
Jeopardize their “love”.
So now, as an entrepreneur how does it affect you?
One of my clients, an opera singer, used to self sabotage all her auditions to keep the peace.
Another one, failed their studies multiple times, by fear of being more graduated than their parent.
Another one moved across the globe for an amazing job and ended up unable to speak up or embody the leader she had been hired to be and came to me entirely aware she was sabotaging her career but lost as to why
Every time you feel you’re about to crack the code…every time things start working… you stall, shrink, or sabotage.
Not because you don’t want success, but because somewhere deep in your nervous system, success is still associated with danger, anger, rejection, silent treatment. Love being taken away.
Because embedded in your heart is an old belief: “To belong, I must be less than them.”
So it feels safer to quietly betray yourself. To give up on your dreams before anyone can punish you for them.
To stay just small enough to keep the peace.
To put a ceiling to what is acceptable for you to receive.
But when you heal the wounds of your heart, you reconnect with who you truly are. Your light, your voice, your power.
You learn that success no longer costs you love. You reclaim the driver’s seat. The main-character role in the story of YOUR LIFE
The right to live your life from alignment instead of fear.
And from that place, success stops being something you fear, and becomes something you can finally receive.
If this speaks to you, Iconic Rebirth™ is a deep 1:1 journey designed to heal the fear-of-success imprint at its root.
The worth wound, the visibility wound, the inherited loyalty patterns.
This is for entrepreneurs, creatives, healers, and visionaries who are done dimming their light to stay connected.
If you’re ready to rise without punishment, message me ICONIC or book a call.
