17/04/2026
Everyone tells a woman that her life will change when she becomes a mother, but nobody actually prepares her for the part where she can’t recognize herself.
And when that happens, the first thing the system offers her is a pill - prescribed in a 10 minute appointment by someone who never asked a single question about her birth experience, her support network, or what her days actually look like at home.
I hear this constantly from the mothers I work with, and after a while you stop being surprised and start connecting the dots.
Because what nobody in that appointment room wants to say out loud is that a lot of what we call postpartum depression is actually a completely sane response to an insane situation – a traumatic or overly medicalised birth, no village, no rest, no rite of passage. Just a “you look great, see you at your 6 week check” and a wave out the door.
The medical system isn’t set up to give you a village, but it IS set up to manage your symptoms when the absence of one makes you fall apart.
And that’s a dot worth connecting.
Medication is not always the wrong answer, but it is too often the ONLY one on offer, and that matters.
You aren’t broken. You are under-supported, and there’s a very big difference between the two.
This is exactly why I created Chrysalis.
— a postpartum program built around what a mother needs during those first six weeks: rest, nourishment, nervous system care, and a community of women who get it. The village the system never gave you.
Link in bio if you want to know more.
And tell me below – did you feel supported postpartum, or just managed?
