Therapy for Expats and Internationals - Sisse Ramsing, Blegdamsvej 112A, Copenhagen (2026)

10/04/2024

ALIENATION - AND FEELING LIKE AN OUTSIDER.

During my time in Cuba at the age of 4, I was a bundle of energy, crawling on the walls and swinging from the curtains!

My mother had to say I was older than I was to enroll me in Primary School.

I craved interaction with children my age, challenges, and intellectual stimulation.

At school, we were identified as pioneers with a scarf around our necks, and wearing the blue beret for the first time filled me with pride 😊

I still have the school uniform hanging in the closet – a dear memory from a bygone era.

However, being the only blonde head in the group meant I had to work extra hard to blend in, so that others wouldn’t notice that I was different – despite my visible or non-visible differences.

This feeling of alienation haunted me for years 😢

Humans are inherently social beings, wired to fear exclusion from the pack because, in our prehistoric reptilian brains, exclusion equals death.

The desire to belong leads us to compromise our true selves in order to fit in.

So, when I encountered other people's envy, condemnation, or criticism, I was willing to do anything not to stand out.

I diminished myself; became less visible, acted dumber than I was, suppressed my voice, and dimmed my light.

Because when others didn't like me, there had to be something wrong with me, right?

At least that's what I thought.

And I spent years adapting, pleasing, and compensating.

…yet still felt disconnected…

Until I finally realized that others' rejection or mistreatment of me reflected their own insecurities and self-perception, rather than any fault of mine.

People’s opinions of me are merely projections of their inner struggles.

What they see in me is either something they dislike and refuse to recognize in themselves.

Or something they are fascinated by and wish they had or could be themselves.

I just get to represent that character in their inner ‘theater play’ 🎭

But the truth is; we can never satisfy everybody.

Recognizing this, I shifted my focus away from seeking approval and embraced my true self.

I’m not saying that we should be completely careless about other people.

But we shift focus 🚀

When we prioritize our beliefs over others', feelings of alienation dissipate.

Feeling alienated only occurs when we compare ourselves to others.

Inside of you, you are not a stranger.

In your heart, you are the most truthful and authentic being 🙏

The one you were always meant to be.

✨ So shine your light ✨

You are inherently perfect 💯

And don’t let others tell you otherwise.

20/03/2024

HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS ❤️

Some people define 'Home' as their relationships – with their partner, their children, their family 👩‍❤️‍👨 When surrounded by the people they love, they feel at ease and calm.

Others define 'Home' as the country or the physical location where they live or were brought up 🌍

Of course, I am not going to contradict this – both our social connections and the places we live have an immense impact on the quality of our lives.

But true 'Home' is inside of us, and this is why I insist so much on this saying.

'Home' is where your heart beats – 'Home' resides within you.

We all have this sacred place, where we are connected not only to ourselves but also to something bigger than us.

Here lie the answers to all our questions, all that we have always known, and all that we will ever need to know.

It's not about what we believe, think, or feel, but about what we know.

✨ A true wisdom ✨

From here, we see things clearer, the pieces of the puzzle fall back into place, and we can make new choices, new beginnings, and create change.

Genuine and long-lasting change – because it comes from the right place, from the place within us where everything is aligned.

And when we tune in to that source, we simply know.

Some call it intuition; some call it a gut feeling.

I call it our inner voice – not the one in our head, but the voice of our soul 🌟

When we take the time to pause, to be silent and to listen, that's when it becomes alive.

This place and this voice never leave us, and no one can take it away from us.

It's ours to keep, and it's our greatest resource.

And when we surrender ourselves to this force, we find peace 🙏

'Home' is right where we are – 'Home' is inside of us.

There's no need to search for new relationships, new locations, new this, new that…

'Home' is where it has always been.

Coming home or finding home is not about leaving and returning, it's about BEING at home.

It's when we allow ourselves to be precisely who we are, and who we have been the whole time.

And when we ARE at home, it's a lot easier to exist, and it also becomes less important who we spend our lives with and where we live.

Because we no longer depend on people or places to define us.

From here: we know; who we are, what we want (and what we don't want), which way to go, and why.

Our soul is leading us the way 💫

And when we tune in, we can never go wrong, and we will never have regrets.

Because the choices we make come from the right place, not from the head / reason / mind, but from the heart / soul / spirit;

✨ Our essence ✨

From a place connected to something so much bigger than our brain can comprehend.

And when we trust this place and trust the messages that we receive from here, and then live accordingly, that is when we are aligned 🙏

Feeling Lost.
We all have moments of weakness – it's only human.

We sometimes stumble, we sometimes fall. But we rise.

And it's not about how many times we fall. It's about how we get back on our feet.

How we allow ourselves to leave the darkness behind and shine our light.

We cannot suppress the darkness, but we can learn to live in harmony with it, as part of our being, as part of the whole.

Darkness and light – hand in hand.

And most importantly, we can let the light become greater than the darkness.

We let it shine so that we too can shine 🌟

12/03/2024

Live in the group:
Loneliness and the need for belonging 🫶
March 14th at 10:00 CET

06/03/2024

Don’t kill the Messenger

Your feelings convey valuable messages,
serving as guides through the maze of life.
They signal when your boundaries have been crossed,
or when you're heading in the right direction.
They are here to guide you.
As a compass through the fog,
Leading the way.
When you are lost,
Searching,
When the storm rages,
And when the sea is calm,
Balanced.

Your feelings are your friends,
Not your enemies.
Allies, not adversaries.
So treat them as such.
Welcome them.
Don’t ignore, deny, drown or bypass them,
Learn to get to know them.
Listen to them.
Explore their depths with curiosity.
They never lie;
Both comforting and uncomfortable.
They will tell you what you already know,
But also what you don’t want to hear —
The truth,
Your truth.

Embrace your feelings without fear.
They emerge not to confront you, but to enlighten you.
Even the most challenging and unpleasant feelings don’t stay,
Allow them to pass.
Let them circulate through your system;
They come alive within you,
Born in you.
Let them live,
And they will pass;
They will fade;
They will burn out,
If you give them time.

And when the same feelings keep coming back,
Like a boomerang,
It’s a sign you're not fully attentive.
So they become louder,
Noisier,
And they hit harder.
Therefore, I encourage you:
Pay attention.
Listen closely;
What are they trying to tell you?
Sit still,
Be quiet,
And let them speak.
Let them exist;
Acknowledge,
Contain,
Embrace,
And they will pass,
Leaving you wiser,
Deeper,
Aligned,
And connected.

Your feelings hold keys to profound insights.
So don’t shoot the messenger.
The messenger is not responsible for the message
Or the genesis thereof.
You are 🙏

27/02/2024

Live in the group
The principles of change 🌍
February 29th at 10:00 CET

21/02/2024

BREAKING FREE FROM THE CYCLE OF SUFFERING

Louis Armstrong beautifully sings to us “What a Wonderful World,” and indeed it is magnificent, yet as humans, we also endure suffering.

Life presents both its wonders and challenges.

To experience the highs, we must accept the lows.

Much like the ebb and flow of the tide or the swinging of a pendulum, life operates with fluctuating patterns – physically and psychologically.

At times, joy fills our hearts, while at others, pain consumes us.

For expats, internationals, and those immersed in multicultural environments, the confrontation with suffering often arrives sooner and more frequently due to leaving familiar surroundings and encountering constant change.

THE FACES OF SUFFERING

You might find yourself struggling to adapt, feeling frustrated, estranged, lonely, angry, depressed, anxious, or stressed.

The human suffering has many faces!

THE LONGING FOR MORE

Beneath it all lies a deep yearning for something beyond;

Happiness, love, inner peace, meaning, genuine connections, harmony…

And the plea echoes within: "Please, give it to me!"

THE TEMPTATION OF BLAME

Unable to put out this longing and unwilling to endure the suffering, your search for blame begins.

It's a fork in the road – either projecting your miseries onto external factors (country, culture, job, people etc.) or internalizing them and self-criticizing.

Perpetuating a vicious cycle of negativity.

COPING MECHANISMS

The pain becomes unbearable, and the desire for relief intensifies.

You seek consolation in various outlets or behaviors.

Whether it's comfort foods, alcoholic or caffeinated beverages, excessive phone use, overworking, shopping sprees, sexual encounters, intense physical activities, or prolonged binge-watching sessions.

In more detrimental scenarios, you may resort to substances like ci******es, alcohol, ma*****na, or drugs, which offer temporary pleasure but carry the risk of addiction and ultimately deepen the cycle of suffering.

And the relief doesn’t last.

Like the tide and the pendulum.

What goes up must come down…

After the pleasure, comes the pain

Again and again and again…

DISCOVERING HOME

Breaking free from this cycle is possible.

It starts with awareness.

Observe yourself and understand the dynamics at play.

Acceptance follows, free from judgment or blame – external or internal.

Embrace the circumstances and acknowledge your suffering.

Taking responsibility is the final step.

Consciously steering your life instead of being enslaved by your coping mechanisms.

Assume responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions, without identifying with them.

You are greater than your mind, your emotions and your behavior.

Disconnect from their grip and reconnect with your essence / your core / your soul.

I am saying – reconnect – because it is something that you have always been capable of, you have maybe just forgotten how…

This place in you is a source so immense that you – with your mind – cannot comprehend the magnitude nor the power that is has.

Tap into this source.

And from here, from this place, lie the answers to all your questions.

You hold the key to your happiness.

And if you can’t find it, make it your number one priority!

And if you need to; seek help, support and guidance.

But only you can walk the path.

No one else can do it for you.

Do the work.

14/02/2024

I think many may have a kind of love/hate relationship with today’s day.

Valentine's Day

The day where lovers express their affection with greetings and gifts.

You can almost hear the collective sigh when you read that, right?

It’s probably a rather pleasant day when you are in a relationship.
..but not as pleasant when you have no one to share it with, perhaps.

So what do you do on a day like this?

Do you pull the duvet over your head and wait for it to be over?

How about deciding to celebrate it exactly the way you think it would be most (self) loving each year.

With a partner or not. It doesn’t matter.

Because love does not require being in a relationship.

Love is a feeling you can create. At any moment!

You can love who you want and what you want.

But most importantly; you can always cultivate SELF love ❤️

And a self-loving choice is to follow your heart and follow your dreams!

So ask yourself;

What does a self-loving day look like for me?

What do I tell myself?

What do I get to eat?

What kind of music do I listen to?

What ignites my sense of love?

How do I create the ultimate strongest and most juicy day for myself?

In other words, be the wildest love alchemist on today's occasion 🔥

05/02/2024

Live in the group about Culture shock 🌎🌍🌏
February 8th at 9:00 CET

19/01/2024

Congratulations! You’re having a midlife crisis! I recently said to a client.

While it may initially sound provocative, I urge you to read on.

At birth, you're in a state of unity and connectedness with your true self, but unfortunately this harmonious state doesn't last. Vulnerability and dependence on others for survival prompt you to adapt in return for acceptance and love. Consequently, you suppress facets of your identity, creating a division within.

Guided by your survival mechanisms, you navigate through life cautiously, avoiding missteps.

At some point - often in midlife - an opportunity to awaken arises, often triggered by a significant experience, event or a realization that something feels 'wrong'. Your coping mechanisms no longer serve, and familiar structures provide no comfort.

Unless you choose to deny it, a life crisis becomes a stark reality!

Initially, fear grips you as it seems like your world is falling apart!

However, a life crisis is always an invitation to live authentically in alignment with your true self, provided you are willing to endure a period of uncertainty 🙏

Throughout the awakening process, your yearning for unity propels you forward. You long for the wholeness felt at birth, yet you recognize gaps in your consciousness. These gaps represent your shadow sides—hidden, repressed, guilty, and shameful aspects that can either support or hinder you, and surrendering is frightening.

Yet, to surrender is absolutely necessary to find your way 'home'.

During times of crisis, the only refuge is looking and searching 'inwards'. And if you dare to do this, your heart will guide you on this journey ❤️

Awareness, responsibility, and integration of your shadow sides will lead you back to your 'core of being'.

You are now a strong, mature, and independent adult, I said. Now is the time to discard your 'survival suit' and embark on an era where you rediscover yourself, presented with the opportunity to become your complete, authentic self ✨✨✨

08/01/2024

The Price is Right

In 1982, at the age of 12, my father was assigned to a post in Mexico City, prompting our family to make a significant move.

That particular year held the promise of altering my life in numerous ways.

It introduced me to a brave new world, and one of its gifts was the access to American TV channels that I had never had watched before.

It was during this time that I with astonishment stumbled upon "The Price is Right," an American television game show where contestants compete by guessing the prices of merchandise to win cash and prizes.

Premiering in 1972 on CBS, The Price Is Right has since aired over 9,000 episodes, solidifying its status as the longest-running game show in the United States and one of the lengthiest network series in American television history.

I was captivated by the show! From washing machines to cars, vacation trips and banknotes, it showcased a wealth that was entirely foreign to me ✈️💰💵 🚀

However, what fascinated me the most were the emotions on display 😲

The participants, whether stay-at-home housewives, hardworking tradesmen, or exuberant individuals, allowed their hearts to overflow with feelings of gratitude, surprise, joy, and relief! 🥳

Tears streamed down their cheeks when they won a prize. Emotions ran freely, accompanied by shouts, screams, tears, laughter, and an atmosphere where everything seemed to be permitted 🤩

I found myself enchanted and drawn into this universe, as it starkly contrasted with the reserved Scandinavian culture I knew.

I wondered in amazement, "Can you really express your emotions this freely?"

Yes, you can! 💪

Yet, as a teenager, I remained preoccupied with others' opinions of me, inhibiting my own emotional expression.

It took years for me to truly know myself well enough to navigate all my emotions - the difficult, the forbidden, the shameful, and the ugly.

Learning to embrace and express them became a vital aspect of my journey toward feeling whole, avoiding separation, alienation, or shame.

The wisdom shared by a mentor, "Know thyself," has resonated with me and proved invaluable.

Understanding oneself is the best gift one can offer, a process that involves learning about every facet - both inside and out.

Finally, I summoned the courage to be ME - acknowledging and expressing all that I contain, including the feelings I spent a lifetime hiding, suppressing, and escaping from.

So did I win the prize? Absolutely!

It wasn't a tangible reward but the grand jackpot of personal freedom - a journey that each individual can embark upon ✨🙏✨

And was it worth the price to pay - struggles, pains, and worries?

Undoubtedly, yes!

Simply because the personal journey does not come with a price tag.

It is priceless ❤️

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