13/06/2024
One of the biggest struggles for a man is to understand how he can meet his partner's emotional needs and how important it is for her to feel safe enough to open and share herself.
To change this, a man must practice the art of being fully present in her presence: emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. One of the reasons that we men struggle with this is that we learn through action, so sitting still and just listening without doing anything is quite difficult for us.
As men, we are solution-focused and use our minds to understand things and then resolve them. We want to fix it.
The problem is that as soon as we begin to think of a solution, we are in our heads and we disconnect emotionally, we stop being emotionally present in her presence and we stop listening empathetically.
What is empathy? It is feeling, in your heart, what the other person feels and not being afraid of what will happen in yourself as a result.
If something has happened to your woman that makes her feel scared, insecure, angry or sad, do not withdraw yourself because you do not want to feel emotions that might make you weak or uncomfortable, but embrace those feelings and share that experience with her.
Share her tears (or at least hold space for them), comfort her, make energetic contact with her, so that she feels that you are with her now and that she does not have to feel alone, that she is safe in your arms.
Then imagine that you pour your masculine energy into her with your touch, your eyes, your voice and your heart.
Imagine that it soothes and comforts her, that you provide inner peace by giving her your strength and confidence.
Imagine what your love will do for her in those moments.
Imagine the enormous confidence that you thereby build in your relationship.
Imagine knowing that you are her safe place - that your presence is both her hiding place and her harbor.
