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05/09/2025

The 20 signs of a toxic relationship

Sometimes a relationship that is not going well can still be saved. But sometimes relationships are just purely toxic, and it's better to put an end to it. We share here twenty signals that indicate this. Previously we wrote about four signs that you are dealing with a narcissist. Find that in our other blog below.

Don't worry too much, as most relationships have both healthy and unhealthy aspects, and that's what's so dangerous because the healthy aspects can keep you in toxic or unhealthy relationships. The main purpose of being in a relationship, whether with a friend or partner, must bring you an extra value to happiness and enriching your life. However after the nice first weeks together on a pink cloud, you start to become more yourself, with all the pleasant and unpleasant habits, and then the relationship can come under pressure.

Of course you are both different. But not always this will be respected or accepted. The biggest failure in a relationship, is to try to change your partner. We will explain these ins and outs in our next blog. So to make a short story about the unsatisfying situation you can go through, here are the twenty signals of a poisoned relationship:

You feel hurt more often than loved in your relationship.
You often feel guilty or ashamed about the way you behave towards your partner.
You're not really looking forward to your time together, it's more of a feeling of 'tolerating' it.
You often worry about how things will go or feel like you're walking on eggshells when you're together.
You often complain to others about your relationship.
You feel very insecure in the relationship.
It gets in the way of other healthy relationships or makes you feel unloved.
The relationship is a source of anxiety, which makes you less productive.
Your partner tells you that you are lucky to have him or her, because no one else would want you.
You daydream about something that causes your partner to be out of your life.
The relationship causes suffering in other (healthier) relationships in your life.
There is emotional, physical, financial or sexual abuse, neglect or exploitation.
You stay in the relationship mainly because you don't want to be alone.
You feel like you can't be yourself with your partner, or that you've changed for the worse since he or she came into your life.
You stay in the relationship because you think you don't deserve or won't find a better relationship.
You stay in the relationship mainly because you feel like you owe the other person something.
You stay in the relationship because you think the other person can't live without you or will hurt themselves if you leave.
You stay in the relationship mainly because of what it used to be or what it could one day be.
People you trust think the relationship is unhealthy.
You've worked hard on the relationship, but you don't see a change that makes you feel supported and safe.
If you are in such situation, there can be help through relation therapy. The only really important thing is that you both want to work on it, and you love each other. Our center is open from Monday till Friday afternoon. Feel free to contact us. 010 70806656

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01/06/2025

How to Say No: Tips to increase your Assertiveness

'Sorry, but no.' A simple sentence, but oh so difficult to say. Many people are raised with the idea that you have to be nice, say yes when someone asks for something and adapt to others. While saying no can save us so much, like a lot of time. This is how you turn polite refusal into a pleasant habit. Why is saying no so hard? Why do you still manage to put a smile on your face and squeeze out a 'yes, fine' or 'okay' when you feel like you don't really have the time, energy or desire?

'In the short term, saying no creates more tension than saying yes,' according to industrial and organizational psychologists. 'You feel less guilty, the relationship with the person you are asking remains good, and the chance of conflict is small.'

Every time we say no to someone – whether it’s an invitation to a party, a request from our partner or a question at work – there’s a risk of an unpleasant reaction from the other person. Many people tend to feel guilty when they say no. Most people therefore choose the short-term benefits of saying yes. Saying no is allowed. In the long term, giving in all the time will cause you much more trouble.

You may start to feel irritable or depressed. And with a bit of bad luck, you may also come across as unreliable to others because you simply cannot please everyone and meet all the demands. You say yes, but do something halfway, or too late. Avoiding saying no can lead to psychological complaints, conflicts and disappointed relationships in the long term. The trick is to say no without feeling guilty.

Not selfish
It's a downward spiral that starts with meeting other people's needs at the expense of your own, and ends up being too tired to care for anyone else—including yourself. Saying yes to one thing automatically means saying no to something else. There is simply limited time and energy. So it is important to become aware of what you are actually saying no to when you say yes again.

If you take on too much work or have too many appointments outside the home, you are saying no to your own health or well-being, no to quality time with your partner or child, no to your sleep. Things that may actually be very important to you.

The good news is that you can make saying no a pleasant habit, something you feel entitled to do instead of something you fear. Setting boundaries is not selfish. Someone who is more balanced themselves becomes kinder, more open, more understanding and more generous to others.

How it works

Prepare your refusal

Before you start saying no, it is important to know what you want to say yes to wholeheartedly. Anyone who is not yet convinced of his no inside, comes across as unclear. That lack of clarity leads to others continuing to try you. It is easier to turn something down when you are clear about why you can't or don't want to do it, and what your priorities are.

Try to gain insight into your behavior. Ask yourself what you would like to do and experiment with that. Don't overdo your assertiveness by saying “no” to everything: consciously choose what you do or don't want. This I learn you in our therapy sessions: awareness.

Structure your life
A good exercise to learn to say no is to set rules that you know you need to stay calm, fit and happy. For example: don't go out more than two nights a week because you'll get tired and moody. Make a note of fixed times in your calendar for things that you find important and that you need; not just work tasks, but also time for family, sports, administration or walking.

That makes it immediately visible when you are or are not available. And it also makes it easier to say: then I already have something else. Even if that is an evening in the bath with your favorite music. If you are available, think about every request: do I want this, or am I doing this mainly because I think I should? Will this bring me pleasure?

Keep it short
Most people attach a whole explanation to their no. But that comes across as less firm. And in our culture it sometimes even causes annoyance because it seems defensive. We are afraid that a simple no will come across as rude, so we beat around the bush. But it is more effective not to waste too many words on it.

No at work
With requests from peers – friends, family, colleagues – it is a bit different than with requests from your employer, Abrahamse emphasizes. Often it concerns assignments and then it is more difficult to simply say no. You will then have to negotiate; for example, say that you cannot do everything that is asked of you and ask your boss what other task you can drop.

Give yourself the right to refuse requests. And give the other person the right to be disappointed for a moment. But remember that you are not responsible for the other person's feelings. You are not there to meet their needs. The more you practice saying no, the easier it will be to see this. Want to read the full atricle?
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We know that is some cases, you're into a relationship where no isn't accepted. And every change in your behavior will not be for granted: you will face many resistance. In that case it's good to get help from a psychotherapist. Book an appointment on our website, or by WhatsApp 010 70806656

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