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For the woman within motherhood. Psychologist helping mothers feel calmer & grounded.

21/12/2025

The shoulds don't just exhaust you. They steal your presence.
This is Part 2 of my series on the shoulds—what trying to be the "perfect mother" actually costs you.

I spent years trying to be the "perfect mother"—patient, present, organized, joyful, never overwhelmed.

Here's what it cost me:
My ability to trust myself. My presence with my kids. My peace. My joy.

Because when you're constantly measuring yourself against an impossible standard, you're never HERE. You're always somewhere else—in the past (beating yourself up for what you did wrong) or the future (anxious about everything you still need to do).

And the cruelest part? You start to think YOU'RE the problem.
But you're not. You were just trying to win an unwinnable game.

Swipe to see what living by "should" actually costs—and why you're not the one who feels the strain of this impossible expectation and standard.

Comment "YES" if you've felt this.

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02/12/2025

Chaos is normal when you're a parent with little cave people pulling at your strings all day long.

What IS possible is creating calm around the chaos. That means allowing the messy moments, the snappy reactions, the flustered feelings—without judging yourself for them.

Because when you beat yourself up for feeling a difficult emotion, you don't make it go away—you just make it louder.

My go-to phrase in those moments? "This too shall pass. Ride the wave and breathe."

Let the emotion move through you, and meet yourself with grace instead of guilt.

Drop a ❤️ if you needed to hear this today and share with someone you love who needs more grace instead of guilt.

22/11/2025

I created this community because it's the kind of space I wish had existed from the beginning—and still need myself.

A place where you can talk about loving your kids AND missing who you were before them in the same breath. Where you'll find practical tools for everyday moments (like when breakfast turns into a meltdown) and support from mothers who've been there.

This isn't about perfect parenting or having it all together. This IS real support, evidence-based tools, and permission to be real about the hard parts.
No cost, no pressure—just real mothers and professional guidance to help you thrive, not just survive.
Join us 👉 link in bio or type
https://www.facebook.com/groups/groundedmother

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18/11/2025

I'm building something I wish I'd had in those early years of motherhood.

A space where you don't have to pretend you've got it all figured out. Where "I'm struggling" doesn't need a qualifier. Where you can talk about loving your kids AND missing who you were before them in the same breath.

The Grounded Mother Community is for women who are ready to do the deeper work—not just survive motherhood, but reclaim themselves within it.

This isn't about tips for getting your toddler to sleep or meal prep hacks (though we'll probably talk about those too). This is about the identity stuff. The beliefs you're carrying that aren't yours. The version of yourself you've been trying to get back to, and realizing maybe you're meant to become someone new entirely.

If you're done living someone else's ideal of motherhood and ready to actually feel like yourself again—link in bio. See you inside 🤗

29/07/2025

Often we find ourselves stuck in patterns that hold us back—mentally, emotionally, and even physically.
We stay in places we no longer want to be, simply because we haven’t paused long enough to notice what’s really happening.

Change begins with awareness.
When we stop and bring our attention inward—into what’s unfolding in those moments that cause discomfort— here we can create space.

✨ Space to choose differently.
✨ Space to say, actually, I don’t want to do it this way anymore.
✨ Space to reclaim our power.

You can’t change what you’re not aware of.
But once you see the pattern—you don’t have to keep living it.

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09/07/2025

Not every thought needs to take root—some thoughts grow into beauty, others into overwhelm.
When we become more aware of our mental habits, we get to choose what grows 🌼🌿

You don’t have to believe every thought.
You can pause. You can redirect. You can plant something new.

24/06/2025

Growth isn’t about adding more to your plate—it’s about choosing what truly matters and letting the rest go.
This is your gentle reminder to slow down, tune in, and live with intention. 🪷

What’s one thing you could release this week?
(Even if it’s just the pressure to be everything to everyone.)

💛 Save this for later if you need the reminder.

16/06/2025

💭 Ever feel like you’re supposed to have it all figured out—as a mum, a partner, a professional, a human?

Truth is, confidence doesn’t come from knowing all the answers.
It comes from learning to trust yourself as you figure things out—in the chaos, in the mess, in the “is this normal?” moments.

Every decision you make, every boundary you hold, every time you choose rest over guilt—you’re building that inner trust. That’s the real work. That’s the real strength. 💪

✨ You don’t need to have it all together to be doing a great job.

🧡 Which part of your life are you learning to trust yourself in more?

08/06/2025

Let that land for a moment.

🌱 What would future-you thank you for starting—even if it’s messy?
🌱 What would feel like progress, not perfection?
🌱 What kind of support would make it easier to begin?

We often think we need to feel ready before we act.
But readiness is built in the doing.
One small step at a time. One decision to back yourself.

If you’re done with the overwhelm and craving clarity, I’m here to help.

🤍 My 1:1 coaching is designed to gently untangle the stress and help you move forward—with calm, courage, and direction.

📩 DM me or hit the link in bio to book a free clarity call. Let's explore what your next chapter could look like.

12/05/2025

If you're exhausted from knowing what would help but struggling to actually use it in real life—this is for you.

Mindfulness isn't about becoming a zen robot or doing more.
It's about having your own back in the middle of the mess.
And yes—this can be learned (without adding pressure or perfectionism to your plate).

🌿 Explore practical, in-the-moment tools in my courses—designed for real life, not retreat life.

Or, if you're craving 1:1 support, book a free consultation to explore coaching that helps you feel calm, clear, and in control again.

👣 Visit www.mibamethod.com to get started.

05/04/2025

What if you paused for a moment and didn’t do one of those things on your "I have to" list?
What might you notice?
What might rise to the surface?
Sometimes the “have to’s” are just habits—ways we hold ourselves together.
And in the space we create by letting go, even just a little, we can see what’s really driving us.

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