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The MIBA method

For the woman within motherhood. Psychologist helping mothers feel calmer & grounded.

17/02/2026

Growing up, you learned that putting yourself first is selfish.
Now you're told self-care is essential—but the world still expects you to be endlessly productive, always available, never dropping a ball.

Rest or you'll burn out. But also, keep going. Don't let anyone down.
It's a setup.
You're not the problem. The impossible standards are.

💬 Drop a ❤️ if this hits home.

08/02/2026

Showing my kids that emotions happen and what to do after—that's when the real teaching happens.

You're not teaching your children that anger is bad when you lose it. You're teaching them that:

All emotions are human
We can calm ourselves down
We can reconnect after hard moments
Repair is always possible

That moment when you come back and say "I'm sorry I shouted, I was feeling overwhelmed"—that's where the growth is. For them AND for you.

💬 Have you ever felt like your "bad" parenting moment actually became a teaching moment?

07/02/2026

Are you stuck in this loop? ...
Kid has meltdown → "I need to fix this/be better" → Try harder, do more, research more → Feel more overwhelmed → Judge yourself for being overwhelmed → Repeat
Or:
Feel exhausted → "I should be more patient/grateful" → Push through, ignore your needs → Snap at someone you love → Feel guilty → Try even harder to be "good" → Repeat

The trying to fix it IS the problem.

You can't "good mum" your way out of burnout.
💬 What's your loop?

25/01/2026

The good news? You don't have to choose between being a devoted mother and being yourself. But reconnecting does take intentional work.

If you're ready to start, I've got something for you: The MIBA Mom Starter Kit. Tools to help you interrupt the patterns keeping you stuck and reconnect with yourself again.

✨ Link in bio - it's free.

21/12/2025

Anger is dangerous. Sadness is weakness. Anxiety is irrational.
So we try to silence them. Push them down. Power through.

The truth is, what we resist, persists.
The more we try to get rid of a feeling, the stronger it gets.

Emotional strength isn't about staying calm all the time. It's about learning to be with what's hard—without being consumed by it.

Next time you feel overwhelmed or triggered, try asking: What is this emotion trying to tell me?
Can I let it be here, without needing it to go away?
What do I need right now, in this moment?

This isn't weakness. It's wisdom.

💬 Which emotion have you been resisting lately?

21/12/2025

The shoulds don't just exhaust you. They steal your presence.
This is Part 2 of my series on the shoulds—what trying to be the "perfect mother" actually costs you.

I spent years trying to be the "perfect mother"—patient, present, organized, joyful, never overwhelmed.

Here's what it cost me:
My ability to trust myself. My presence with my kids. My peace. My joy.

Because when you're constantly measuring yourself against an impossible standard, you're never HERE. You're always somewhere else—in the past (beating yourself up for what you did wrong) or the future (anxious about everything you still need to do).

And the cruelest part? You start to think YOU'RE the problem.
But you're not. You were just trying to win an unwinnable game.

Swipe to see what living by "should" actually costs—and why you're not the one who feels the strain of this impossible expectation and standard.

Comment "YES" if you've felt this.

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02/12/2025

Chaos is normal when you're a parent with little cave people pulling at your strings all day long.

What IS possible is creating calm around the chaos. That means allowing the messy moments, the snappy reactions, the flustered feelings—without judging yourself for them.

Because when you beat yourself up for feeling a difficult emotion, you don't make it go away—you just make it louder.

My go-to phrase in those moments? "This too shall pass. Ride the wave and breathe."

Let the emotion move through you, and meet yourself with grace instead of guilt.

Drop a ❤️ if you needed to hear this today and share with someone you love who needs more grace instead of guilt.

22/11/2025

I created this community because it's the kind of space I wish had existed from the beginning—and still need myself.

A place where you can talk about loving your kids AND missing who you were before them in the same breath. Where you'll find practical tools for everyday moments (like when breakfast turns into a meltdown) and support from mothers who've been there.

This isn't about perfect parenting or having it all together. This IS real support, evidence-based tools, and permission to be real about the hard parts.
No cost, no pressure—just real mothers and professional guidance to help you thrive, not just survive.
Join us 👉 link in bio or type
https://www.facebook.com/groups/groundedmother

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18/11/2025

I'm building something I wish I'd had in those early years of motherhood.

A space where you don't have to pretend you've got it all figured out. Where "I'm struggling" doesn't need a qualifier. Where you can talk about loving your kids AND missing who you were before them in the same breath.

The Grounded Mother Community is for women who are ready to do the deeper work—not just survive motherhood, but reclaim themselves within it.

This isn't about tips for getting your toddler to sleep or meal prep hacks (though we'll probably talk about those too). This is about the identity stuff. The beliefs you're carrying that aren't yours. The version of yourself you've been trying to get back to, and realizing maybe you're meant to become someone new entirely.

If you're done living someone else's ideal of motherhood and ready to actually feel like yourself again—link in bio. See you inside 🤗

29/07/2025

Often we find ourselves stuck in patterns that hold us back—mentally, emotionally, and even physically.
We stay in places we no longer want to be, simply because we haven’t paused long enough to notice what’s really happening.

Change begins with awareness.
When we stop and bring our attention inward—into what’s unfolding in those moments that cause discomfort— here we can create space.

✨ Space to choose differently.
✨ Space to say, actually, I don’t want to do it this way anymore.
✨ Space to reclaim our power.

You can’t change what you’re not aware of.
But once you see the pattern—you don’t have to keep living it.

❤️

09/07/2025

Not every thought needs to take root—some thoughts grow into beauty, others into overwhelm.
When we become more aware of our mental habits, we get to choose what grows 🌼🌿

You don’t have to believe every thought.
You can pause. You can redirect. You can plant something new.

24/06/2025

Growth isn’t about adding more to your plate—it’s about choosing what truly matters and letting the rest go.
This is your gentle reminder to slow down, tune in, and live with intention. 🪷

What’s one thing you could release this week?
(Even if it’s just the pressure to be everything to everyone.)

💛 Save this for later if you need the reminder.

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