Chantal Bruijsten

18/03/2026

Why is it so difficult to share what we truly want?

Not just setting boundaries…
but expressing our desires.

For many people, this feels vulnerable. Sometimes even unsafe.

Because the moment you share a desire, deeper layers can be triggered:

• fear of being too much
• fear of rejection
• not feeling worthy to even have that desire

And when it comes to sensuality, this can become even more sensitive.
Many of us learned to hide this part of ourselves. Sometimes even to feel ashamed of it.

So instead of expressing our desires, we hold them back.

But over time, this can slowly reduce the aliveness in a relationship.

In this video I explore:
– why sharing desires feels so vulnerable
– what is actually triggered inside us
– how you can work with these feelings
– and how a partner can create a space where desires are welcome

Because connection does not deepen by doing more for each other…
but by allowing more of ourselves to be seen.

🎥 Watch the full video below

Many people struggle to express what they truly want.Not because they don’t have desires…but because expressing them can feel uncomfortable, exposing, or eve...

17/03/2026

Many people say yes even when inside it feels more like a no… or maybe.
Not because they truly want to say yes.
But because saying no can feel difficult.
We don’t want to disappoint someone.
We don’t want to disturb the harmony.
We want to stay connected.
So we adapt.
Yet every time we say yes while something inside us hesitates, we slowly move a little further away from ourselves.
A boundary is not rejection.
It is simply honesty.
And honesty is often where deeper connection begins.

Tomorrow I’ll share more about another vulnerable topic: expressing our desires and how this can deepen intimacy.

16/03/2026

Many of the ways we react in relationships started as survival patterns.
For me, one of those patterns was working very hard and trying to handle everything myself.
Not asking for help.
Just continuing.
Until I became irritated, tired, and even angry and sad.
When we begin to see the deeper need underneath a pattern, something starts to soften.
I explain this more deeply in my newest video.

https://youtu.be/TNvbMOUuqf8

13/03/2026

Many reactions we have in relationships are survival patterns we learned when we were younger.
In my latest video I explain how these patterns develop and how they can change.

https://youtu.be/TNvbMOUuqf8

12/03/2026

Many reactions we have in relationships are survival patterns we developed when we were younger.

In my newest video I explain how these patterns develop and how we can change them.

You can watch the full video on my YouTube channel

https://youtu.be/TNvbMOUuqf8?si=Bu4ZQP4AKJ9cJ8Gk

06/03/2026

Many people say they want more s*x in their relationship.

But often there is a deeper longing underneath.

To feel desired.
To feel chosen.
To feel seen.

Because when s*x becomes less frequent, you may start to doubt whether your partner still wants you, whether he or she still finds you attractive.

In Ta**ra Therapy, we don’t try to “fix” s*x directly.

Instead, we bring people back into presence with themselves and with each other.

When there is real attention.
When the body is touched.
When partners truly see each other, physically and emotionally,
desire often returns naturally.

If you long for more s*x in your relationship…
what are you really longing for underneath?

03/03/2026

Being the easy one often looks mature.
Kind.
Flexible.

But sometimes it is simply self-abandonment in disguise.

Saying yes when your body says no.
Going along when something doesn’t feel right.
Minimizing what you feel so others stay comfortable.

Over time, this creates distance,
not only in relationships,
but within yourself.

In ta**ra therapy we practice something simple, yet confronting:

Presence.

Feeling what is actually there.
Listening to the body.
Allowing a clear yes.
Allowing a clear no.
Setting boundaries without closing the heart.

Real intimacy is not built on being convenient.
It is built on being real.

And when you stop shrinking, something else changes too.

Your children learn that love does not require disappearing.
That taking up space is allowed.
That honesty and connection can exist together.

Where in your life are you still trying to be the easy one?

26/02/2026

The way we handle desire, conflict and closeness
becomes the blueprint our children carry into their own relationships.

Love is taught in atmosphere, not instruction.

24/02/2026

Desire is powerful.
But it becomes heavy when it secretly asks the other person to confirm our worth.
Can you feel what your desire is really asking for?

20/02/2026

Where does honesty feel unsafe for you?

And what would it mean
to give yourself safety first?

18/02/2026

16/02/2026

Where do you choose harmony
over honesty?