Queen consciousness

16/11/2025

https://open.substack.com/pub/connectedtoself/p/the-real-answer-to-procrastination?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=u461f

12/02/2025

I'm far from being a feminist, however I'm all for women stepping fully into their power.
And there's nothing more beautiful than an authentic woman.
One who is not ashamed by her emotions and won't be embarrassed at them, because others are.
And there's nothing more beautiful than a woman fighting for what she believes in and smashing her goals.

21/10/2024

There is nothing more beautiful, than when the universe sends you instant signs to say you are aligned.
It's like being loved and hugged, by a most potent energy.
When you take the time to connect to your higher self, make a practice of doing it each day.
The rewards are tenfold.

You experience peace within, and so it is without.
You no longer feel like you have to struggle to achieve your goals. You just put in the work and regularly see signs, that guide you.
Confusion becomes a thing of the past.
You develop trust in yourself once again, and decision-making becomes easier.
Fear disappears and in its place faith is restored.
Everything feels brighter and you have more clarity.
The need becomes a thing of the past and desires, turn into reality.

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Because disconnection means living a life that isn't half of the life you were designed for.

19/09/2024

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18/09/2024

What you believe about yourself and your capabilities is mirrored in your outer world. Changing your beliefs...is at the core of changing your life.

How you can easily change a challenging life into an amazing one.
It all starts here……

You see,
Your outer world is a deep reflection of your inner one.
What I mean by deep reflection of your inner one, is those thoughts, beliefs, and words that are ingrained in your subconscious, in the part of your brain, that is wired purely for survival. Not…happiness.

You see if you have had any type of trauma, there is no doubt it will have left its mark on your psyche, and in your body. But, thankfully not in your soul.

So to heal your psyche and body, we must address the soul too. Reconnect with it if you like, so that it can once again, manifest its pure beliefs and desires, about you and for you. Instead of allowing the traumatised psyche and body to manifest its negative beliefs, coming from the unresolved trauma.

If you believe you are worthy, people will treat you as if you have worth.
If you believe you are loveable, people will treat you as if you are loveable.
If you believe you are trustworthy, people will treat you as if they can trust you.
And so on.

The world and everything in it is a mirror. It reflects everything you believe about yourself. No matter what you wish for, or are trying to create and manifest.

Beliefs carry energy and they cast that energy out into the world, where it resonates with people, places, and things and then brings them back to us, in equal measure. That's why it's so important that we not only heal but also change our core beliefs.

And this can only be done through consistency and repetition.

Have you ever tried to look at yourself in the mirror and look deep into your eyes and say 'I love you.'
Or 'I appreciate you' or even 'I am proud of you?'
This is one of the simplest ways to check out your core beliefs, to understand and have awareness of what program is running in the background. If you are comfortable saying these things, your beliefs are self-supporting and if you are not, your beliefs are self-sabotaging.
And once you have identified your core beliefs, only then can you go about changing them.

For many years I worked on myself, not understanding why I could not be consistent in my practices. I would begin on Mondays, with a diet, which would would fall flat by Thursday. I would start an exercise program that would wane by the weekend. I would practice daily mantras, but conveniently forget that they existed when something else more interesting and which would give me a quick result, appeared.
I just couldn't be consistent, in many things. And the reason was I held a shed load of beliefs about myself, that spoke of the unworthiness to be able to change. They reflected a deep-seated feeling of not being enough, that there was no point in trying.

You see how important it is to have beliefs that speak of self-love and worthiness. It's essential if we want to become the best version of ourselves and enjoy and create the best life. And… have our outer world reflect us in healthy and fulfilling ways.

One of the other signs you may notice, when you have negative beliefs about yourself, is your tendency to look outside of yourself to feel good. Social media does a great job of tapping into this, as we seek external validation and worthiness through likes, shares, and subscriptions. Yes, all those things are wonderful if we don't need them to feel good. But if we do! There is work to be carried out.

So how do we begin to change our negative beliefs, to positive ones?

We begin in the mirror. By looking deep into our eyes and seeking our soul. We then speak the words of self-love and appreciation-

I love you
I appreciate you
I care for you
I believe in you.
As many times as it takes to be comfortable with them and believe that you are worthy of them.

2. Identify your negative beliefs, by looking at the results you have in key areas of your life, that are not working for you.

3. Ask yourself how these negative beliefs are impacting and restricting you in your life.

4. Write down the negative beliefs and then write down the opposite…ones that do support you. Then begin to replace and repeat them, every time you find yourself saying the negative ones in your mind.

5. Find evidence contrary to your belief. E.g. I can't look after myself -V- I have looked after myself so far and done a good job!

One of my favourites with my clients, to help them move out of a fearful state is to remind them that so far, they have a 100% success rate of survival. Meaning their belief about not being able to do something is just a lie because there is proof so far otherwise.

6. Re-enforce the new belief, by acting on it. E.g 'I can do it.' So, do it!

Beliefs are the gateway to creating the life we desire and deserve, as reflected by our soul, but because we have the body and mind too, we must be sure, that regardless of what we want to create and have, All three are working with us, not against us.

Thank you for reading me today. For expressing your thoughts and following me on my journey.
Much love
Nic xx
www.connectedtoself.com
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13/09/2024

A bit of weekend reading.
Make it a great one!❤

The Becoming

Everything you practice you eventually become. Of this, there is no doubt.
If you practice football, you become a footballer. You may or may not become the best footballer, or a famous one, because that might not be your purpose or destiny. Nevertheless, you will become a footballer.

The same goes for being a ballet dancer, a singer, a musician, an artist, and of course a writer.

Practicing something will always help you become something. But if we dig a little deeper into BECOMING, we begin to realise that there is a practice that precedes us BECOMING something, and being good at it and successful.
And that is the practice of connecting to ourselves. To our authenticity.

To connect we have to work on everything that is often blocking us, that disconnected us. The past, traumas, and pain - beliefs, energy. You know all that stuff. I am sure of it. Because no one escapes the roadblocks, be they big or small.
Neither you, nor me.

It's obvious after years of practising disconnection, that re-connecting to who we are, who we were before the pain came, is the key. To BECOMING.

It is good to know what you want to BECOME, but it is essential to know how to stay attached to that knowledge.

Like a blade of grass in a lawn, to be part of the lawn; to maintain its presence there, it has to stay attached to its source. It's life force. The vibrational energy, that makes it what it is.
So it feeds and it absorbs. And it rejoices in its BECOMING and belonging. (I know this because everything has energy. And it communicates with everything around it, including its own kind.)

So how do we get in and stay in our lane? BECOME - connected to our authenticity, our source.

We practice -
Being present, in the moment. Slowing down, looking around us, and just taking it all in.

Breathing, slowly, until the mind and body relaxes and then the soul will come forth and we will feel it. The peace of it. And we will hear, what it has to say. And what it wants to guide us in.

Speaking of what we love, consistently and with great intention from our hearts. To magnify, the magnificence that surrounds.

Express gratitude for what we have been blessed with, to ourselves and others. So joy is created, in and around us.

Commit to our growth, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Plan time sharing happiness. So it expands and increases the collective vibration.

Think 'We' and not 'I' and show this in our actions.

Feed ourselves and absorb the good things in life. Through our mouths, ears, eyes, noses, and skin. But most of all our hearts.

Give praise, compliments, and goodwill to all we come into contact with.

And offer encouragement when disheartenment and fear have overshadowed faith.

The biggest job we will ever have is ourselves. The longest journey we will ever take will be to return home. Some of us may make it in this lifetime, some in another. It matters not. What matters is that we keep practicing what it takes to BECOME who we are and stay connected to it.

I thank you today, for reading me. For walking with me on my journey. For following me on my path. And for sharing your thoughts about what you read and observe.
With much love
Nic xx
www.connectedtoself.com

13/08/2024

How to be a good leader or boss.

Can you consider what it would be like, to work for someone who not only educates you in the specific way you learn, so you can learn easily. But who is also invested in your complete well-being?

You were supported in managing your thoughts when things got rough, so you could handle your emotions and not get overwhelmed?
If you were trained to relentlessly persist in following your dreams and achieving your goals? And consistently applauded for it.

If you were educated in how to alchemise your energy, so that everyone you worked with and served, got the best of you. Felt your positive intentions and so therefore a bond of trust and deep connection was fostered. And success consistently arrives in your life.

If desperation to do well was banished and in it place an unshakeable belief in self and one's ability to succeed and radiate beautiful, well-meaning, and positive energy to all you meet.
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I believe in a world where you can be the person who offers this as a leader or boss. It's essential that everyone is a winner. So that all can feel worthy, valued, and enough.
So respect is a two-way straight that leads to an ability to talk things through and feel understood.
To be supported.
I am self-employed and so I do all these things for myself. I have not had the privilege of giving all these things to others who work for me. Do you? Are you in a position, to become a better person, through how you treat others?
By offering them the chance to thrive, instead of surviving.
Are you?
In the not-so-distant future, I dream of having people by my side, who will help me in my business, and I, in turn, will work to make them feel like, the most important people in the room.
Never underestimate your position as a leader and the endless positivity and impact you can have on those who you have chosen to have with you, on your journey to success.
Yes, there is money in business and in many things. But what will keep you inspired to continue is travelling the road to fulfillment, with good intention and love.
Thank you for reading me today. For following and supporting me on my quest, to inspire others to be the best version of themselves and to be inspired by them, as they do so.
With much love
Nic xx

13/08/2024

How to be a good leader or boss.
Photo by Rahabi Khan on UnsplashCan you consider what it would be like, to work for someone who not only educates you in the specific way you learn, so you can learn easily. But who is also invested in your complete wellbeing.
If you were supported in managing your thoughts when things got rough, so you could handle your emotions and not get overwhelmed?
If you were trained to relentlessly persist in following your dreams and achieving your goals? And consistently applauded for it.
If you were educated in how to alchemise your energy, so that everyone you worked with and served, got the best of you. Felt your positive intentions and so therefore a bond of trust and deep connection was fostered. And success was consistently arriving in your life.
If desperation to do well was banished and in it place an unshakeable belief in self and ones ability to succeed and radiate beautiful, well-meaning and positive energy to all you meet.
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I believe in a world where you can be the person who offers this as a leader or boss. I believe its essential, so that everyone is a winner. So that all can feel worthy, valued and enough.
So that respect is a two way straight that leads to an abiity to talk things through and feel understood.
To be supported.
I am self-employed and so I do all these things for myself. I have not the privilege of giving all these things to others who work for me. Do you? Are you in a position, to become a better person, through how you treat others?
By offering them the chance to thrive, instead of surviving.
Are you?
In the not so distant future, I dream of having people by my side, who will help me in my business and I, in turn will work to make them feel like, the most important people in the room.
Never underestimate your position as a leader and the endless positivity and impact you can have on those who you have chosen to have with you, on your journey to success.
Yes, there is money in business and in many things. But what will keep you inspired to continue is travelling the road to fulfillment, with good intention and love.
Thank you for reading me today. For following and supporting me on my quest, to inspire others to be the best version of themselves and to be inspired by them, as they do so.
With much love
Nic xx

13/08/2024

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How to be a good leader or boss.
Photo by Rahabi Khan on UnsplashCan you consider what it would be like, to work for someone who not only educates you in the specific way you learn, so you can learn easily. But who is also invested in your complete wellbeing.
If you were supported in managing your thoughts when things got rough, so you could handle your emotions and not get overwhelmed?
If you were trained to relentlessly persist in following your dreams and achieving your goals? And consistently applauded for it.
If you were educated in how to alchemise your energy, so that everyone you worked with and served, got the best of you. Felt your positive intentions and so therefore a bond of trust and deep connection was fostered. And success was consistently arriving in your life.
If desperation to do well was banished and in it place an unshakeable belief in self and ones ability to succeed and radiate beautiful, well-meaning and positive energy to all you meet.

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I believe in a world where you can be the person who offers this as a leader or boss. I believe its essential, so that everyone is a winner. So that all can feel worthy, valued and enough.
So that respect is a two way straight that leads to an abiity to talk things through and feel understood.
To be supported.
I am self-employed and so I do all these things for myself. I have not the privilege of giving all these things to others who work for me. Do you? Are you in a position, to become a better person, through how you treat others?
By offering them the chance to thrive, instead of surviving.
Are you?
In the not so distant future, I dream of having people by my side, who will help me in my business and I, in turn will work to make them feel like, the most important people in the room.
Never underestimate your position as a leader and the endless positivity and impact you can have on those who you have chosen to have with you, on your journey to success.
Yes, there is money in business and in many things. But what will keep you inspired to continue is travelling the road to fulfillment, with good intention and love.

Thank you for reading me today. For following and supporting me on my quest, to inspire others to be the best version of themselves and to be inspired by them, as they do so.
With much love
Nic xx
www.connectedtoself.com

31/07/2024

31/07/2024

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