The Feminist Therapist

02/12/2025

22/11/2025

You're always in charge, never forget that.

19/11/2025

It's to focus on remaining smart and grounded.

17/11/2025

Not deconditioning ourselves from male centeredness is a choice.

17/11/2025

Women sometimes are women's biggest bullies.

Sometimes we were even raised by bullies.

As women in this society if we don't heal trauma and refuse to make the effort to heal we will forever be insecure and act like bullies with other women even those within our own families, with our own daughters and nieces.

We will forever defend male abusers (and female) and victim blame.

We will forever raise our daughters to believe their worth lies in getting close to the pxdophilic beauty standard, being mothers and serving men and make them feel as their womanly bodies are repulsive.

We will forever neglect our emotional and smexual needs to keep the peace with our partners and teach our daughters and/or nieces the same.

It's not always easy to break free from the mold and stay on track.

It's sometimes lonely to be a free and confident woman.

But yet from personal experience there is no better experience of life than living it knowing your worth and being able to set and uphold your sacred boundaries.

Even if it comes with it's set of challenges.

I promise you'll end up attracting your tribe. people who actually want to see you shine and not waiting for an opportunity to stab you in the back or take you down because they secretly envy you.

But you have to be willing to loose people, let them go. Be brave to walk your path according to your truth even if it feels lonely at times.

Know you're not alone on this journey, I'm right here with you goddess.

16/11/2025

Don't let insecure women pull you down, your voice and thoughts matter.

27/10/2025

Some people will call you cold or heartless for having boundaries.

Those people will be the ones frustrated that they can't take advantage of you anymore or abuse you freely.

As women we are raised to believe we have to tolerate some level of mistreatment otherwise we'll be rejected or called to high maintenance, arrogant, full of ourselves and that we'll end up alone.

The trap is we believe everyone when it's not true. We're conditioned to accept gender based oppression and be people pleasers so our society can keep functioning.

Because our society is lazy af and feeds off women's energy.

And when a woman is confident and has boundaries, a lot of people will proceed to try to pull her down or try to make her shift back into a people pleaser.

Having boundaries and being confident as a woman is an act of rebellion against this society and its toxic family structure.

So when you assess boundaries as a woman not everyone will understand them but understand this : people who truly love you and deserve you will understand them fully and fully embrace the confident version of you, remind you even of who you are when you doubt.

Because that's what real love is, it's to want to see each other be our powerful selves, succeed and be inspired by each other.

That's what a healthy society looks like.

So goddess, step into those boundaries and be your true self unapologetically.

It is your birthright to be respected, cherished and honoured just like everyone else.

There is a seat already awaiting for you at the table of winners in life, take it, it's fu***ng yours.

12/10/2025

Dark psychology of the zodiac signs - welcome Scorpio season ♏✨

Make sure to check your rising, moon, Venus and mars signs too to get a more thorough view of your personality.

09/10/2025

Life is either a journey of constant rebirths or a fight for control and against change.

We all have been wired in this society to be extremely psychorigid to the point sometimes it can be very painful to actually surrender and flow with life, let expansion take place.

We'll fight against it even and perceive it as a threat instead of embracing change and expansion which are the only constant in life.

Expansion requires letting go of what we know, beliefs and be willing to let things unfold, feel, experience without judgement or rejection.

Be willing to step in the unknown, letting go of our own judgements and certain belief systems.

Because stepping in your authentic self and blossoming into her isn't comfortable, it never is.

It's an amazing experience but it also comes with its sets of challenges like watching our life unfold into something we've never seen before, different that what we thought we wanted, speaking our truth and hearts and being brave, overcoming our own judgements and resistance etc...

And it's human to resist the unknown and expansion especially in our society.

It's human to try to hold onto things that feel familiar and safe, being afraid of the chaos inside of us, the turmoil, the discomfort, the change and wanting to control it, make it stop or push it away.

Yet only through fully embracing change and facing our inner storm, our emotions, the discomfort can we fully blossom into our powerful selves and purpose.

Be led by love and walk in purpose.

Which in return leads to contributing to the creation of better world.

You're strong enough to let it all go goddess, let yourself die and rise back up like a phoenix 🐦‍🔥 you ARE the phoenix 🔥 never forget that.

23/09/2025

It's not partnership that you want or your relationship to change

But liberation from the weight of your traumas.

and because you're too scared to explore, you find distractions to focus on whether that is the lack of partnership or the abusive/avoidant partner you chose that drains your energy.

I used to live like this myself. And it's not about lazyness because the fear is real and it's human to be scared of the unknown.

But the thing is, living like this running away from ourselves and creating more pain (because that's what happens) is not living and keeps us stuck in a reality filled with pain.

And you deserve better, we all do.

Everyone deserves a life filled with happiness and love.

But are you willing to face it all though ?

Let go of your comfort zone and safety bubble where you can control the narrative and outcome. Where you're unhappy but at least you feel in control.

And you know, creating a life that doesn't move you much and with known cycles that repeat themselves to feel in control is not really truly being in your power.

It's a very fragile type of way of building a life actually bc there is nothing actually solid enough to last or blossom.

And then at one point you're left with the last option to cope : blaming the state of your life on external circumstances, your partner, people and/or your childhood etc...

Maybe even bashing also others to feel better because ultimately you feel powerless and stuck.

I've been there.

And I really had to take a good look at myself at some point in my life because I was spiralling down.

I was the one responsible for the state of my life, the partners I chose, the people I allowed to take advantage of me over and over again and the energy I was putting out.

No one was holding a gun to my head, I wasn't a defenseless child anymore.

I was making those choices.

It's when I understood I had the power to face myself and heal, make different choices that my life and I started to change into a happier and more empowered version.

A version that allows me today to welcome each wave of growth with open arms instead of running away.

20/09/2025

It's not easy to look at ourselves, sometimes it's confusing even, realizing there are blind spots we are unaware off. But it's worth diving and exploring fully because there lies our liberation ✨

18/09/2025

Psychological rigidity is what traps us and prevent us from experiencing happiness and love.

Psychological rigidity stems from a nervous system conditioned in chaos and is a coping mecanism of a deep feeling of insecurity in the world due to a disconnect from oneness.

It's a lack of connexion with life force energy and source.

In result of that we attached ourselves to misaligned beliefs and ways of living that arent supporting our expansion but make us feel safe and help us cope with this deep insecurity.

We'll call it common sense even because it will feel true to us whilst mistaking the feeling of safety and comfort for the feeling of truth.

This is why also we're vulnerable to being manipulated, and easily pit against each other.

In reality, real truth feels uncomfortable and pushes us to grow. Truth is never comfortable.

It makes us face uncomfortable feelings and ourselves.

It asks us to let go of control, trauma, trust the unknown and have blind faith. Asks us to be brave and trust that things will fall into harmony and we will experience harmony.

That's how we used to live and are meant to live.

In surrender.

That's where living in harmony with nature and alignement with love starts.

How I know this ? Because my psychological rigidity used to tell me it wasn't safe to explore my traumas and wounds.

It told me I was better off avoiding intimacy and vulnerability.

It also told me that the only true love was conditional and that my arrogance was a sign of ambition and intelligence.

It made me believe chasing money was empowering and abundance lied in wealth.

And finally that I was powerless and had to fight in this world if I wanted to regain and remain in my power.