01/05/2023
I just wanted to share something. On Saturday, my daughter had her very first show at her riding club. She was so excited to wear her show outfit and do the course. She was in poles category. We know how big of a step forward that was for her to stretch herself outside of her comfort zone. She is not a child that likes all eyes on her, abd can be quite shy and unsure in new groups, and especially events, this was her first ever after football gala when she was 8 years old, and really struggled to take part, but loved playing football ⚽️ ❤️She did her course and went out there on Saturday and was so happy and proud of herself even though it didn't go exactly to how she planned it... she didn't place. However, we both know that she did her best and I said to her :"let your best be enough, look how far you have come 🥰" .
After the show, she posted picture of herself on social media with the phrase "first show".... she was super happy and proud that she did it in front of many people 👏 however, this quickly turn into sadness after one of the girls commented and send my daughter voice messages telling her "girl ,what show ,you only did poles ,that's not even a show ,wait till you do jumping then it's a show ..." this obviously hurt my daughter's feelings. She became angry and snappy with me (didn't tell me yet) ,and I kept asking is everything OK? I'm so grateful, that both of my children share with me things that bug them in their own time ,but they do... I have seen and heard the massages that girl sent to my daughter, and it got me so angry and mad ... I let myself feel that way ,naming how I was feeling... then, I had a chat with my daughter and explained to her :" This girl's response to your post comes from her own insecurities, from fear, it is envious. She compares you to her. However, you are not her ,you only compare yourself to yourself and look at your own progress in this circumstances. You know you did the best you could have done, and let it be enough. You are worthy of trying ,of taking part in the show ,and of being happy and proud of yourself. Don't let anyone dim your light ✨️"