20/12/2025
Is it better to have loved and lost, than never having loved at all?
I’d have said yes with absolute conviction. Of course it is. Love is a many splendid thing. It makes the world go round. Let’s hear it for love…
I’ve been lucky in love, and then some. Gambling? I couldn’t back a winner in a one-horse race. Seriously. I don’t gamble. I know better. But love, bring it on. But is it better to have loved and lost? What do I know? I was unsure. Losing in love must hurt. It must tear at the heartstrings. Is the abject pain of losing in love worth it? I have a friend. We grew up together. Only child, an accident if truth be known, and his parents showed him precious little love during his childhood. So love, was his quest. At 17, he met a girl of the same age. They began dating and my friend thought he’d died and gone to Heaven. It was everything he ever dreamed of. What did he do? Well three weeks into the relationship, his craving for love was so much, he went down on one knee and proposed to her ! The young girl was shocked to be honest. She explained to him that they were both 17 and had been dating for 3 weeks (21 days) Quite rightly, she refused his offer of marriage and the very next day she told him it was over. My friend was devastated. His whole world caved in upon him. Even back then, I had an interest in Tarot. I was only a kid really, but I wasn’t bad at all in simple 3 card readings, and my friend knew this. In his despair, he wanted to know if he would love again? Wanted to know if heartbreak would be his destiny? I can’t remember the exact cards back then, but it wasn’t good. Even without the reading, my friend swore to himself that no one would ever hurt him again. I am a rock. I am an island. I kid you not. He moved out of his parents’ house at once and went to live on his own. He thew himself into his work and ultimately became a top government scientist.
Did my friend ever find love. Well, no. But only because he never again looked for love. Love for him, lasted just 21 days and in the end, never did him any favours. Nobody would ever hurt him again. Ever. A sad tale.
Is it better to have loved and lost, than never having loved at all?
Give it some thought…