Accrington Counselling & Wellbeing Service

29/12/2025

DBTSkills

26/12/2025

In Buddhism, speech is not taken lightly.
It is part of the Noble Eightfold Path — Right Speech.
Why? Because words shape the mind, and the mind shapes reality.

🧠 Your mind believes what you repeatedly tell it.
Every sentence you speak is a seed planted in consciousness.

When you keep saying:
❌ “I’m tired.”
❌ “I’m broke.”
❌ “I’m stuck.”

You are not just describing your condition —
you are training your mind to cling to suffering (dukkha).

Buddhism teaches that suffering is fueled by repetition, identification, and attachment.
The moment you say “I am this”, you start becoming it.

✨ So change the language. Change the direction.

Start saying:
✅ “I’m learning.” — because wisdom arises from awareness.
✅ “I’m building.” — because effort (Right Effort) creates transformation.
✅ “I’m becoming unstoppable.” — because discipline weakens ignorance.

These are not lies.
They are skillful intentions.

🌱 Every word you speak is karma in motion.
Speech creates mental habits.
Mental habits shape actions.
Actions shape destiny.

Speak defeat — and the mind contracts.
Speak clarity — and the mind steadies.
Speak strength — and the mind rises.

🪷 You are not “just talking.”
You are conditioning your consciousness.
You are either feeding ignorance…
or cultivating wisdom.

As the Buddha taught:

> “Mind precedes all things. Mind is their chief; they are all mind-made.”

🔔 Choose your words as you would choose your path.
Because what you say today
becomes how you think tomorrow
and how you live thereafter.

✨ Choose your magic wisely. ✨
Not loudly.
Not aggressively.
But mindfully, gently, truthfully.

🧘‍♂️ Speak less suffering.
🌼 Speak more awareness.
🔥 Speak the life you wish to awaken.

25/12/2025

💜 Sometimes it’s so hard to cry, maybe because we’ve been conditioned so early in life? ‘Only babies cry, or I’ll give you something to cry for’. Whatever the reason, go with what helps you. Healing is different for everyone. 💜

24/12/2025

Proud to of known and privileged to of worked with so many of you lovely people too ❤️x keep being you x

Much of your journey happened quietly,
in moments when no one was watching.

You learned to mend your own heart,
to sit with pain, and still choose growth.

There were times you had to become
your own comfort,
your own encouragement,
your own place of safety.
Those inner battles shaped you deeply.

Even if the world doesn’t fully understand,
your soul knows what it took to arrive here.

You are still standing.
Still learning.
Still becoming.

And that silent courage
is something truly to be proud of.

24/12/2025

Peace and love to all ❤️❤️x

The detachment Era..

24/12/2025

22/12/2025

Emotions are meant to move, not be suppressed or resisted.

They carry messages, not permanent states.
When you fight a feeling, it stays trapped inside.
When you numb it, it goes quiet only to return later.
But when you allow an emotion to be fully felt,
without judgment or escape,
the body understands that it is safe to release it.
Sadness softens.
Anger loses its grip.
Fear passes through.
This is how emotions complete their natural cycle — by being felt, honored, and gently let go.🌿

19/12/2025

Sending love to…
those who don’t feel excited about the holidays.
Those who are tired of being strong.
Those going through big challenges this year.
Those taking things one day at a time.
Those who feel stuck but haven’t stopped trying.
Those spending the holidays alone.

This season can feel heavy in ways that are hard to explain.
Not everyone feels joyful.
Not everyone feels grateful.
And not everyone has the energy to pretend they’re okay.

If you’re moving slowly, that’s still movement.
If you’re resting, that’s still progress.
If you’re just getting through the day, that is more than enough.

You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You don’t need to feel festive to be worthy of love.
And you don’t need to be strong every moment to be brave.

Let this be a reminder that you are not alone in how you feel.
That many hearts are navigating this season softly, carefully, honestly.
And that simply being here, still trying, still hoping
is already something to be proud of.

Sending love to you,
especially if this spoke to your heart. 🤍🥰

16/12/2025

Your true self ✨

08/12/2025

Psychic Defenses Initiated by Trauma

1. Shame

Shame forms in environments where love is conditional, mistakes are punished, or the child is blamed for the emotional instability of adults. It is not low self-esteem — it is self-protection. The unconscious logic is simple: “If I punish myself first, others can’t hurt me.” By attacking itself, the psyche tries to control the source of pain. Shame becomes a preemptive strike, reducing conflict and preventing humiliation in a threatening environment. It works as a child because self-attack feels safer than external attack. As an adult, the protection becomes the prison: the danger is gone, but shame keeps shrinking you anyway, blocking connection, opportunity, and vulnerability.

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