05/02/2026
Note: Sensitive Content – Positive Outcome
As the primary carer for my 84-year-old father for the past decade, I have faced many challenges, and my background in First Aid and Pre-Hospital Care has been invaluable.
Recently, I was called to the A&E department after being informed that my father was experiencing a heart attack. Fortunately, I live nearby and was able to arrive quickly. Upon entering his room, the consultant, in my father's presence, asked whether a Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) order was in place or if I wished to establish one.
At the time, my father was under the influence of morphine and in the midst of a heart attack. As a trainer familiar with the ReSPECT process, I found the timing and manner of this discussion inappropriate. The consultant proceeded to explain the implications of CPR, including the potential for prolonged intensive care and diminished quality of life, despite acknowledging that my father would not experience pain. It was also suggested that a DNR could be added to his file at the discretion of any doctor if deemed in his best interest.
This conversation was distressing, and I spent two hours at my father's side, uncertain about his prognosis. When I later asked if it was appropriate to leave for the night, the consultant reassured me that he was stable.
Despite my professional resilience and training, I found the situation deeply affecting and felt strongly that this was not the appropriate context for such a conversation. The following day, another doctor apologized and agreed that the timing and setting were not suitable for this important discussion.
After seven days in hospital, my father has returned home. I wish to clarify that a DNACPR (Do Not Attempt Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation) or DNR order does not mean the withdrawal or denial of treatment. It is only enacted if the patient experiences cardiac arrest. All other treatments and care continue as appropriate. The purpose of DNACPR/DNR is to ensure a dignified end-of-life experience.
For reference, I have included the UK Resuscitation Council article on the ReSPECT process to provide further information.
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ReSPECT for patients and carers | Resuscitation Council UK
