11/08/2025
🐾 'Reflections on the Lead' Series
Reactivity is loud, scary, embarrassing, and overwhelming. But, the truth is: Reactivity is a conversation, and our energy is a part of that dialogue.
Our dogs, just like us are saying they don't feel safe. And, as sensitive, emotional beings ourselves, we often have our own inner reactions before we even register our dog’s.
Our heart races.
Our chest tightens.
Our brain jumps to 'Oh no, here we go again…'
Without meaning to, we join the conversation in fear, not calm.
But here’s the beauty in that awareness: We can change our response. We can choose to listen instead of react. Start by softening your perspective: Instead of saying 'my dog’s being reactive again', try…
'My dog’s trying to tell me something'
This reframing brings curiosity. Compassion. Space to pause instead of panic.
🌿Essential oil support for emotional spaciousness:
Benzoin - Grounding and strengthening to ease overthinking and worry
Clary Sage – for clarity when emotions feel foggy
Cedarwood – stabilising, for holding you steady and safe when the world feels big
Ylang Ylang – to soothe the inner drama, ground the heart and help self-confidence
Inhale and let the oils shift your state. Feel into your body before responding to your dog’s.
Ask yourself:
'What might my dog need right now'?
'And what do I need, in this moment, to respond with presence'?
This isn’t about fixing. It’s about listening.
And often, the most healing thing we can offer is simply this:
'I hear you, I’ve got you'
You and your dog are learning each other’s language. That’s not failure — it’s partnership in progress. Keep going.