Wendy McCallum The Anti-stress Angel

20/11/2025

Today, a fellow Mum of autistic kids told me that my posts give her hope for the future, and it gave me such a warm feeling, it was really lovely 💞 Her children are younger than mine, and the future often feels uncertain so knowing that Connor and Mitch are doing well helps her to know that there is hope that her children will thrive too.

I know that many of my clients value the hope I give them in our sessions, but it's great to know that my posts are hitting the spot too. Please always feel free to share encouraging stories that you'd like me to share with others. I can do that anonymously and give even more people hope. There's a lot of fear out there, let's spread more love and hope 💞🙏

19/11/2025

Christmas (and the lead up to Christmas) can be lots of fun and/or very stressful with an autistic child.

How can I help you get ready? What questions do you have? What hints or tips would be helpful?

Please ask as many questions as you like, and also, please share any tips that may be useful to others. Thank you!

18/11/2025

If you have other suggestions, please share them in the comments or by DM, thank you.

If you have friends or family who have an autistic child who you buy a Christmas present for, please help make Christmas easier for everyone and ask what gift they would like. I know that might be challenging if you are someone who likes to give surprises, but most (I appreciate not all) autistic children don't like surprises.

Please ask for what they would like and get the specific details of the item, the brand and where it can be bought to avoid disappointment for the child when they don't get what they would like and for you when they don't look happy with what they have received.

Please don't be tempted to buy a different version unless you've asked the parents if that will be welcome. You may think a bigger version is more exciting, the child may not. You may think that a different brand offers better value, the child may not understand that and just want the brand they asked for.

It's also worth checking if the size of the present is important if they have siblings to compare with (this does not just apply to autistic kids!). Many kids don't understand what things cost and just want the biggest box!

Don't be surprised if the item seems too young for the child or if it seems way too adult! These rules don't exist for many autistic children, their special interests are what they are so please accept that they may not be what you would expect of a child their age.

I appreciate it's not easy but I know it will be appreciated. 🙏💕

17/11/2025

Here's what's possible when we decide to ask for help and take action.

This lady was feeling overwhelmed and like she was a bad parent because she wasn't sure she was doing the "right" things to help her newly-diagnosed autistic son.

Together, we looked at the best ways for her to reduce the overwhelm and to know that she was doing her best as a Mum.

She now feels less overwhelmed, is clear about how to support her son and has a better-balanced family life. This is why I love my job

If you’d like to know more about how I work, please check out my website:
www.wendymccallum.co.uk

or book a *FREE* 30-minute Compatibility Call to see if we’d like to work together.
https://wendymccallumcalendar.as.me/freecompatibilitycall

13/11/2025

On World Kindness Day, what are you going to do/say to yourself that is kind, or what have you done for yourself or said to yourself that is kind?

I allowed myself to feel into my sadness this morning. My heart chakra needed some attention and I was gentle with myself.

What about you?

11/11/2025

I'll be honest and say that sometimes running my own business feels challenging. There is always something to do, when all I really want to be doing is speaking to, and helping, Mums of autistic kids.

What really helps me is remembering my vision for the future:
Imagine a world where all the Mums of autistic kids feel well-supported, prioritise their self-care and confidently advocate for their child as they navigate their journey to success. A world where these kids know that their differences are superpowers, that they will be treated fairly and inclusively and are confident of making their own mark on the world in their own special way.

That is the world I dream of and I’m playing my part in creating it.

What helps you to keep going when life is feeling tough?

06/11/2025

What are the positive things about living with an autistic child?

As well as being a mentor to Mums of autistic kids (diagnosed or not), I am the Mum of an autistic son (Connor, and because of that, I'm in various FB support groups and follow people who have wise words to share.

One of the challenges is that a lot of the content that is shared focuses on all the things that aren't going well:
SEN children not being supported in school
EHCPs being refused
SEN children not feeling able to attend school
Diagnoses taking years

All of that is happening, and I feel great empathy for all the children and their families who are dealing with it all (we have had and continue to have our own challenges, too).

However, it's not the whole story, and I don't feel you're seeing enough about the successes and small wins.

If you've been friends with me or following me for a while, you'll know that the early years for Connor at primary were a nightmare. He didn't feel safe and constantly ran out of the classroom. None of the teachers thought that he'd cope in mainstream for long.

THEY WERE WRONG! He thrived when he got into KS2, had some wobbles starting secondary and then did well, and is currently in his 3rd year at 6th form college and loves it! He walks to college safely, which he couldn't have done 3 years ago.

So, please know that it is not all doom, gloom and despondency. Equally, it's not all roses and rainbows. It's just living life with an autistic child.

So, just for today, please focus on the positive and the small and big wins, and please share them so that we can celebrate with you.

05/11/2025

A friend of mine was asked for a recommendation for support for an autistic teenager. My friend gave this Mum my details and her response was "I didn't think about getting support for me ...." It's very natural for us to focus on our children, especially when they are autistic, but, interestingly, this Mum hadn't thought about support for herself, or probably, that it was available.

I'm here to hold your hand as you ponder what's important to you and your family. To give you a sounding board if you're not sure if you're making the right decisions, and for the days when you feel like you're being a rubbish parent and need reassuring that you're not. I've been there, I know what it's like and I live this life. I'll share my wisdom and experience along with practical tips and support, and I will never judge you for the life you live or the decisions that you make. We all have to find our own way.

A friend of mine was asked for a recommendation for support for an autistic teenager. My friend gave this Mum my details, and her response was "I didn't think about getting support for me ...." It's very natural for us to focus on our children, especially when they are autistic, but, interestingly, this Mum hadn't thought about support for herself, or probably, that it was available.

04/11/2025

Many of us get stiff and aching shoulders because we spend lots of time on laptops and/or driving. You can use the reflexology points on your hands to help ease tension in your shoulders. The colder weather can also cause us to hunch up, so please use this to help.

22/10/2025

Here in the south, it's nearly the end of this half-term. Both my boys are tired and are definitely in need of a rest. Some of your kids may be the same. If they're in nursery/school/college, they may use up all their energy coping with the environment and be ready for a break. Some others may find the confines of education settings restrictive and need to run around and play.

What matters is that you give your kids (and you) the opportunity to do what they need to do to reset. If that means PJs every day, that's great. If it means lots of activities that use up physical energy, that's great. Or any combination of those, or anything else that works for you.

As a parent, don't feel guilty about not doing what other families are doing. They are different to you and that's ok. Please read that again. They are different to you and that's ok.

21/10/2025

On Sunday, my lovely friend Anna Grace Taylor held a launch event for her angel cards, Messages of Grace. I was fortunate enough to be there and experienced the amazing energy in the room, and from the cards, they are really special. One of the meditations was particularly powerful when three of our voices joined together and created something wonderfully healing. I don't think I've ever experienced anything like it before.

If angel cards are your thing, or you're interested in experimenting with them, please find the details to order in Anna's post. Thank you 🙏💞

Messages of Grace Angel Cards are finally launched in the UK today! 🌟💜

Overflowing with comforting and loving messages from the Angels, these cards offer divine insights into confidence, relationships, purpose, and more. Perfect for moments of reflection or as a tool to navigate life's twists and turns, this deck will help you trust your innate compass and intuition.

I'm still riding the wave of love and gratitude from our event on Sunday.

But to know they now have wings to fly towards more of you in my part of the world is such a beautiful feeling!

Thank you, Angels, for helping me spread your love and wisdom wherever it is needed.

Thank you to all of YOU here who have bought the deck already. It means the world to me.

And if you haven't ordered your copy and want to, you can here:

https://annagracetaylor.com/angel-cards-messages-of-grace/

Thank you so very much!

Lots of love
Anna

P.S. If you are in the US and Canada, you can pre-order them too. (Just a few more weeks to wait ;) )

15/10/2025

Last night we were discussing how divorced women were vilified in society, as witnessed in the fictional dramas The Gilded Age and Downton Abbey. My Mum mentioned that her Aunt had been a divorced woman when it was unusual (the 1930s and 40s) and was considered a "scarlet woman" and "easy prey".

Connor reacted by saying, "It's disgusting that divorced women should be treated like that, and that they should be considered easy prey for r*pists". He didn't use the work because he finds the concept repugnant.

With all the horrible comments that can be found online about women and how to treat them, I'm so glad that Connor is not swayed and is clear in his beliefs. I'm very proud, and it's very reassuring 💞