Future You Therapies with Laura Southam

01/01/2025

Wishing you all a happy and healthy 2025!

25/12/2024

This time of year can be a challenge for many - if that applies to you, please know that you are not alone! If you need support today, there are free listening services avaliable that offer confidential support from trained volunteers.

Call 116 123 to talk to Samaritans, or email: jo@samaritans.org for a reply within 24 hours

Text "SHOUT" to 85258 to contact the Shout Crisis Text Line, or text "YM" if you're under 19

If you're under 19, you can also call 0800 1111 to talk to Childline. The number will not appear on your phone bill.

Sending love to you all ###

14/12/2024

This is a very interesting article for anyone curious about hypnotherapy!

Hypnosis is safe and can work as both a stand-alone or a complementary treatment with other therapies.

05/09/2024

Fears and phobia's are some of my favourite issues to help you kick to the curb - be it a common concern, like the client who used to run away from spiders who can now catch and release them calmly, or something less common, like the client who was frightened of fruit and veg who was able to happily munch on carrots at the end of our session 🥕

I've got a very open mind and have heard it all by now, so if you have a fear or phobia holding you back, I can help!

04/09/2024

I saw an interesting sign outside a local dentists this morning - "Nervous about seeing a dentist? We offer sedation". That is certainly one option, but removing those nerves is a better way to go! If you want to know how I can help you do that, get in touch. 😁

01/01/2024

Happy New Year! Wishing you all a happy and peaceful 2024 x

24/12/2023

I'd like to wish you all a calm and peaceful Christmas.

The festive season can be a really hard time for some of us, so here’s a list of useful numbers that might help:

Remember that it’s ok to ask for help!

Feel free to share or add your own

The Samaritans 116 123 jo@samaritans.org

Support Line 020 8554 9004

Transgender Support Line 07527 524034

Careline 0845 122 8622 Mon-Fri 10am-1pm, 7-10pm

Mind 0845 766 0163 Mon-Fri 9am-5pm

Rethink 0845 456 0455 or 0207 840 3188 advice@rethink.org

Saneline 0845 767 8000 6 - 11pm daily. Offers multilingual support

NHS Direct 111 24 hour Self Injury Support

R**e & Sexual Abuse Support 0808 802 9999 Daily 12 - 2.30pm, 7 - 9.30pm

Survivors UK for male abuse victims 0845 122 1201 Mon, Tue, Thur 7 - 9.30pm

National Self Harm Network 0800 622 6000 7 - 11pm

Anxiety Alliance 0845 296 7877 10am - 10pm anxietyalliance@ntlworld.com

No Panic 0808 808 0545

Anxiety UK 08444 775 774 Mon-Fri 9.30am - 5.30pm support@anxietyuk.org.uk

Depression Alliance 0845 123 23 20

B-eat Eating Disorder Association 08456 341 414 Mon-Fri 12 noon-5 or 8.30 help@b-eat.co.uk

Crossline National Christian Helpline 0300 111 0101 9am - midnight

OCD Action 0845 390 62 32 10-4 Mon-Fri support@ocdaction.org.uk

Young Minds for parents 0808 802 5544 Mon-Fri 9.30am -4pm parents@youngminds.org.uk

Hearing Voices 0845 122 86 42 Tues 1 - 4pm

Premier Lifeline (Christian) 0300 111 0101 Daily 9am - 12mn

Chinese Mental Health Association 0845 1228 660 Mon-Fri 4-6pm

BPD World Support for Borderline Personality Disorder 08700 053 273

Bipolar UK 0333 323 3880 or 020 7931 6480 info@bipolaruk.org.uk

Domestic Violence 0808 2000 247 24 hour

Survivors of bereavement by su***de 0844 561 6855 9am - 9pm daily

Cruse Bereavement 0844 477 9400 9 - 5pm

Alcoholics Anonymous 0845 769 7555

Frank (drugs) 0800 77 66 00 24 hours Multilingual

Narcotics Anonymous 0300 999 1212

Alzheimers Society 0845 300 0336

Dementia helpline 8.30 - 6.30 Mon-Fri

Post-Natal Illness 020 7386 0868 office hours

Parentline 0808 800 2222

Muslim Youth Helpline 0808 808 2008 Mon - Fri 6pm - 12mn Sat - Sun 12noon - 12mn help@myh.org.uk

Muslim Community Helpline 0208 904 8193, 0208 908 6715 Mon - Fri 10am - 1pm The Samaritans

Jewish Helpline 0800 652 9249 Sun-Thurs 12-12mn Friday 12-3pm (winter) & 12-6pm (summer)

Rethink - Asian mental health helpline 0808 800 2073 Mon & Wed 4 - 7pm, Tues & Thur 12 - 3pm

National Debtline 0808 808 4000 Mon - Fri 9am-9pm, Sat 9.30am-1pm

ASIST Gypsy and Traveller su***de and depression helpline 07393561735

CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) Help for men with a variety of issues 0800 58 58 58 5pm-midnight 365 days a year.

Web chat: https://www.thecalmzone.net/help/get-help/ 5pm-midnight 365 days a year.

National Breastfeeding Line 0300 100 0212

NCT Breastfeeding Line 0300 330 0700

Shelter - housing and homelessness advice 0808 800 4444.

Shout text counselling - adults

Www.giveusashout.org

Get help with CALM's helpline and webchat. We are here to listen, support, inform & signpost with our free, confidential and anonymous services. Contact us today.

19/11/2023

Happy international men's day! I'm very lucky to have some wonderful men in my life, who embody love, generosity, and care. Wishing all the guys out there a good day today x

27/10/2023

There is a lot going on in the world, and it's really easy to become overwhelmed.

A really quick and easy way to deal with overwhelm is to write down everything that is bothering you on sticky notes - one thing per note.🟨

You might find that some of those things don't feel as important once they are out of your head. Toss them in the bin. 🗑

Make a tiny ball out of any issue over which you have no influence or control. Throw those into the bin too. Bonus points if you throw them from a distance! 🏀

Seeing each remaining issue individually will allow you to concentrate on one problem at a time, and come up with a practical next step you can take to ease it. Even small steps work to move the problem forward, and give us the comfort that comes from taking action.

That overwhelm will soon subside

12/10/2023

Time for some self care! I love gong baths, they definitely help me to relax... I'm often the one who falls fast asleep after the first 5 minutes! Have you ever tried one? X

01/07/2023

Hello lovely!

The benefit of getting older is having made mistakes and (hopefully!) learnt from them. Here are a few things I wish I had known 20 years ago:

1. Your 20s and 30s disappear quicker than you'd imagine, but don't worry too much about that - mentally, you'll feel about 23 forever.

2. If you've got a view of where you'd like to be in 10 years' time, start the journey now. Things don't happen by magic, and you need a plan of action.

3. The things you worry about probably won't happen. The things that hurt you will likely be a surprise. Find tools to help you stop worrying as it's a complete waste of your precious time.

4. You never know how long you have with someone. Make the most of it.

5. The people who hurt you rarely cast themselves as the villain in their own story. Holding on to anger, expecting them to suffer, will never help. Let it go, for your own sake.

What would you add to my list?

Love
Laura x

15/04/2023

Hello lovelies

I've been investing more time in my self care recently and have been reminded of the importance of building our resilience, especially when things are good, to help avoid ill health when life gets hard.

In a stressful, fast-changing world, boosting resilience could help prevent issues like depression and anxiety from developing, whilst boosting self-confidence and positivity.

Dr Karen Reivich outlined 7 'learnable' skills that help build resilience:

1. Emotional awareness or regulation - the ability to identify and control your feelings

2. Impulse control - the ability to tolerate ambiguity, and sit back and think before making a decision

3. Realistic optimism - being able to realistically explore problems in an optimistic manner

4. Causal analysis - the ability to look at problems from many perspectives and consider many factors

5. Empathy - the ability to read and understand the emotions of others, to facilitate relationship building and social support

6. Self-efficacy - understanding your strengths and weaknesses and having confidence in your ability to solve problems

7. Reaching out - being prepared to take appropriate risks, and accept that failure is a necessary part of life.

Are you as resilient as you need to be, or do you need to practice some of the skills above?

Love

Laura x