Laura How

24/11/2025

“Weaponising s*x” gets used to describe everything from s*xless marriages to s*xual withholding. This video explains what it actually is, what it isn’t, and how to tell the difference between defensive stonewalling, s*xual avoidance, and coercive control.

We’ll look at why intent matters, how to tell defensive withdrawal from abuse, and why some partners shut down even when they still care about you. I also cover what to do if your partner won’t change, and what to do if you’ve realised you’re the one who’s withdrawn.

In this video:
✔️ The 5 withdrawal patterns
✔️ What “weaponising s*x” actually means
✔️ The “my body my choice” dilemma in monogamous relationships
✔️ When coldness becomes emotional abuse
✔️ The 5 signs a partner won’t change
✔️ What to do if you’re the one withdrawing

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ioRe-awXQ50

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“Weaponising s*x” gets used to describe everything from s*xless marriages to s*xual withholding. This video explains what it actually is, what it isn’t, and ...

18/11/2025

My husband watched a video where a creator was teaching men how to “get lucky” with their wives.

A whole checklist of tricks, hoops and performances, all with a wink to the women watching, as if a husband simply asking for s*x is absurd.

Imagine telling a woman, “Oh, you want a meaningful conversation where you feel heard and appreciated? Sure, that’ll be a 30-minute b***job.”

We’d all see how ridiculous it sounds.

S*x and trust are not commodities.

They’re part of what makes a marriage a marriage.

PS. This isn’t about encouraging women having unwanted s*x. Watch the full YouTube video for context.

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17/11/2025

S*x and trust are not “extras” in marriage, they are the core of it.

When trust breaks down, so does s*x. When s*x disappears, so does faith in the relationship.

In this video, I explain how these two forces are inseparable, why both partners rely on them in different ways, and what happens to a marriage when either one is withheld, avoided, or treated as optional.

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S*x and trust are not “extras” in marriage, they are the core of it. When trust breaks down, so does s*x. When s*x disappears, so does faith in the relations...

06/11/2025

I was genuinely honoured to sit down with Warren Farrell, Ph.D. this week.

His book The Boy Crisis shaped how Russell and I parent, and his new work Role Mate to Soul Mate aligns so closely with what we teach couples about communication and trust.

This conversation is all about learning to listen before it’s too late.

🎥 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFv2EyrYGYQ

If this conversation resonates, share it with someone who’s trying to keep love alive instead of giving up on it. ❤️

Relationship communication expert Dr Warren Farrell joins me, Laura How to discuss defensiveness, conflict, and how couples can rebuild intimacy through inte...

02/11/2025

LIVE Q&A – S*x, Marriage & Mental Health
I’ll be live with Dr. Psych Mom (Dr Samantha Rodman Whiten) on Friday, December 5th at 11am EST / 4pm GMT for an open conversation about love, s*x, marriage, and mental health.

We’ll be answering your live questions... nothing off-limits!

🔔 Set your reminder and join us here:
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Join me live on Friday, December 5th at 11am EST (4pm GMT) for a candid Q&A with Dr Psych Mom (Dr Samantha Rodman Whiten).We’ll be answering your live questi...

23/10/2025

What Makes a Loving Marriage Work?

A loving marriage is not built on luck or chemistry, but on intention and accountability.

In my latest video, I explore what a loving marriage really looks like, how couples stay connected, honest, and kind as they grow together.

If you have ever wondered why some marriages thrive while others quietly fade, this one will speak to you.

🎥 Watch here → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hunn3SKHWak

Discover how learning to love intentionally and holding each other accountable help couples sustain strong, lasting marriages. 👉 Book a 1-on-1 session to re...

14/10/2025

Who or what is fuelling the so-called gender war? From media headlines to classroom ideologies, these forces shape our perceptions and relationships.

Unity, compassion, and love are the antidotes we desperately need.

If you believe in bridging divides and building stronger connections, let’s counter division with understanding and empathy.

21/08/2025

So many people say, “S*x is just a want, not a need.”

But imagine saying the same about affection, respect, or trust.

The truth is, s*x isn’t optional in a healthy marriage, it’s a core emotional need. Without it, relationships slip into roommate territory.

When both partners feel desired, cherished, and connected, marriage thrives. 💞

👉 Do you agree that s*x is a need in marriage? Let me know in the comments.

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23/07/2025

I had a lovey time talking with Monica Almaguer about marriage dynamics, s*xless marriages, menopause, feminism, and personal growth in relationships amongst many, many other topics.

If you're not already subscribed to her channel - head over now and join the conversation:

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Join us for an in-depth and inspiring conversation with Laura How, a renowned UK-based relationship counselor and coach, and the creator of the YouTube chann...

22/07/2025

In this video, I share a practical, structured exercise to help couples move beyond just meeting basic relationship needs like trust and communication, and rediscover the joy, adventure, and passion of the honeymoon phase.

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In this video, I share a practical, structured exercise to help couples move beyond just meeting basic relationship needs like trust and communication, and r...

16/07/2025

To determine whether s*xual intimacy is a physiological or psychological requirement for the well-being of an individual or a relationship, I explore the research comparing outcomes of a s*xually active lifestyle with a life without s*xual intimacy.

The key difference between cold, disconnected, and tense relationships and those that are warm, peaceful and vibrant often lies in the degree of s*xual intimacy shared between partners.

S*xual Intimacy IS an emotional need and more than this; it’s a vital thread in the fabric of a healthy, vibrant relationship, woven together with trust, communication, and mutual generosity. By embracing it as such, we open the door to deeper intimacy, greater well-being, and a love that truly flourishes.

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To determine whether s*xual intimacy is a physiological or psychological requirement for the well-being of an individual or a relationship, I explore the res...