Laura How

03/02/2026

If a husband said, "I’m just not interested in deep conversations anymore, you need to accept that," we would call it emotional abandonment.

We might even call it cruelty.

Yet, when the roles are reversed and physical intimacy is taken off the table indefinitely, we often frame it as a "boundary" that must be respected without question.

Why is one essential for a marriage, but the other is optional?

🎥 I released a full video breaking this down.

How to watch:

Tap the link in my bio 🔗
Click the "YouTube" button
Watch: "The Double Standard Ruining 'Good' Marriages"

03/02/2026

We have normalized emotional demands while demonizing s*xual needs. This is creating a massive imbalance in modern marriages.

I break down exactly why this is happening and how to fix it in my brand new video.

👇 Watch the full breakdown here: [LINK IN THE FIRST COMMENT]

31/01/2026

There's an inconsistency in how we talk about different needs in marriage and it should be challenged.

29/01/2026

Your relationship can either feel like a list of chores or it can feel like a wild, beautiful ride. The difference is the degree to which each partner actively chooses to show up. 💙

When both partners are intentionally investing, connecting, and choosing each other daily, that's when marriage transforms from mundane to magical.

Think about your own relationship: Are you both actively choosing to show up for each other? What does that look like in practice?

Sometimes it's the small things like making time for conversation, offering affection without expecting anything in return, or simply being curious about your partner's inner world instead of making assumptions.

Other times it's the bigger commitments, staying engaged through conflict, prioritizing your relationship during difficult times, or doing the hard work of personal growth for the sake of the partnership.

The truth is that relationships respond to intentionality. When you show up, your partner feels it. And when they show up too, you get to experience the wild, beautiful ride that marriage was meant to be.

What's one way you've intentionally "shown up" in your relationship recently? I'd love to hear your story in the comments. 👇

29/01/2026

Ever notice those older couples who seem calm, close, and quietly happy together? 💛

That didn’t happen by luck.

They’ve been saying yes to each other for decades.

Emotionally. Practically. S*xually.

This isn’t really about s*x.
S*x is often the way a husband feels most loved, most connected, most cared about.

It’s the yes behind the engagement that builds a marriage you can still feel proud of years later ❤️

29/01/2026

"Will my wife ever understand?"

That's the question I get most from men in s*xless marriages.
The answer? YES - if she gets the right information.

I've collected real stories from wives who finally "got it":
✅ "I thought I was broken - turns out it's just responsive desire"
✅ "S*x isn't just release for him - it's how he feels loved"
✅ "I wish someone had told me this 10 years ago"

These women were dealing with the SAME challenges your wife is:
🔴 Menopause
🔴 Toddlers
🔴 Exhaustion
🔴 Low libido from SSRIs
🔴 "I just never feel like it"

What changed? They understood how their desire actually works, that their husband's needs are valid, and that intimacy can be created intentionally.

Read what happened👉 https://laurahow.com/wives-responsive-desire-stories/

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Real stories from wives who discovered responsive desire and transformed their marriages by becoming intentional about intimacy. "I had no idea until now."

28/01/2026

23/01/2026

Join me live on Friday, January 23rd at 12pm ET (5pm GMT) for a special LIVESTREAM with psychologist (Dr Samantha Rodman Whiten) and Ralph Brewer, author, YouTuber, and founder of &

We’ll be answering your live questions about: Love, s*x, marriage, mental health, intimacy, and anything else you want to ask us.

� Set a reminder now and join us live!
Bring your questions, join the chat, and be part of a real conversation about s*x, marriage, and mental health.

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20/01/2026

Here's a thought... What if men don't actually want to harm women?

What if they never did?

Professor Janice Fiamengo examines feminism's founding documents and reveals a truth that should be good news, but many refuse to hear it.

Latest podcast episode 👇
https://laurahow.com/the-truth-about-feminism/

Is feminism really about equality? Professor Janice Fiamengo examines the historical evidence, victim mentality, and how feminist ideology harms marriages.

19/01/2026

Professor Janice Fiamengo reveals an uncomfortable truth: when evidence shows that men genuinely care about women's wellbeing and want them to flourish, many women reject this as a challenge to their victim identity.

"They take deep exhilarating pleasure in seeing themselves as victims."

Do victim narratives prevent the very connection we claim to want?

The question isn't whether men care because overwhelming evidence shows they do.
The question is: are we willing to receive that good news?

Full conversation on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SnnF5g35aHw

15/01/2026

"Talking about s*x with my wife is like crawling across a minefield that already took my arms and legs." - Follower Comment

If every attempt to bring up s*x ends in shutdown, contempt, or you being made to feel ashamed for wanting intimacy, then this video is for you.

I'll show you:
✔ Why this conversation matters
✔ How to prepare so you're actually heard
✔ What to say when she shuts you down
✔ The 3 outcomes you need to recognize
✔ What to do next, no matter her response

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PP7xIYIhvSA

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S*xless marriage? Wife shuts down every attempt to discuss intimacy? Here's how to finally be heard without starting a war. For husbands who've tried everyth...

21/08/2025

So many people say, “S*x is just a want, not a need.”

But imagine saying the same about affection, respect, or trust.

The truth is, s*x isn’t optional in a healthy marriage, it’s a core emotional need. Without it, relationships slip into roommate territory.

When both partners feel desired, cherished, and connected, marriage thrives. 💞

👉 Do you agree that s*x is a need in marriage? Let me know in the comments.

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