Laura How

30/12/2025

Michele is a therapist and bestselling author known for her work with s*xless marriages, infidelity recovery, and long-term relationship repair. We talk about why s*x is never just s*x for many people, how shutdown and withdrawal slowly erode closeness, and why so many couples wait too long to ask for help.

This conversation offers practical, compassionate guidance for men and women who feel stuck, lonely, or unsure how to reconnect again.

In this episode we explore:
✔ What “s*x-starved marriage” really means
✔ Why long-term s*xlessness damages connection and trust
✔ The silent expectations low-desire partners often hold
✔ When anger and withdrawal take over the relationship
✔ Why feelings cannot be the only guide in intimacy
✔ Responsive vs spontaneous desire, especially for women
✔ Why communication style matters more than frequency
✔ Ways to approach the conversation with more success
✔ How to support healing after infidelity
✔ Why hope is possible even after years of shutdown

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Michele Weiner-Davis joins me for a conversation about s*xless marriages, desire differences, resentment, and how couples can rebuild intimacy after betrayal...

17/12/2025

Why S*xual Intimacy Between Parents Helps Children Feel Secure

In this video, I explore why a warm, affectionate s*xual bond between parents influences children’s sense of safety, emotional stability, and resilience and why this is good for society at large. 👉 Work with me or my team: https://laurahow.com/online-therapists/

Drawing on attachment theory, family systems research, and long-term outcome studies, I explain how children thrive when they grow up in homes where parents are affectionate, playful, and s*xually connected, rather than distant, tense, or living as polite roommates.

We’ll look at why children cope better with stress when they know their parents’ relationship is solid, how marital and s*xual satisfaction predicts better mental health outcomes for children, and why the long-term decline in s*xual intimacy may be part of a wider disconnection epidemic affecting families and society.

This video is for couples in fundamentally safe, loving relationships who want to understand why prioritising s*xual intimacy is not selfish or indulgent, but protective for their children and stabilising for the whole family system.

In this video:
✔️ How s*xual intimacy between parents affects children’s emotional security
✔️ Why the couple’s s*xual bond is central to family stability
✔️ What attachment research tells us about safety and resilience
✔️ The link between s*xual satisfaction, marital warmth, and children’s wellbeing
✔️ What happens in families when s*x disappears from the relationship
✔️ Why s*xual connection softens conflict and strengthens teamwork
✔️ Practical ways to rebuild s*xual intimacy without minimising real challenges

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7vjdeMQ2P-M

In this video, I explore why a warm, affectionate s*xual bond between parents influences children’s sense of safety, emotional stability, and resilience and ...

12/12/2025

Q&A

11/12/2025

So many couples struggle with mismatched desire or s*xual avoidance. Most think the problem is desire itself. But often, the issue is a breakdown in care, and a missing framework for how to show up for each other when desire isn’t spontaneous or equal.

This is where s*xual communal strength can help. It’s a research backed way to rebuild connection, reduce resentment, and move couples towards greater intimacy.

I’ve written a new blog that explains what it is, how it works in real relationships, and why generous responsiveness matters far more than spontaneous desire.

👉 Full article: S*xual Communal Strength

https://laurahow.com/s*xual-communal-strength/

For women with low spontaneous desire, s*xual communal strength offers a path to nurture responsive desire and create a more connected, fulfilling marriage.

11/12/2025

Many couples struggle with desire differences, s*xual avoidance, and even s*xless marriages.

S*xual communal strength gives you a research backed way to rebuild intimacy and deepen emotional connection.

Small acts of s*xual generosity can bring life back into a marriage that feels flat, and help both partners feel wanted again.

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09/12/2025

Many couples struggle with desire differences, low libido, and the emotional distance that follows.

This video explores how s*xual communal strength (the willingness to meet your partner's s*xual needs because you value the relationship) can transform intimacy and help couples feel close again.

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Many couples struggle with desire differences, low libido, and the emotional distance that follows. This video explores how s*xual communal strength(the will...

03/12/2025

Ahh, the life of an amateur YouTuber with zero training or camera experience - the struggle is real!🧐🤣

02/12/2025

S*xless marriages often form due to harmful cultural myths about male s*xuality and what s*x really means inside a committed relationship. In this video I break down the five biggest lies that harm husbands, wives, and the emotional bond between them.

We’ll look at why s*x feels optional to some partners but essential to others, why your husband’s desire is not pressure or coercion, and why couples lose affection and emotional closeness when s*xual connection breaks down. I also cover how women can rebuild desire even when it feels long gone, and why responsive desire is normal in long-term relationships.
In this video:

✔️ The 5 biggest lies about men and s*x
✔️ Why your husband sees “no s*x” as “no love”
✔️ Male desire vs coercion: understanding the difference
✔️ Why “obligation” has been misunderstood
✔️ How responsive desire actually works
✔️ Why s*x matters for marital stability
✔️ How couples can reconnect after long periods without intimacy

💬 Let me know in the comments: Which of these lies showed up in your marriage? Did this help you understand your husband differently?

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S*xless marriages often form due to harmful cultural myths about male s*xuality and what s*x really means inside a committed relationship. In this video I br...

28/11/2025

Behind the scenes from the last video shoot.

My favourite pic: the exact moment my husband told me to "smile more" for the thumbnail... so naturally, I gave him my best 'you bloody try it!' pose. 😂

See ya Monday x

26/11/2025

Many people think “my body my choice” ends the conversation. In monogamous relationships it doesn’t, because monogamy only works when s*xual connection, or at the very least honest dialogue about s*x, is part of the deal.

If one partner quietly withdraws and refuses to talk, the other ends up living in involuntary celibacy. That isn’t abuse, but it is a major unilateral change to the relationship.

The real dividing line is simple: a partner who cares will show concern for your suffering, even if they don’t know how to fix the problem yet. A partner who meets your pain with cold indifference or guilt trips is crossing into emotional abuse.

This clip breaks down that difference clearly. It might help someone who’s been feeling confused or silenced.

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21/08/2025

So many people say, “S*x is just a want, not a need.”

But imagine saying the same about affection, respect, or trust.

The truth is, s*x isn’t optional in a healthy marriage, it’s a core emotional need. Without it, relationships slip into roommate territory.

When both partners feel desired, cherished, and connected, marriage thrives. 💞

👉 Do you agree that s*x is a need in marriage? Let me know in the comments.

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