06/03/2026
Self-harm is when someone deliberately hurts themselves as a way of managing overwhelming feelings. It’s more common than many people realise, particularly in pre-teens and teenagers.
Hearing about self-harm can feel frightening as a parent or carer. For many young people, it can be a sign that they’re struggling to cope with their thoughts or emotions, it doesn't always mean that they are thinking about ending their life.
There isn’t always an obvious reason, and young people may go to great lengths to hide it. Some possible signs can include changes in mood, becoming withdrawn, wearing clothing that covers a lot of their body even in warm weather, unexplained injuries, or sudden changes in friendships or behaviour. These signs don’t always mean self-harm, but they can be a prompt to gently check in.
If you’re worried about your child:
* Stay calm and try not to react with anger or panic
* Listen without judgement
* Let them know you’re there for them
* Reassure them that support is available
You don’t need to have all the answers. Trying for open, honest conversation is a great first step.
Support is available through school pastoral teams, our public health nurses and your GP. Young people can also access confidential support from services such as Childline.
If you believe your child is at immediate risk of serious harm, seek urgent medical help.
No parent or carer should feel they have to handle this alone. Reaching out for help is a sign of strength and early support can make a real difference.
Parents and carers of 5-19 year olds can contact the public health nurses via our ChatHealth text service on 07312 263744 and young people aged 11-19 can text the public health nurses via ChatHealth on 07507 330025. (Monday to Friday excluding bank holidays, 9am to 4.30pm).
[Image description: Black and white image showing young persons hands applying a cream or concealer to a leg with some scars and a bruise. The text "Self-harm" is above and the Derbyshire Family Health Service logo is in the top right hand corner.]