JHR Counselling - Relationship Counsellor

07/11/2025

I love this article and the writers honest and open account of their experience of counselling, not just during but before as well because let’s face it, we all have pre-conceptions about what counselling is. He talks about his worries, his nerves and his own personal reasons for turning to therapy. He then goes on to tell us what it was actually like. You should know by now I do love a true account from an actual person who has been through the process and found a hint of the passion I share 😊 x Jo

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06/11/2025

Relationships should be fun, healthy, enriching. They should make you feel happy, celebrated and appreciated. However, its normal if sometimes they don't.

Life has a funny way of changing everything, we can become complacent, expectant and take those around us for granted. We can forget the things we used to enjoy, fail to see the needs of those we love and as life carries us along, the relationships that were once strong and enriching can become strained and difficult.

Relationship Counselling offers you the opportunity to press pause and evaluate things properly, it gives you the time and understanding to work things out in safe and non judgmental setting. I will help you and your partner communicate effectively so you are both heard and understood, so you both get to say what you need to say. Together we can work out what isn't working and identify the things you need to change to make things better.

To book a free 30 minutes consultation head to me website, Jo

http://www.jhrcounselling.co.uk/

05/11/2025

05/11/2025

04/11/2025

Does your partner have issues with commitment?
Maybe you are the one that is struggling to commit?
Maybe neither of you are sure what the issue is but you know something is wrong?
Relationship counselling offers couples the opportunity to be heard and to listen. As a neutral party, I help lead conversations, allowing each of you the time to speak and supporting your understanding with questions and examples. I work to explore the roots of your behaviours which allows you the opportunity to understand why you do what you do and how it can be changed. This can be particularly helpful when issues of commitment are present.
To book a free 30 minutes Zoom consultation with me, head to my website where you can book direct and choose a time and date to suit you 🙂 x Jo
http://www.jhrcounselling.co.uk/

03/11/2025

Who said that you have to deal with it all on your own?
Who told you to bury your feelings?
Who told you that it was weak/pathetic/wrong to talk about it?

They are wrong!

In this day and age people are placed under increasing pressure, this effects our physical health, our emotional health and our mental health. Our time is filled with packed routines, demands and expectations, and self care is a dream we read about but never truly commit to.

In order to do all of that without burning out, suffering mental and physical illness and being happy, you have to take care of yourself and for many of us that means talking. You don't need to do it all on your own. Counselling offers you the time and the space to get out everything you need to talk about, to work it out and to figure out. Its a time for you, just you, where no one is judging you and no one has any expectations.

Counselling is there for you, don't be afraid to ask for help. It's time to talk!

02/11/2025

Everyone knows relationships can be really hard, couples grow up and grow apart. They get into habits of communicating that can be counter productive and bad for the relationship. Often couples don't realise they have picked up these habits, they just know that something is wrong.

Experts have identified 4 different behaviours within communication that, if left unchecked, can destroy relationships.

The 2nd of these behaviours is defensiveness - now we all get defensive and sometimes its good and needed but to find out how it can be really bad and negative effect on your relationship, and how you can change it, head to my website and read my new blog, 4 behaviours that could mean the end for your relationship!

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01/11/2025

We all experience hard times. What may be hard to you, may be a walk in the park to someone else, but that doesn't effect the way it makes you feel and the way it will influence your life.

Regardless of who you are or where you are from, your experiences will shape the decisions you make, the way you react to every situation and your thoughts and opinions.

Life is hard, you are not alone in feeling like you are out of your depth, you are not alone in feeling like you should be able to cope and yet you can't. The truth of the matter is, we all put ourselves through undue stress and anxiety, believing we should be able to cope better than we are and as such we don't seek the help that is available.

If you can look back and learn you can move forwards and grow. Don't suffer in silence

31/10/2025

Have you ever wondered how your past really has affected you? How its effects the things you do, the things you say, your thoughts, your opinions and in particularly how it effects your relationships.

Your childhood, the things you have seen, the influences you have had, they all effect the way you are today. Some of these you will be aware of, you might know that your impatience comes from your experiences of being held back by your brother or sister who you always had to wait for and always made you late. You may know that the fear that touches the edge of your awareness every time you meet a new friend is there because your old friend betrayed you. Some things are easy to explain but what about cheating, lying, the inability to commit, the fierce sense of independence you feel. What about your tendency to shy away from conversations or rush too quickly into relationships, your tendency to choose the wrong partners, wrong friends, trust the wrong people. All of these things have a root cause, a reason, an explanation.

Our experiences shape everything about us and learning about them helps you move forwards, change and grow to the you, you want to be.

To read more about this have a look at my Trust & Me blog, which looks at this a little closer and includes a full case study highlighting exactly how one client's past experiences influenced their entire life and their relationship. Check out the link to my blog x Jo 😊

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30/10/2025

I am a firm believer in the fact that counselling can help anyone, but that all depends on whether or not they want it to.

Relationship counselling can be an amazing support for couples experiencing difficulties in their relationship and I know this because I have been doing it long enough to have seen the evidence. Even when they think it won't, it most often does. However, again it relies on a willingness to make it work.

As a general rule successful relationship counselling relies on 3 things:

👉 A shared Goal - You both need to have a shared end goal in site, what ever that may be
👉A Desire to change - if you don't think change is needed, why do you want counselling?
👉A willingness to take responsibility for your own mistakes - it doesn't matter whose fault it mainly is or what has led you here, both of your actions have resulted in where you are and you have to be willing to take responsibility for those, regardless of how big or small you may think they are.

So that's easy right? You don't need to believe in the process, you don't even need to believe in me, you just have to recognise there is a problem, no where you would rather be and own up to how you got there, and counselling can most likely have a positive impact on you and your relationship.

29/10/2025

Today is another opportunity to be what you want to be, to say what you want to say, to do what you want to do. Today is another opportunity for you to shine in the way you need to. Have a great day x Jo

28/10/2025

Living with someone who persistently lies can be extremely difficult. From huge lies to small white lies, they all that effect your life & your relationship in some way not to mention what they do to trust.
When lying becomes persistent it is usually habitual which means that even though your partner is consciously aware of the problems their lying causes, they may not be consciously aware that they are doing it at the moment it happens, or they may not be able to stop. Counselling can help you both to understanding the roots of this habit and the real damage it is causing. Together we can work to find real solutions and strategies that will support your partner in kicking the habit and allow you both to rebuild the trust you have lost.

To book a free 30 minute Zoom consultation with me, head to my website where you can book a time and date to suit you. x Jo

http://www.jhrcounselling.co.uk/