30/10/2025
Many women who went to boarding school grew up learning to cope alone - to be self-reliant, capable, composed, and untouchable.
Those strengths helped us survive in an environment where feelings had to be tucked away. But decades later, the very traits that once protected us can make love and intimacy feel confusing, even unsafe.
This is the first post in a three-part series which will explore how boarding school shaped our “survival personality” - and how that legacy shows up in our adult relationships.
We begin with Part 1: The Creation of the Feminine Survival Self.
Many women who went to boarding school grew up learning to cope alone — to be capable, composed, and untouchable. Those strengths helped us survive in an environment where feelings had to be tucked away. But decades later, the very traits that once protected us can make love and intimacy feel conf...
