Men's Advisory Project

14/03/2026

These seem real and are frightening. Remember your abuser will need evidence of what they are threatening you with for Police Service of Northern Ireland or Prosecutors to act. Tell MAP, we'll record the threat and impact. Report as an incident to police.
Feel safer immediately.

13/03/2026

Do men tell their friends they love them?
Do men tell their friends they miss them?
We'd love to know your truth.
Let us know in the comments

12/03/2026

Non fatal strangulation is well explained here by Nexus.

What the excellent slides don't mention are the numbers of male victims experiencing non fatal strangulation.

Where this information has been collated in the UK we can see that male victims of non fatal strangulation make up between 15 -25% of incidents known to police.

It would be good to see dedicated mention of men and boys when discussing non-fatal strangulation in NI. We hope that this risk is being assessed adequately for all victims as it poses a high risk to significant additional harm or death.

If you or someone you know has faced abuse like this please contact Police Service of Northern Ireland for help and support.
Domestic & Sexual Abuse Helpline are available 24/7 for telephone based support.
Also contact Men's Advisory Project for dedicated 1-2-1 specialist support

12/03/2026

🚩 Threats of False Allegations

Anyone who comes into contact with an abuser may experience coercive control and psychological abuse, including threats of false allegations.

In reality, false allegations rarely go anywhere. In our experience, abusers often threaten them but seldom follow through. And when they do attempt to, they are very very rarely able to provide any evidence to support their claims.

However at the time these threats are made they can feel extremely convincing and frightening. What the abuser says they can do may seem very real, and it can feel overwhelming. These threats are another form of abuse designed to control and intimidate you.

💙 You are not alone. We have been supporting men dealing with these fears for many years.

➡️ The Police Service of Northern Ireland and the Public Prosecution Service are very familiar with abusive tactics, threats, and intimidation.

➡️ It is important to understand that evidence is required by police and prosecutors for allegations to become charges or convictions.

➡️ The Men's Advisory Project provides support to help counter these threats and reduce the fear they cause.

➡️ Any man working with us who is being threatened with false allegations can report these threats to us.

➡️ We will record what has been said and document the impact on the man, his children, or any boy being threatened.

➡️ We will also keep copies of any evidence of these threats.

➡️ We can support you in reporting these incidents to the police if needed.

💙 You are not alone. Support and help are always available. 💙

📞 The Domestic & Sexual Abuse Helpline is available 24/7.
As is support from Housing Executive
🚓 Police can be contacted on 999, 101, or via email.

📩 You can also contact Men's Advisory Project directly: info@mapni.co.uk

➡️ Please call or email and leave your contact details.
➡️ If you have a preference, you can request a call back from either a male or female staff member.

Men's Advisory Project (MAP) is a registered charity offering help to abused men across all of NI.

12/03/2026

We are glad to have been able to represent male victims and their needs at the Strategic Advisory Group of the Belfast Domestic and Sexual Violence Partnership.

The partnership carries out excellent work each year to support the needs of all victims and survivors of domestic and s*xual violence and abuse. Its membership is made up from statutory and voluntary organisations working with or on behalf of victims.

We look forward to their support at our upcoming conference and wish to thank them and Belfast PCSP for their support.

05/03/2026

05/03/2026

Police Service of Northern Ireland statistics show:

31.2% of recorded domestic abuse crimes in NI in 24/5 happened to men

Incidents
86% were violence against the person
51% were violence without injury

Sadly there remains a gap in sanctioned outcomes with only 18.9% of these crimes against male victims resulting in a sanction. This is a gap of 11.6% when compared to crimes against women victims

Please report all abuse to police. All incidents. All threats.
Speak to Domestic & Sexual Abuse Helpline and always give MAP a call for specialist support.

23/02/2026

This is absolutely grotesque.

Domestic abuse is not a joking matter. It ruins the lives of many men and boys often causing long term impact even once they are free from the abuser and in a place of safety. Sometimes as we of course know this abuse of men ends in their murder or su***de.
Shame on Delulu and anyone who spends money supporting the abuse of victims.
With thanks to The ManKind Initiative for highlighting this

23/02/2026

Why doesn't he leave?

Others have the luxury to view and consider abusive relationships through their healthy relationship framework.

They think, if harm outweighs good you should leave.

Harm > good = leave

But abuse ruins clean equations.

This thinking shifts the burden of staying safe onto the shoulders of the victim and removes guilt from the abuser.

Why doesn't he leave?
Coercive control reshapes how we can think.
Gaslighting erodes trust in ourselves.
Periods of cruelty followed by affection strengthens psychological attachment.

We also know leaving or trying to leave is often the most dangerous phase of an abusive relationship.
Risk of severe violence escalates when someone attempts to exit.
When an abuser thinks they have lost dominance or control, escalation frequently follows.

Men in abusive relationships are often in complete turmoil:

➡️If I leave, will it protect my children or would they be able to come with me?
➡️If I leave, will the abuser do what they have threatened?
➡️Can I afford to live on my own and also provide for my family?
➡️Will anyone believe me?

The men we help tell us these thoughts are daily struggles.
Fear (often shown as anxiety) plays a central role.
Fear hampers how we can assess options. Our brain prioritises immediate survival. Staying often feels safer.

If you know someone who needs help please contact Men's Advisory Project leave a message if out of hours and or drop us an email on info@mapni.co.uk
Call Domestic & Sexual Abuse Helpline at any time
Phone Police Service of Northern Ireland on 999 in an emergency or 101 at any other time. Police are here to help you.

21/02/2026

Reminding you all of this important research programme.

🔹 Have You Experienced Domestic Abuse?
Are you a man aged 18+ living in Northern Ireland?
Whether you are heteros*xual, gay, or bis*xual - cisgender or transgender - single or in a relationship: if you have experienced domestic abuse or coercive control from an adult partner, ex-partner, or adult family member, you may be eligible to take part.

QUB - School of Psychology are conducting confidential one-to-one interviews with men who have experienced domestic abuse.
Share your story: whether you spoke out, sought help (or didn’t), and your experiences navigating support.

Your voice can help improve future services and raise awareness.

🕒 Interviews last around 60 minutes
✅ Confidential
✅ Online or in person
Interested or want to learn more?
📧 Email: mpollakova01@qub.ac.uk
🔗 Or express interest here: [[https://forms.office.com/e/6F7WtYNkhM]]

📍 Queen’s University Belfast | School of Psychology

21/02/2026

Men's Advisory Project (MAP) is a registered charity offering help to abused men across all of NI.

20/02/2026

The Victims of Crime portal puts information on your case into your hands. A great and much needed development from Police Service of Northern Ireland 👏🏻👏🏻
So often victims of abuse don't want to both police but have questions to ask about what is happening in their case. We are so glad their views and needs have been listened to and addressed.

We’re giving you more choice. My PSNI Portal empowers victims of crime to stay informed and in control, without needing to call.

Learn more at https://orlo.uk/2z0lU