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10/11/2025

Therapist Reacts to Real Life
Perfectionism & Shame

You’re not lazy - you’re distorted by perfectionism.

09/11/2025

Today’s self care was… going into the woods with my daughter to find “treasures” for a collage 🍁🪵🌿

When I was little I could spend HOURS doing creative things — cutting, sticking, arranging, making nothing in particular. Somewhere along the way adult life crept in and I stopped making time for it.

I didn’t realise how much I missed it until I had a tiny human who absolutely insists on being creative and getting messy. She values it so highly that I have to stop, go outside, gather leaves, notice colours, and actually play.

And honestly? It’s good for my mental health.
Being creative:
• gets me out of “to-do list” mode
• calms my nervous system
• reminds me I’m more than my roles
• lets me connect with her in a way that’s slow and present

So yes - we went leaf hunting like two little woodland magpies and made something beautiful out of nothing. And I’m really grateful she pulls me back to that part of myself I forgot about. 💛

08/11/2025

Went for an autumn walk to collect ‘treasures’ and ended up remembering I actually love being creative 🙃 Sometimes our kids are the best self-care reminders. What are you doing for yourself this weekend?

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07/11/2025

👓✨ What does a therapist really look like?

If you imagined:
• a stern face
• clipboard
• head tilt of doom
• and the occasional “hmm, interesting”…

Surprise!
Sometimes it’s just a woman in glasses, a houndstooth blazer (a charity shop golden find from “St Michael’s” M&S days!!), and a smile that says
“I see your chaos and I still like you.”
Hi, I’m Victoria 👋

Therapy isn’t a cold room and a couch of existential dread.
It’s two humans figuring life out together — one of whom happens to have training, evidence-based methods, and an alarmingly large tea habit.

And spoiler alert:
Therapists don’t float through life enlightened.
We’ve cried in cars, eaten crisps for dinner, Googled symptoms we shouldn’t…
and yes, we’ve absolutely been the client too.

People don’t come to therapy because they’re broken.
They come because they’re brilliantly human —
messy, hopeful, tired, ambitious, overwhelmed, healing, learning, trying again.

Therapy isn’t a last resort.
It’s a brave investment in your future self.

And if you’ve ever wondered whether you’d “fit in” here:

If you feel too much
or not enough
or like you should have it together by now —
you belong.

If you overthink, overcare, or occasionally talk to your dog like they’re your therapist —
you belong.

And if you’re just curious about what a calmer, kinder, more grounded version of life could look like?
Pull up a chair 🪑💬

Free 15-minute chats available — just send a message.
Bring your questions, bring your hopes, leave your fear of being judged at the door.

07/11/2025

Friday Reframe

Reframe for OCD:
Doubt = Danger.
Doubt is normal - it doesn’t mean something’s wrong.

07/11/2025

We'd love your help 💛☕️

Christmas can often be a difficult time, particularly for people who are experiencing loneliness.

This Christmas, we're encouraging people to because for some, a simple conversation could mean everything.

We're sending out FREE "I'm Happy To Chat" table signs to venues across the UK - anywhere people gather for a cuppa, a meal, or a drink - to help spark conversation, spread connection and tackle loneliness head on.

☕️Pop them on a table OR let customers pick them up at the till

If you would like to get involved, find the link in the comments 💬

Let's give the gift of conversation this Christmas🎄

06/11/2025

Loop Thoughts

iCBT flips the script: doubt comes first, story second.
That’s why reasoning with OCD never works.

06/11/2025

👋 When healing looks a little strange… but changes everything

Ever seen a therapist waving their hands around and wondered what on earth is happening?
It’s EMDR — and no, it’s not magic, and it’s not mind-control.
It’s your brain finally getting to finish what trauma interrupted.

And I’ll be honest…
when I first learned about EMDR, I was sceptical too.

I come from a CBT background — structured, evidence-led, lots of reflection and talking things through.
Then suddenly I was being told,
“Let the brain process — don’t over-analyse it.”

In EMDR training you have to experience it yourself, and I remember thinking,
“How is this doing anything? We’re barely talking!”

But then something shifted.
The edges of difficult emotions softened.
Memories felt less loaded.
My thinking moved — not forced, not rehearsed — but naturally.
Still sceptical, still analysing… yet unable to ignore the change.

That’s when I realised:
This isn’t about making yourself think differently.
It’s about the nervous system finally releasing what talking alone couldn’t reach.

EMDR doesn’t erase the past.
It loosens its grip.
It helps your body stop reliving a moment your mind already knows is over.

And yes, it can feel strange at first —
eyes moving, hands tapping, following sensations instead of dissecting them.

But when people say it’s transformative,
they’re talking about that moment where the story shifts from:

“I’m not safe”
to
“It’s over — I survived, and I’m here.”

That’s not magic.
That’s biology.
That’s healing.

Curious about EMDR — especially if you’ve been sceptical too?
Ask me anything, send a message, or book a free call.
You don’t have to talk endlessly to move forward — sometimes the brain just needs space to finish what it started.

05/11/2025

🌱 What if therapy became a way of living — not just a place you go?

People often ask what it means to “be your own therapist.”
Let me be clear:

It’s not forcing positive thoughts.
It’s not ignoring your pain.
It’s not manifesting your way out of distress.

Real psychological growth is quieter… and braver.

It looks like noticing the knot in your stomach before it becomes a storm.
Pausing when your mind tries to drag you into old stories.
Meeting yourself with honesty and compassion, even when you don’t like what you see.

It’s learning to face the moment you’re in — not the one you fear, or the one you wish for.
And choosing the next right step, not the perfect one.

This is what I teach daily, at this desk:

✅ Name patterns instead of judging yourself for them
✅ Respond to thoughts rather than obey them
✅ Practise tiny acts of courage, kindness, and grounding
✅ Build emotional muscles through repetition, not motivation
✅ Create a life anchored in values, not fear

Therapy doesn’t make life painless.
It makes you capable, present, and free enough to live it fully.

If you’re curious how to build these habits into your everyday life, ask me anything — or book a free consult.
What’s one meaningful skill you wish you’d learned sooner?

05/11/2025

Inside the Therapy Room

OCD recovery isn’t about arguing with the story.
iCBT steps back and notices how the story was built.

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05/11/2025

What makes therapy truly life-changing? Seven pillars.

Ever wondered why some therapy just... clicks? At GetCBT, our 7-pillar model isn’t just a buzzword - it’s a roadmap built from years of clinical experience, compassion, and a genuine belief in your growth.

Each pillar - compassion, empowerment, evidence, collaboration, accessibility, flexibility, outcomes - works together to support you, not just your symptoms. That means more than a quick fix: it means therapy that adapts to your needs, celebrates your progress, and empowers you to become your own therapist.

Curious about how these pillars could help you (or someone you care about)?

Let’s talk about what real change could look like for you. Message me or book a free consultation today. 💬✨

04/11/2025

More than one client said to me this week "I've never had therapy before and so have no idea what to expect"

Ever wonder what really happens in the therapy room? It’s not just talking about problems - it’s discovering your strengths, learning new skills, and finding hope, even on the toughest days.

You don’t have to have it all together before reaching out. In fact, most of us start exactly where we are—messy, anxious, unsure, and human.

Curious what therapy could look like for you? Message me anytime or book a free 15-minute chat. 😊