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25/12/2025

And breathe.

There is nothing more to do other than appreciate this moment.

However you chose to spend it, with the family, friends, at a religious place, reflecting and remembering those who aren't here.

Or taking a moment to truly give thanks for those who are with you.

And despite all this it can get too much.

You're not perfect, no-one is.

Step away if you need to.

Wishing you a blessed day no matter how it lasts iooks.



As I sign from work today to spend it with family. Im not going to sum up 2025 not because it hasn't been eventful. Ther...
24/12/2025

As I sign from work today to spend it with family.

Im not going to sum up 2025 not because it hasn't been eventful.

There were moments of joy, of frustration, fear, anxiety, contentment, happiness all in no particular order.

It was life as it was meant to be.

Gloriously complex and complete.

And because as a child I was quietly rebellious.

Not loud, in your face or demanding changes.

Always asking the questions why and who said ( much to my parents annoyance).

And that little girl has started to make an appearance again.

I don't follow, I give others the courage to divert from the norm.

So sod algorithm.

Sod this how it's done.

Wishing you all a time of rest, replenishment and joy.

Peace out.





I used to say yes to everything in December.Extra shifts. Covering for colleagues. Every social invitation.It looked lik...
22/12/2025

I used to say yes to everything in December.

Extra shifts. Covering for colleagues. Every social invitation.

It looked like commitment. But what it really felt like was collapse.

In probation and prisons, “no” can sound like betrayal.

But every “yes” you give away without thinking is a quiet self-erasure.

Boundaries aren’t selfish. They exist to keep you upright.

If you’re knackered, you can’t listen properly.
If you’re resentful, you can’t empathise clearly.

Before the next request lands in your inbox, decide what matters most this month.

That’s your yes. Everything else is background noise.

You’re allowed to protect your bandwidth, even when the job doesn’t.

What’s one thing you’re not doing this December to save your sanity?

Your body doesn’t know it’s Christmas. It just knows it’s tired.That’s why the “holiday spirit” sometimes feels like pre...
19/12/2025

Your body doesn’t know it’s Christmas. It just knows it’s tired.

That’s why the “holiday spirit” sometimes feels like pressure, not peace.

You’ve spent all year in alert mode - crisis, deadlines, noise - and then December piles more on.

Your brain’s shouting danger, while everyone else is shouting cheers.

There’s nothing wrong with you. Your system’s just done.

Try this instead of pretending to relax:

Find one small reset that signals safety to your body.

We're not after perfection - just a pause.

Maybe it’s a slow meal before another shift.
Maybe it’s saying no to one more plan.
Maybe it’s remembering you’re not the only one who’s struggling to “feel festive.”

You don’t have to earn your rest.

You just have to notice when you need it.

What helps your body remember it’s safe? Share it below - it might be someone else’s reset too.

Some months the stress feels emotional. Some months it’s financial.December is both - double the fun...You’re juggling b...
17/12/2025

Some months the stress feels emotional. Some months it’s financial.

December is both - double the fun...

You’re juggling bills, budgets and other people’s crises.

Trying to look festive while doing mental maths in every supermarket aisle.

That heaviness in your chest? It’s not bad attitude.

It’s your nervous system trying to balance compassion fatigue and cost-of-living panic.

You can’t spreadsheet your way out of survival mode.

But you can pause long enough to stop blaming yourself for feeling like this.

If you need space to untangle the noise, my free telephone consulation is the place to start - twenty minutes of clarity before the new year starts shouting.

Head to my bio to book and in the meantime, share below waht helps you stay grounded when money stress hits?

17/12/2025

You can love your children deeply and still not like them all the time, particularly at Christmas. Both things can be true, and neither of them makes you a bad parent.

It is not natural to spend every waking moment together, especially when everyone is tired, routines are out the window, and the pressure to “make it magical” is quietly humming in the background.

Children are children, which means they will push boundaries, test patience, and, at times, wind you up. That is part of being human, not a personal failing.

This is why actively creating small pockets of relief throughout the day matters.
Stepping into the shower for ten minutes, making a cup of tea, sitting on your phone without explaining yourself, or reading a few pages of a book are not indulgences. They are practical ways to ease the build-up of micro-stress before it turns into something heavier.

Because Christmas is rarely just about childcare. It comes with additional social commitments, financial pressure, hosting, planning, present buying, and the mental load of holding everything together while pretending you’re fine.

It is also worth saying this clearly: you are not living in a Disney film.

Your house does not need to be spotless, perfectly decorated, or Instagram-ready at all times.

Your children do not need to be beautifully presented in matching pyjamas unless that genuinely brings you joy.

Doing things out of obligation, rather than choice, is often where resentment and exhaustion quietly grow.

Lowering the standard is not giving up. It is deciding what actually matters to you and letting the rest be good enough. And if you are someone who genuinely thrives on the decorations, the baking, and the effort, that is great too. The key is that it should be your choice, not a rule you feel forced to follow.

If this resonates, share it with a parent who might need the permission to breathe today. And if you’re willing, tell me in the comments what small pocket you’re creating for yourself.

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Christmas used to be simple.Now it comes with a to-do list, a loan and a side order of guilt.Perfect meal. Perfect gifts...
15/12/2025

Christmas used to be simple.

Now it comes with a to-do list, a loan and a side order of guilt.

Perfect meal. Perfect gifts. Perfect grin.

Meanwhile your nervous system’s one carol away from mutiny.

When your job already runs on emotional credit, the season of “doing it all” tips you further into debt. Not just the financial kind, but the mental kind too.

You don’t owe anyone a cinematic December.

You owe yourself a sustainable one.

So if this year looks quieter, cheaper, smaller - good.

You're not failing - you're recovering.

Set your budget like you set your boundaries and before someone else decides for you.

What part of Christmas are you not performing this year?

And if you want monthly advice on burnout and holding boundaries beyond this time of year, sign up to my newsletter - link in bio.

Not everyone loves December.Some dread it.The ones who’ve lost someone.The ones avoiding family.The ones working extra s...
12/12/2025

Not everyone loves December.

Some dread it.

The ones who’ve lost someone.
The ones avoiding family.
The ones working extra shifts because home isn’t restful.

This time of year can feel like a test you didn’t revise for - smile on cue, small talk, gratitude.

But you can’t decorate over grief. And silence doesn’t fix what’s fractured.

If this month feels heavy, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong.

It’s because you’re still carrying the weight of the year. All the trauma, the worry, the people you couldn’t reach in time.

You don’t have to “be festive” to belong.

You just have to keep breathing, keep showing up for yourself in small ways.

Quiet counts. So does saying no. So does surviving the month without adding to your emotional overdraft.

If that’s you, you’re not broken - you’re human in a noisy world that struggles with quiet pain.

If this hits a nerve, share it. Or tell me what helps you get through a hard December - your coping might help someone else.

December hits different when your caseload doesn’t care it’s Christmas.You’re still writing reports, managing recall ris...
10/12/2025

December hits different when your caseload doesn’t care it’s Christmas.

You’re still writing reports, managing recall risks, chasing people who’ve gone quiet.

And meanwhile, everyone else is preoccupied with novelty jumpers and saying ""let's finish early and head to the pub!""

You keep telling yourself, “Just get through to the break.”

Except there is no break, right? Because January’s already waiting with the same weight, same pace, same inbox.

No one trains you for this kind of fatigue.

The quiet fatigue, the kind that sits behind your eyes, not your muscles.

We call it resilience because the system rewards the ones who last longest.

But staying upright and staying well aren’t the same thing.

So before the month swallows you, take five minutes each morning that belong to you.

Coffee in silence. A slow start where you can.

Protect that time like it’s part of the job - because it is!

You can’t hold other people’s chaos if your own body’s running on borrowed power.

What's the one thing you do in December that helps you stop unravelling?

Comment below, because I guarantee someone else will need your answer!

10/12/2025

Mental wellbeing isn’t a personality trait.

It’s a skill.

And skills need practice.

Most of us expect to “cope” while running on broken sleep, constant alerts, other people’s emotions, and a to-do list that never bloody ends.

And then we beat ourselves up when one hour of therapy doesn’t fix years of running in survival mode.

Therapy is the warm-up.

The starting line.

It gives you language and awareness — not instant armour.

The real shift happens in the tiny, unglamorous reps you practise on ordinary days:

Noticing when your body goes tight before your brain catches up.

Stepping out of a spiral instead of letting it swallow the whole afternoon.

Choosing one boundary and actually keeping it.

Asking yourself, “What do I need right now?” and not laughing at the answer.

That’s the work.
That’s how you build capacity.
Not perfection but practice.

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Probation was never just a job for me.It shaped how I think and how I listen. Leaving it felt like losing part of myself...
08/12/2025

Probation was never just a job for me.

It shaped how I think and how I listen. Leaving it felt like losing part of myself.

But the truth is, I never really left. I’m still serving, just differently.

I’ve written about it for Probation Quarterly: the highs, the cracks, the identity you build and then have to rebuild again.

If you’ve ever wondered who you are when the uniform, badge, or title comes off, this one’s for you.

https://www.probation-institute.org/news/where-are-they-now-still-serving-just-differently

You don't need to be on the edge to benefit from hypnotherapy.But if you're feeling tense, wired or ""on"" long after yo...
05/12/2025

You don't need to be on the edge to benefit from hypnotherapy.

But if you're feeling tense, wired or ""on"" long after your shift ends, that's exactly when it can work.

With clinical hypnotherapy, I don't ask you to relive everything. We're not here to dig up trauma and look for neat endings.

Instead, I use a scientifically grounded approach to help your nervous system remember what calm is.

It's about steadying your mind, settling your body and giving you real space to breath easy again.

If you want to find out if it could work for you, book a free phone consultation here: https://mindability-hypnotherapy.co.uk/book-now/

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