26/11/2025
A tantrum isn’t “naughty.”
Backchat isn’t “disrespect.”
Shutting down isn’t “rude.”
Crying over small things isn’t “overreacting.”
They’re all messages:
📌 “I’m overwhelmed.”
📌 “I don’t feel heard.”
📌 “I’m scared of getting it wrong.”
📌 “I don’t know how to cope with this feeling.”
Children show us their feelings through behaviour long before they can tell us with words.
So your superpower isn’t being the “perfect parent.”
It’s being the safe place.
🧠 Pause before reacting
💛 Get curious instead of furious
🗣️ “What’s really happening for my child right now?”
Connection first → behaviour follows.
You’re not raising a perfectly behaved child.
You’re raising a human who knows they’re loved when they’re at their worst.
And that changes everything. 🤍
More information in my book Guidance from The Therapist Parent Available on my website www.thetherapistparent.com and Amazon