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Sarah O’Callaghan Therapy

Accredited CBT and EMDR psychotherapist
Parental Burnout Specialist
North East and Nationwide

11/11/2025

💜 MUMS! 💜

If I had a £ for every time someone mentions guilt as an overwhelming emotion day to day with their little ones I’d be a very rich woman!

But I’d be a millionaire if I had a £ everyone mentioned guilt when they REST 💵

We are so deeply conditioned to see rest as laziness… often through our own upbringing through caregivers not having awareness of their own dysregulated nervous systems.

You’ve learned to equate your worth with productivity, and slowing down feels unsafe- even if logically you know you are safe.

But your nervous system can’t heal in motion.
Rest isn’t a luxury — it’s maintenance.

Here’s what I’d focus on if you’re finding it hard to stop:
🧠 Notice the guilt without judging it
☕ Reframe rest as maintenance, not reward
🌿 Start micro — 5–10 minute pauses count
💛 Notice the difference it makes
🫶 Give yourself daily permission to rest

You don’t need to earn your downtime.
You need to allow it.

✨ The goal isn’t to do more — it’s to feel safe doing less.

04/11/2025

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Perfectionist parents often carry a deep ache beneath the surface — a sense that they should be coping better, doing more, or feeling happier. But so often, that drive for perfection is rooted in old wounds.

In therapy, I support parents to gently explore and heal those layers using:

✨ EMDR – helping the brain reprocess painful memories so they no longer hold the same emotional charge. This means the past feels like the past, rather than something you keep reliving in the present.

🧠 Trauma-focused CBT – making sense of how past experiences have shaped unhelpful beliefs like “I have to hold everything together” or “I’m not good enough.” Together, we learn to notice and reframe these patterns with compassion and evidence-based tools.

💛 Compassion-focused approaches – helping parents turn down the volume of their inner critic and build a kinder, more supportive relationship with themselves.

Working with trauma isn’t about erasing your story — it’s about learning to meet yourself with compassion and understanding, and shifting your outlook on some negative beliefs and interpretations about your last trauma.

Sound familiar? See 🔗 in bio to visit website for a free consultation call 📞

03/11/2025

Perfectionism in parenting isn’t about vanity or control - it’s about safety, care, and deep love.

If “lower your standards” feels impossible, it’s because those standards helped you cope.

You don’t need to drop them overnight — you deserve a space where “good enough” feels safe enough.

Is parenting becoming all consuming because of your unrelenting standards? Visit link in bio to book your free consultation call now 📞

29/10/2025

💥 Are you being judged? Or are you judging you? 💥

Some days it feels like you’re juggling a million things just to prove you’re coping. Checking, planning, tidying and overthinking… all because you’re worried someone might judge you.

Resting, asking for help, or letting things be a little messy doesn’t make you a failure. It makes you human. 💛

You are already enough — even if the house isn’t perfect, the laundry isn’t done, or the to-do list keeps growing.

✨ Take a breath, let go of the invisible weight, and remember: you don’t have to prove anything to anyone. You’re doing enough.

24/10/2025

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Interestingly, I never once identified as a perfectionist person!

I always had to work super hard to get good results in school, was typically referred to as an ‘all-rounder’ which I took to mean ‘just ok’ at everything.

I had a place to study medicine which I didn’t make the grade for and ended up constantly chasing my tail to get to where I wanted to be in life.. which was a lot of hard work.

In motherhood… I read all the books and prepared like a boss for the arrival of my daughter, not once considering that things wouldn’t go to plan. My lovely dad once told me ‘she’s not a machine’ when I was suggesting we organise a day out around feeding times ( and needing to wake her up to feed her on the clock).

But not once did I consider these things part of trying to do things perfectly… but of course they were. And I’ve learned some tough lessons along the way…

As a perfectionist parent, I’ve spent years juggling work, kids, and home, trying to do everything ‘right’ I’ve snapped at my children, argued with my partner, skipped meals, and felt guilty for resting — all while believing I was failing if I asked for help or did things differently from my own parents.

Swipe through to see the 7 lessons I learned the messy way — and why your worth isn’t measured by how much you can do.

21/10/2025

Born to say vs Trained to say — because sometimes the therapist in me and the human in me have very different reactions.

You can know all the theory in the world and still find yourself whispering “I’m one sensory overload away from running away to a quiet cottage” under your breath.

This is for the parents who:

🧠 Overthink every meltdown
💬 Apologise for shouting, then overanalyse the repair
💪🏼 Function like superheroes but feel like they’re failing
💚 Feel like their partner is trying to ‘fix’ their emotions

It’s not about perfection. It’s about seeing the gap between what we know and what we feel — and laughing at the messiness in between.

Because even therapists have “born to say” moments… we’ve just been trained to phrase them better. 😉

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Quadrus Business Centre
Boldon
NE359PF

Opening Hours

Monday	9am - 5pm
Wednesday	9am - 5pm
Thursday	9am - 8pm
Friday	9am - 5pm

Website

http://www.sarahocbt.co.uk/

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