16/12/2025
Our Day 16 advent tip is about setting boundaries in the postnatal period.
It's not always easy, but protecting your space for you, your baby and your family is important, and needs to come above other peoples sometime fragile egos! This is a good role for partners to step in and gatekeep (this can become challenging if it's their mum that needs some words! 😬).
All my Hypnobirthing course include a postnatal preparation and planning session to help you feel ready for your postnatal time as well as for birth!
Here are a few polite, but firm responses to common situations. No need to over explain or justify!
Situation:
Baby is being passed around, or someone reaches out without asking.
Response:
“We’re keeping cuddles limited right now — thank you for understanding."
Situation:
“I’ll take them - you need a break.”
Response:
“I appreciate the offer, but I’ve got this. Thank you”
or
“Thank you, but they settle best with me right now.”
Situation:
“I’ll give the bottle!” / “Let me feed them.”
Response:
“We’re keeping feeds as a special time just between us for now.”
or
“Thanks for offering, but the current advice to limit feeding to just the main carers”
Situation:
“Surely s/he can't be hungry again?! You only fed an hour ago”
Response:
“We’re comfortable with reponsive feeding. Frequent feeding is very normal for newborns, and it's helping boost my milk supply”
or
“We’re following guidance, and it's working well for our baby and for us.”
Situation:
“In my day, we didn’t do it like that.”
Response:
“Things have changed a lot, and this works for us. We'll ask for advice if we feel we need it”
or
“I understand you're just trying to help, but we’re happy with our choices.”
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