AmorDefence

08/12/2025

No one is coming to save you.
Harsh Fu***ng Fact!

I am still dealing with me saving me.
We are the journey.
So to all those women who have been kicked to the ground.
Become your own hero.
Show up. Stand up. Level Up. No one can do it for us.

When does that start?
The moment you decide it does.
I am here if you need support.

07/12/2025

01/12/2025

Do you ever look at everyone else and think they’re doing it right… while you’re just trying to hold it together?

I’ve stared at other women and wondered, “How do they make it look so easy?”

I have cried, crumbled, crashed & questioned everything, the moments I had to drag myself forward when giving up felt much simpler.

Oh how I wanted to quit!

But those quiet, disciplined choices
‘the ones no one claps for,’ those are the moments that built me. They are the ever evolving journey. Those tiny habits and behaviours that you don’t think are making a difference…they compound.

The woman I am today wasn’t created by confidence, they were created by turning up for myself. I have to keep showing up for myself every single day.

And that’s why AmorDefence exists.
To remind you that the journey is the becoming. That every small, disciplined moment where you choose yourself is a victory. If you’re still fighting to get where you want to be, you’re not behind.
You’re building.

Amor Yourself, and honour the work no one sees. Every tear, every rep, and every step. Love the journey to your best self.

28/11/2025

Ever felt uncomfortable and wished in hindsight you had said something?

Yep, I know I have.

Let’s stop accepting behaviours that f**k with our boundaries because we’re told to be polite.

We are conditioned to tolerate too much. FACT 👊🏼

Calling out inappropriate behaviour isn’t drama, it’s deconditioning.
Silence is protecting these behaviours, not your boundaries. Be loud and be expensive. Your voice is your safety. Use it.

17/11/2025

Doing what you love is an act of self-care.

It’s you choosing joy
It’s you choosing presence
It’s you choosing yourself

At Amor Defence, we don’t just teach self-defence, we help to build healthy habits, break down lifestyle barriers, help women to feel regulated in their skin, and to prioritise themselves again. Protecting your peace starts with doing what you love.

When you do what you love,
you stop surviving… and you start leading your life.

✨ Amor Yourself ✨

14/11/2025

Have you ever looked at your life and thought, “Why me?”

I do, and it hurts. It plays on repeat like a broken record, especially after the moments that ripped me apart. It’s the loud kinda pain that changes how you walk through the world.

That’s where “Amor Fati” resonates.
Love Our Fate. 💗

Not in a passive, “just accept it” way. But in choosing to embrace everything that’s happened and using it as fuel.

Amor Defence believe in finding strength through the fire, in transformation, getting back up when life knocks you down, and standing shoulder to shoulder with other women who refuse to be victims of fate.
Nobody survives wrong. 🔥

10/11/2025

Quick fixes f**k me off!

Everyone wants the result, but not the work. Instant gratification that is never sustainable in the long run. You want the truth?
Anything worth having takes time. Yes, it pi**es me off too!

Recovery
Healing
Learning
Business
Trust
Strength
Connection
Stability

None of it happens overnight (annoyingly).

Don’t wait til next year to prioritise yourself.
Start now. Amor will help you to build solid foundations in your health, defence, & confidence for life.

If you’re ready to grow, work with me 1:1 and let’s create something bespoke that lasts.

Strong. Grounded. Unbreakable.

DM me “FOUNDATION” to start.

08/11/2025

🔥🫶🏼

Domestic abuse isn’t always physical. Coercive control is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.

As part of this year's 16 Days of Activism against Gender-based Violence, we are hosting a webinar on the topic of coercive control. To register for the webinar and to learn more about the 16 Days campaign and what you can do to get involved go to: https://mywi.thewi.org.uk/public-affairs-and-campaigns/news-and-actions/take-action-16-days-to-help-mend-a-broken-system

Let's unite, take action, and raise our voices for a future free from violence against women and girls.

08/11/2025

It took me two years to be able to say the word r**e.

There’s no shame in survival. 🫶🏼

It's not what you wear.

It's not because you had a glass of wine.

It's not because you walked home alone at night.

It's r**e culture.

And it is always because a ra**st chose to r**e.

08/11/2025

So happy to support all warriors working together 🫶🏼🔥

🎉 Milestone Moment! 🎉

We’re so proud to share that 150 people have now taken part in our Warrior Project — our free self-defence & personal safety workshops funded by the National Lottery.

150 individuals who showed up…
✔️ to build confidence
✔️ to learn practical safety skills
✔️ to feel more empowered in everyday life

This project was created so that women and girls across Hampshire could access personal safety education without barriers — and seeing so many people step through the door already is incredible.

A huge thank you to The National Lottery Community Fund for making this possible, and to everyone who has joined us, shared our work, and helped spread the word.

We’re only just getting started 💙
More workshops coming soon!

08/11/2025

Yes 🙌🏼 🔥🫶🏼 abuse does not discriminate 💗

We’re proud to share some incredible news!

Our STAR and PARAGON counselling services have been independently reaccredited by LimeCulture, meeting the Male Survivors Partnership Quality Standards for services supporting male victims/survivors of sexual violence.

This recognition reflects the unwavering dedication of our teams. Tonia Redvers, Director of Operations & Business Development, had thanks to give:

“Firstly, I want to thank all the amazing counsellors and domestic abuse workers who support male victims, ensuring the work and support we offer is always excellent. This work has continued through changes and challenges for our teams, and yet they haven’t stopped being amazing. Thank you.”

👏 To every staff member who made this possible—your compassion, resilience, and commitment truly shine. We’re so grateful.

04/11/2025

“Amor Fati, to love your fate.

Every experience that tried to break you becomes the fire that builds your strength.

Violence Against Women and Girls is real. But so is our power to resist, to heal, and to fight back.

🔥 Train. Rise. Amor Yourself. 🔥

Join the movement & learn to fight back.