31/10/2025
Go on Fearne! X
Today I sit somewhere between caring less and not giving a f**k.
Its very much what I've spent the last year writing about. Each time I open my laptop to finish this book I'm one step closer to shedding the layers of people pleasing and concentrating on other people's opinions of me.
Age is a big player in this process. Women of my age are often bombarded with the rhetoric that decline, ageing and fluctuating hormones must dictate the majority of our experience. But.....what if that's only a tiny part of the story. What if with this period of change we find our fire? What if we understand who we are better than ever which gives us a robustness we've not felt previously. What if that robustness allows us to set better boundaries, take less s**t, live alongside the knowledge that some people might not like us without falling apart?
I'm starting to feel all of it without too much effort. Last week a man made assumptions about me and my life and left a s**tty comment on my feed. Obviously something I've been through countless times before but this time it was different. I blocked him and moved on without feeling shame or concern that a man I've never met and likely never will, doesn't like me. I actually mentally sent him a little (very little because I couldn't be arsed to put that much effort into it) prayer because he is someone in pain.
Are you wanting to care less? Give less f**ks? Move through life in YOUR way regardless of what others think? Is that not entirely exciting, liberating, f**king beautiful...?
If you've already nailed it, or are on the path to it, I salute you. This is all new to me and something I'm loving writing about and feel excited about.
Also read the new book by Malala Yousafzai
as its full of all the encouragement and inspiration needed to do life your way, courageously.