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Catherine Topham Sly - Relationships after kids therapist, writer & speaker. Hello, I’m Catherine Topham Sly. I’m a therapist, writer, and speaker.

Supporting couples with practical tips that work, to communicate better, resolve resentments and enjoy more intimacy. Relationships are my thing. Maybe you’re reading this because you’re having trouble with yours? I’m glad you’ve found your way here, and I would love to see how I can help. I specialise in helping couples to reconnect after they have kids, and stay close for years to come. Usually, that means improving communication, finding a path to understanding each other better, and enjoying more intimacy. I work with individuals and couples, online and in my hometown of Brighton and Hove, on the south coast of England. I’m a bit of a geek, and all of my work is grounded in years of research into what makes a healthy, satisfying relationship. Are you ready to get back to enjoying yours? Get in touch https://insightconnection.uk/contact/

13/11/2025

Want to feel close again?

Parenthood changes everything - your time, your body, your energy, even your s*x life.

It can make everything feel like work, including staying connected with your partner.

If s*x feels like one more thing on your to-do list, you’re not alone.

So many parents experience a dip in desire or even a s*xless patch after having kids - but that doesn’t have to be the end of intimacy.

Back in the Sack helps you change that, one honest conversation and one small moment of connection at a time.

This isn’t a “get your spark back in seven days” kind of thing!

It’s a workbook for real people - parents who are tired, touched-out, trying their best… and still want to feel emotionally and physically close again.

Inside, you’ll find gentle, practical guidance to help you rebuild intimacy and desire after kids - mentally, emotionally, and physically - at a pace that feels right for you.

Thanks so much to Emotionally Focused Integrative Therapist .jones for your kind words about the workbook 💞

Find out more about Back in the Sack: the s*x after kids workbook via the link in my bio →

03/11/2025

Ever worry you’re not compatible?

Here’s how I’ve come to see it, after years of struggling with this in my own marriage, and helping couples with theirs:

Compatibility isn’t something you find, it’s something you build.

This idea often surprises people… especially when they’re in a relationship that’s started to feel hard.

You might be wondering:

🤔 Are we just fundamentally incompatible?

😬 Is it always going to feel like this?

Here’s what I want you to know:

If you’ve started wondering whether you’re still compatible, you might actually be feeling the effects of *emotional disconnection* - a sign you’re stuck in a cycle that isn’t working, not that your relationship is doomed.

When got in touch to ask me about romantic compatibility, I shared some signs of possible incompatibility (like constant conflict or feeling lonely even when you’re together) - but also that those signs don’t always mean you’re with the wrong person!

Sometimes it’s about learning a new way of relating - one built on emotional connection, not just shared hobbies or life goals.

Swipe through to read more from the article 👉🏼 and click the link in my bio here to read the rest →

And if you’re noticing these signs in your own relationship, please know that you’re not alone, and things can change with the right support 💛

💾 Save this post to come back to if you ever have a panic about your compatibility.

Thanks for reaching out !

👋🏼 Hi, I’m Catherine Topham Sly, BACP accredited relationship therapist and coach. I can teach you how to build a sense of compatibility, whether your partner’s up for doing the work or not. Drop me a DM to find out more!

16/10/2025

You keep telling yourself it’s easier to just do it yourself.

And sometimes it is… but at what cost?

I was delighted to be invited by trauma therapist onto her incredibly supportive and insightful podcast

Cath and I talked about the mental load, why we struggle to share it, and what might be going on underneath those “I’ll just do it” moments.

Plus communication, conflict, couples therapy, intergenerational patterns, parenting, and much more.

This was a very personal one for me where I told much more of my own story than I ever have publicly before.

I hope you find it helpful, and that you’ll check out Cath’s other episodes too, especially if you’re a cycle breaking parent on your own journey of healing and growth.

As Cath says, “We will break down shame together and learn to cultivate self-compassion” 💗

🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts, or follow the link in my bio here →

👋🏼 Hi, I’m Catherine Topham Sly, BACP accredited relationship therapist & coach. I help parents with their relationships - solo or together. Drop me a DM for more info 💛

07/10/2025

Motherhood was everything I dreamed of… and nothing like I expected.

I loved my babies so much.

But I hadn’t realised how invisible the mental load would make me feel.

Or how heavy it would become.

If you’re there too... if you’re wondering, “how did we get here?”

You’re not broken. You might be waking up to something new and different becoming possible for you 💡

And the connection you crave starts with you ✨

Are you’re ready to start rebalancing your relationship without nagging, shouting, or giving up?

I can help you with that.

You can start by downloading The Resentment Reset via the link in my bio here →

(It’s free, it will take you about 10 minutes to read it, and it might just change your whole perspective.)

Save this post if you’re ready to join me living a different kind of mum life 💪🏼

And share it with a friend who needs to know it’s not just her 💌

⭐️ To see more posts like this, tap → following → add to favourites.

Tell me:

What’s one invisible thing you do every day that no one even realises? 📝

I guarantee you’re not alone!

👋🏼 Hi, I’m Catherine Topham Sly, BACP accredited relationship therapist & coach. I help parents reconnect with themselves and each other after having children. DM me COACHING to find out more...

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Monday	9:30am - 3pm
Tuesday	9:30am - 3pm
Wednesday	9:30am - 3pm
Thursday	9:30am - 3pm

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http://insightconnection.uk/

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