25/02/2026
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Here is a shortlist of the best tools Iโve picked up along the way, things Iโve had recommended and which Iโve recommended in turn. I hope you find them useful.
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๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ ๐๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ซ๐, by Dr Emily Nagoski, is a great and validating guide to female s*x drive.
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๐๐ง๐ญ๐๐ฌ๐ข๐๐ฌ ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ง๐จ๐ง๐ฒ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ, collected by Gillian Anderson. This is a collection of s*xual fantasies from women around the world, compelling and great for firing up arousal.
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is a somatic psychotherapist, trans-channel, has inspired and mentored so much for me personally. If youโre into consciousness and advanced manifestation, look no further.
Please share what you have found helpful. Iโm sure you have some resources that are worth knowing about - we all resonate with different things after all, so it could really help someone.
Bean x