Grief Recovery Method

15/01/2026

Why “Time Heals” Is a Lie: The 2 Ways We Handle Grief (And Why One Keeps You Stuck)

Many of us were taught to handle grief in one of two ways: ignore it and hope it fades, or simply "be strong" and move on. But if I'm being honest, that approach doesn't heal—it just buries the pain.

In this episode, Part 2 with Grief Recovery Method Specialist Kelli Sheumaker, we dive into the complexities of grief and the different ways people cope with loss. We explore the importance of acknowledging grief rather than pushing it aside, the ripple effects of unresolved grief on relationships and physical health, and the transformative power of The Grief Recovery Method. This conversation highlights that healing requires action and that grief recovery is an ongoing journey.

We go beyond the typical association of grief with death. We discuss grief in living relationships—marriage, parenting, friendships—and the challenging dynamics where the relationship continues, but the pain endures. We also examine how unspoken expectations lead to disappointment, how unresolved grief can distort our memories of a person, and why getting accurate about a relationship—the good, the bad, and the unfinished—can restore clarity and empower us to make informed choices.

And yes, we talk about the body. Not as a guilt trip or a simple "grief causes everything," but as an invitation to consider the impact of years of unprocessed emotional pain on your nervous system, sleep, health, and how you show up for the people you love. If you've ever thought, “I should be over this by now,” this conversation is for you.

Here are other highlights you'll not want to miss:

The Two Paths: Avoiding Grief vs Healing It
Getting Unstuck: Safe Space + Tools That Actually Work
The Relationship Graph: How Grief Distorts Memory (and How to Get Accurate)
Expectations = Planned Disappointments (Marriage + Living Relationships)
The Ripple Effect: How Unresolved Grief Impacts Everyone Around You
Grief in the Body: Sleep, Pain, Autoimmune, and Physical Symptoms
Chronic Illness Grief: Mourning the Life You Expected
Core Work First, Then Day-to-Day

Many of us were taught to handle grief in one of two ways: ignore it and hope it fades, or simply "be strong" and move on. But if I'm being honest, that appr...

15/01/2026

Why “Time Heals” Is a Lie: The 2 Ways We Handle Grief (And Why One Keeps You Stuck)

Many of us were taught to handle grief in one of two ways: ignore it and hope it fades, or simply "be strong" and move on. But if I'm being honest, that approach doesn't heal—it just buries the pain.

In this episode, Part 2 with Grief Recovery Method Specialist Kelli Sheumaker, we dive into the complexities of grief and the different ways people cope with loss. We explore the importance of acknowledging grief rather than pushing it aside, the ripple effects of unresolved grief on relationships and physical health, and the transformative power of The Grief Recovery Method. This conversation highlights that healing requires action and that grief recovery is an ongoing journey.

We go beyond the typical association of grief with death. We discuss grief in living relationships—marriage, parenting, friendships—and the challenging dynamics where the relationship continues, but the pain endures. We also examine how unspoken expectations lead to disappointment, how unresolved grief can distort our memories of a person, and why getting accurate about a relationship—the good, the bad, and the unfinished—can restore clarity and empower us to make informed choices.

And yes, we talk about the body. Not as a guilt trip or a simple "grief causes everything," but as an invitation to consider the impact of years of unprocessed emotional pain on your nervous system, sleep, health, and how you show up for the people you love. If you've ever thought, “I should be over this by now,” this conversation is for you.

Here are other highlights you'll not want to miss:

The Two Paths: Avoiding Grief vs Healing It
Getting Unstuck: Safe Space + Tools That Actually Work
The Relationship Graph: How Grief Distorts Memory (and How to Get Accurate)
Expectations = Planned Disappointments (Marriage + Living Relationships)
The Ripple Effect: How Unresolved Grief Impacts Everyone Around You
Grief in the Body: Sleep, Pain, Autoimmune, and Physical Symptoms
Chronic Illness Grief: Mourning the Life You Expected
Core Work First, Then Day-to-Day Maintenance Tools

Many of us were taught to handle grief in one of two ways: ignore it and hope it fades, or simply "be strong" and move on. But if I'm being honest, that appr...

13/01/2026

What if the thing holding you back is actually unprocessed grief? So many of the “obstacles” in your life, the goals that stay just out of reach, and the patterns you cannot seem to break often have grief sitting quietly underneath them. Grief is still grief whether it happened 5 months ago or 30 years ago. The timeline is irrelevant. If it is still in your heart, it is still affecting your life. It can weigh you down and keep you from soaring to the places you know you are capable of going. You are not weak for feeling this, and you are not behind. You might just need tools.

That is what The Grief Recovery Method is for. It gives you a clear, evidence-based way to address what is unfinished, so you can move forward lighter, clearer, and more free. If this resonates with you, you do not have to figure it out alone.
Follow this link: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/ben-brady

or send me a message to learn more about starting Grief Recovery.

Hello, my name is Ben Brady and I am a Grief Recovery Method Specialist working online & from my home on the beautiful Fife coast in Scotland, UK. Grief is the normal & natural response to loss. I treat grievers with the respect they deserve & give them the dignity to share their story, without judg...

11/01/2026

January is too long to just ‘be strong’

The 2nd week of January is the time when new year’s resolutions are the most difficult to continue.
Many give up from ‘trying hard’.

Same with grief, a dangerous misconception is that ‘being strong’ helps you to recover from grief.
We have been told since childhood that we should be strong for others when dealing with emotional pain. But this just hides grief inside that eventually surfaces & being strong no longer cuts it
But recovery is possible by taking a few correct steps, this allows the griever to communicate deep emotional truths that are in the heart of.

My passion is helping grievers - with empathy, compassion & respect.
Within 7 sessions recovery can be achieved ❤️‍🩹

When ‘being strong’ is no longer helping you. Don’t worry

Help is at hand…

31/12/2025

Ok, Ok, I admit it…I feel things alot more deeply than I let on.
& because I don’t let on, my internal world can feel like a mass of spaghetti.
Take this Christmas. My family & I spent 3 days together. Great food, lots of presents, great tv, chocolate…fun times!
But by Boxing Day I was consumed with strong feelings. Shame, guilt, rage. I felt angry at everyone, I felt judgemental, I was desperately unhappy.
So what was happening to me?
In another part of my world my childhood friend is going through hell.
He lives 350 miles away so I don’t get to visit him often, but I’m in touch with those around him & know what he’s going through.
He has cancer in his throat & tongue.
He can no longer speak. He can no longer eat with his mouth, he has a tube directly into his stomach & 3 times a day a carer pumps goo directly into him.
He also has alcoholic dementia. He forgets close friends, he forgets from minute to minute. He is slipping away, not slowly, but he is gradually going.
So my inner turmoil is because deep down I’m desperately sad & angry that I’m losing my friend.
I need to communicate events & feelings around them that I experience in our relationship.
Our connection is forged through our friendship in early childhood, our scrapes as teenage pals, & the crazy times we spent together in our 20’s.
I need to apologise, I need to forgive, I need to issue important statements, & all while being heard.
This is the beginning of the path to my healing.
Walk with me in 2026 towards emotional freedom.
Regain strength to help & not just hurt.

30/12/2025

NEW YEAR OLD GRIEF?

It’s never too late to recover.
I would love to meet with you to hear your story & share how The Grief Recovery Method can help you have a much more fulfilling 2026

16/12/2025

Have you ever thought how important recovering from grief is?

Your future depends on it ❤️‍🩹

Grief damages the heart
Grief damages the brain
Grief damages the body

Recovery means healing ❤️‍🩹

Join an online Grief Recovery Method support group early in January 2026.

11/12/2025

2025 ends with RECOVERY ❤️‍🩹
The Grief Recovery Method is the only evidence based grief programme in the world.

Could 2026 be the year of your recovery?

09/12/2025

Don’t let grief steal a joyful 2026!

09/12/2025

I’m really excited about taking on new clients for 2026.
This means HELPING GRIEVERS RECOVER with the tried & tested Grief Recovery Method
Is it time for your new beginning?

20/11/2025

Hi, I run groups that support grievers. My next Grief Support Group can be found in 'events' & begins on January 8th.
It's online & it's a wonderful way to begin 2026 ❤️‍🩹
Contact me on
ben.brady@character-matters.co.uk
to find out more.

22/10/2025

For Anyone Grieving ❤️‍🩹

Find respect, dignity & recovery with the Grief Recovery Method

What loss have you experienced?

The death of a loved one, a life limiting illness, the death of your pet, the ending of your business, the break up of a romantic relationship or the death of a less than loved one.

The way you are feeling is totally normal. But it’s difficult to live with.

Begin your recovery today

ben.brady@character-matters.co.uk

Hello, my name is Ben Brady and I am an Advanced Grief Recovery Method Specialist working from my home on the beautiful Fife coast in Scotland, UK. I am not unfamiliar with grief, diagnosed with an inoperable brainstem aneurysm in 1999, I live with loss every day. So I came to the Grief Recovery Met...