Grief Recovery Method

13/03/2026

In this episode of the Feel Free Again podcast, I am joined by Grief Recovery Specialist Joe Dubowski as he shares his transformative journey from tech professional to licensed marriage and family therapist. After experiencing the unimaginable loss of his daughter in a shooting, Joe turned to The Grief Recovery Method, which not only helped him process his emotions, but also led him to dedicate his life to helping others navigate grief. With over 15 years of experience, Joe offers valuable insights into the often overlooked stages of grief and how we can find healing through focused emotional work.

During the conversation, Joe reveals how retirement can be a powerful grief event that often goes unaddressed, leaving people with unresolved emotions. He shares his own personal experience in approaching this life transition with the tools of grief recovery, showing how completing emotional work allowed him to retire on his terms, with peace and clarity. This episode is an eye-opening discussion for anyone facing a major life change, whether it be retirement, loss, or other significant life shifts.

Tune in as Joe emphasizes the importance of recognizing grief in all aspects of life, even in places where society doesn’t typically acknowledge it. From career changes to personal losses, Joe’s story highlights how grief recovery tools can help individuals complete unfinished emotional business and embrace new chapters in life. If you’re ready to dive deeper into your own grief and learn how to process it effectively, this episode is a must-listen.

Here are other highlights you'll not want to miss:

Introduction to Joe Dubowski and His Background
Joe Reflects on the Loss of His Daughter
Transition from Tech to Grief Recovery and Therapy
The Impact of Losing a Child and Joe’s Grief Journey
How Joe Discovered the Grief Recovery Handbook
Joe’s First Experience with the Grief Recovery Method
Joe’s Transition into Grief Recovery Work as a Profession
Recognizing Grief Beyond the Obvious Losses
Joe Talks About Retirement as a Grief Event
The Role of Grief in Retirement and Life Transitions
How Grief Recovery Tools Helped Joe Complete His Career
The Importance of Getting Complete with Past Grief

In this episode of the Feel Free Again podcast, grief recovery specialist Joe Dubowski shares his transformative journey from tech professional to marriage a...

27/02/2026

FEEL FREE AGAIN PODCAST

In this episode of the Feel Free Again Podcast, I sit down with healing and empowerment coach Jorge Ruiz to talk about something men desperately need but rarely reach for: grief recovery. We dig into why men often avoid emotional healing, why “I’m fine” becomes a lifestyle, and how unprocessed loss doesn’t just hurt your feelings, it quietly anchors your identity to your past and shapes how you react in the present and fear the future.

Jorge shares powerful stories from working with foster youth, people coming out of prison, and men who’ve learned to survive by numbing instead of processing. We talk identity labels like “addict” or “prisoner,” and how The Grief Recovery Method can help you finally separate who you are from what happened to you. We also go deep on men’s isolation, the su***de reality, and the warrior/protector paradox: real strength isn’t pretending you feel nothing—it’s learning how to feel without being ruled by it.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, reactive, ashamed, disconnected, or like peace always sits just one achievement away… this conversation is for you. I also share how grief recovery impacts marriage and fatherhood, and Jorge breaks down his FOCUS framework (Faith Overcomes Challenges Unleashes Success) plus why none of this works well until the heart gets healed first.

If you know a man who needs this, please share it. It might be the conversation that helps him finally start healing.

Here are other highlights you'll not want to miss:

•Why Feeling “Stuck” Happens to Strong People
•Meet Ezra Stanton: The Cost of Staying in Quicksand
•The Hidden Patterns That Keep Men Stalled
•How to Tell If You’re Numb vs. Actually “Okay”
•The Moment You Realize It’s Not Just Stress
•The Lie of Self-Sufficiency (And Why It Backfires)
•Naming the Real Problem Without Shame
•The Inner Story Driving Your Outer Life
•Why Willpower Fails (Even for Disciplined Men)
•Rebuilding Clarity When You Can’t Trust Your Feelings
•The Emotional Weight You Didn’t Know You Were Carrying
•What Healing Actually Looks Like in Real Life
•Breaking the Cycle: Triggers, Reactions, and Repair
•Identity: Who You Become After Loss and Change
•Relationships Under Pressure: How Men Pull Away
•The Turning Point: Doing the Work That Works
•Practical Tools to Get Unstuck This Week
What Freedom Feels Like (And Why It’s Quiet at First)
•The Long Game: Staying Free, Not Just Getting Free

In this episode of the Feel Free Again Podcast, I sit down with healing and empowerment coach Jorge Ruiz to talk about something men desperately need, but ra...

27/02/2026

FEEL FREE AGAIN PODCAST

In this episode of the Feel Free Again podcast, I am joined by Rhys Kiaaina, who shares his profound personal journey with The Grief Recovery Method. Rhys opens up about his experience with unresolved grief from the loss of his grandmother, the church split that impacted his community, and how the grief recovery process helped him find healing after 18 years of emotional turmoil.

Rhys explains how his story of transformation emphasizes the importance of addressing the emotional pain we carry, especially when it remains unresolved for years. We also explore the profound impact of the method on communities, highlighting how it helped Rhys navigate his own grief while also aiding others in their healing journey.

In this candid conversation, Rhys offers advice to those struggling with grief, encouraging them to take action and seek help. Whether it’s grief from personal loss, church splits, or other emotional wounds, this episode provides hope and practical insights for overcoming the emotional pain that can sometimes feel insurmountable.

Here are other highlights you'll not want to miss:

•Rhys' Journey into Grief Recovery
Impact of Church Split on Rhys and His Community
•Introduction of Grief Recovery Specialist at Rhys' Church
Emotional Struggles After Church Split and Unresolved Grief
•Reflecting on the Loss of a Dear Family Friend
•Role of Grief Recovery Specialist in Helping the Church Heal
•Unresolved Childhood Grief and Its Lasting Impact
•Uncovering Unresolved Grief from the Loss of His Grandmother
•The Guilt Rhys Felt After Recommending Chemotherapy for His Grandmother
•Realizing the Importance of Feeling Emotions to Heal
•Rhys' Breakthrough: Visiting His Grandmother’s Grave
•The Power of Emotional Connection in Grief Recovery

In this episode of the Feel Free Again podcast, I am joined by Rhys Kiaaina, a grief recovery specialist, who shares his profound personal journey with the G...

27/01/2026

My year has begun…but grief is still close by.
I’m dealing with health problems and my lifelong friend is facing death.
So, Anxiety is with me every day. I second guess most things I do. My body aches. Sleep is erratic. I’m not ‘settling’ into this new year!
All these are signs of grief.
What should I do? Stumble through the year? Hope that things will just change?
Or follow proven steps that bring recovery?

Watch this space!!

23/01/2026

There are Grief Recovery Method Specialists like me all over the world. See some of them share their experiences here!

Listen to ten professionals who experienced transformation from the Grief Recovery Method Certification Training talk from their hearts.For more information ...

15/01/2026

Why “Time Heals” Is a Lie: The 2 Ways We Handle Grief (And Why One Keeps You Stuck)

Many of us were taught to handle grief in one of two ways: ignore it and hope it fades, or simply "be strong" and move on. But if I'm being honest, that approach doesn't heal—it just buries the pain.

In this episode, Part 2 with Grief Recovery Method Specialist Kelli Sheumaker, we dive into the complexities of grief and the different ways people cope with loss. We explore the importance of acknowledging grief rather than pushing it aside, the ripple effects of unresolved grief on relationships and physical health, and the transformative power of The Grief Recovery Method. This conversation highlights that healing requires action and that grief recovery is an ongoing journey.

We go beyond the typical association of grief with death. We discuss grief in living relationships—marriage, parenting, friendships—and the challenging dynamics where the relationship continues, but the pain endures. We also examine how unspoken expectations lead to disappointment, how unresolved grief can distort our memories of a person, and why getting accurate about a relationship—the good, the bad, and the unfinished—can restore clarity and empower us to make informed choices.

And yes, we talk about the body. Not as a guilt trip or a simple "grief causes everything," but as an invitation to consider the impact of years of unprocessed emotional pain on your nervous system, sleep, health, and how you show up for the people you love. If you've ever thought, “I should be over this by now,” this conversation is for you.

Here are other highlights you'll not want to miss:

The Two Paths: Avoiding Grief vs Healing It
Getting Unstuck: Safe Space + Tools That Actually Work
The Relationship Graph: How Grief Distorts Memory (and How to Get Accurate)
Expectations = Planned Disappointments (Marriage + Living Relationships)
The Ripple Effect: How Unresolved Grief Impacts Everyone Around You
Grief in the Body: Sleep, Pain, Autoimmune, and Physical Symptoms
Chronic Illness Grief: Mourning the Life You Expected
Core Work First, Then Day-to-Day

Many of us were taught to handle grief in one of two ways: ignore it and hope it fades, or simply "be strong" and move on. But if I'm being honest, that appr...

15/01/2026

Why “Time Heals” Is a Lie: The 2 Ways We Handle Grief (And Why One Keeps You Stuck)

Many of us were taught to handle grief in one of two ways: ignore it and hope it fades, or simply "be strong" and move on. But if I'm being honest, that approach doesn't heal—it just buries the pain.

In this episode, Part 2 with Grief Recovery Method Specialist Kelli Sheumaker, we dive into the complexities of grief and the different ways people cope with loss. We explore the importance of acknowledging grief rather than pushing it aside, the ripple effects of unresolved grief on relationships and physical health, and the transformative power of The Grief Recovery Method. This conversation highlights that healing requires action and that grief recovery is an ongoing journey.

We go beyond the typical association of grief with death. We discuss grief in living relationships—marriage, parenting, friendships—and the challenging dynamics where the relationship continues, but the pain endures. We also examine how unspoken expectations lead to disappointment, how unresolved grief can distort our memories of a person, and why getting accurate about a relationship—the good, the bad, and the unfinished—can restore clarity and empower us to make informed choices.

And yes, we talk about the body. Not as a guilt trip or a simple "grief causes everything," but as an invitation to consider the impact of years of unprocessed emotional pain on your nervous system, sleep, health, and how you show up for the people you love. If you've ever thought, “I should be over this by now,” this conversation is for you.

Here are other highlights you'll not want to miss:

The Two Paths: Avoiding Grief vs Healing It
Getting Unstuck: Safe Space + Tools That Actually Work
The Relationship Graph: How Grief Distorts Memory (and How to Get Accurate)
Expectations = Planned Disappointments (Marriage + Living Relationships)
The Ripple Effect: How Unresolved Grief Impacts Everyone Around You
Grief in the Body: Sleep, Pain, Autoimmune, and Physical Symptoms
Chronic Illness Grief: Mourning the Life You Expected
Core Work First, Then Day-to-Day Maintenance Tools

Many of us were taught to handle grief in one of two ways: ignore it and hope it fades, or simply "be strong" and move on. But if I'm being honest, that appr...

13/01/2026

What if the thing holding you back is actually unprocessed grief? So many of the “obstacles” in your life, the goals that stay just out of reach, and the patterns you cannot seem to break often have grief sitting quietly underneath them. Grief is still grief whether it happened 5 months ago or 30 years ago. The timeline is irrelevant. If it is still in your heart, it is still affecting your life. It can weigh you down and keep you from soaring to the places you know you are capable of going. You are not weak for feeling this, and you are not behind. You might just need tools.

That is what The Grief Recovery Method is for. It gives you a clear, evidence-based way to address what is unfinished, so you can move forward lighter, clearer, and more free. If this resonates with you, you do not have to figure it out alone.
Follow this link: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/ben-brady

or send me a message to learn more about starting Grief Recovery.

Hello, my name is Ben Brady and I am a Grief Recovery Method Specialist working online & from my home on the beautiful Fife coast in Scotland, UK. Grief is the normal & natural response to loss. I treat grievers with the respect they deserve & give them the dignity to share their story, without judg...

11/01/2026

January is too long to just ‘be strong’

The 2nd week of January is the time when new year’s resolutions are the most difficult to continue.
Many give up from ‘trying hard’.

Same with grief, a dangerous misconception is that ‘being strong’ helps you to recover from grief.
We have been told since childhood that we should be strong for others when dealing with emotional pain. But this just hides grief inside that eventually surfaces & being strong no longer cuts it
But recovery is possible by taking a few correct steps, this allows the griever to communicate deep emotional truths that are in the heart of.

My passion is helping grievers - with empathy, compassion & respect.
Within 7 sessions recovery can be achieved ❤️‍🩹

When ‘being strong’ is no longer helping you. Don’t worry

Help is at hand…

31/12/2025

Ok, Ok, I admit it…I feel things alot more deeply than I let on.
& because I don’t let on, my internal world can feel like a mass of spaghetti.
Take this Christmas. My family & I spent 3 days together. Great food, lots of presents, great tv, chocolate…fun times!
But by Boxing Day I was consumed with strong feelings. Shame, guilt, rage. I felt angry at everyone, I felt judgemental, I was desperately unhappy.
So what was happening to me?
In another part of my world my childhood friend is going through hell.
He lives 350 miles away so I don’t get to visit him often, but I’m in touch with those around him & know what he’s going through.
He has cancer in his throat & tongue.
He can no longer speak. He can no longer eat with his mouth, he has a tube directly into his stomach & 3 times a day a carer pumps goo directly into him.
He also has alcoholic dementia. He forgets close friends, he forgets from minute to minute. He is slipping away, not slowly, but he is gradually going.
So my inner turmoil is because deep down I’m desperately sad & angry that I’m losing my friend.
I need to communicate events & feelings around them that I experience in our relationship.
Our connection is forged through our friendship in early childhood, our scrapes as teenage pals, & the crazy times we spent together in our 20’s.
I need to apologise, I need to forgive, I need to issue important statements, & all while being heard.
This is the beginning of the path to my healing.
Walk with me in 2026 towards emotional freedom.
Regain strength to help & not just hurt.

30/12/2025

NEW YEAR OLD GRIEF?

It’s never too late to recover.
I would love to meet with you to hear your story & share how The Grief Recovery Method can help you have a much more fulfilling 2026

16/12/2025

Have you ever thought how important recovering from grief is?

Your future depends on it ❤️‍🩹

Grief damages the heart
Grief damages the brain
Grief damages the body

Recovery means healing ❤️‍🩹

Join an online Grief Recovery Method support group early in January 2026.