20/10/2025
The Death of A Parent đș
Death of a parent is the worst that can happen to a child.
There are many other chronic traumas of course but the death of a parent during childhood breaks the foundation of their development.
Why?
Because a parent is the source of Existence for a child. When our existence is threatened and not healed, we continue to grow with those fears, insecurities, lack of belonging, lack of orientation, lack of trust, and all other belief programs and feelings as a result of this death.
The death of a mother is even worse.
Why?
Because a mother is the first home for a child.
The mother gives birth to the child, the fountain of life, the first open door to earth. The mother is the first touch, the first smell, the first source of food, the first in existence of a child.
When a mother dies during childhood, the child needs to trust in another home that will not leave like the mother left.
Children subconsciously donât comprehend death. What grows within them is the fact that their mother or father left them and that it is not safe to be on earth. That they are not loved enough and thatâs why the mother or father left them. The mother is their first connection with their own feminine dimension. The father is their first connection with their own masculine dimension.
What happens to children when a parent dies?They move on, in a survival mode. Closing their hearts, closing their free expression and developing patterns and methods for survival.
On the outside, they continue to live and grow through all the stages of development. But their inner world is fixated and blocked from the natural flow of development due to the unresolved and unhealed pain, which impacts their decisions and relationships in the outer world.
They grow up searching for this security and love in the outside, choosing men and women to project on them their own needs, their need to feel safe again to be vulnerable.
Unfortunately, this also happens when loosing a parent due to divorce and separation. It just differs from one situation to the other depending on other factors.
But every child needs the mother and the father in one place. Why? Because this is the essence of existence and how we are from within. The feminine, the masculine and the child. When the outside setting is out of balance, our inside grows out of balance until we heal.
Healing is the journey of returning to this balance.
âïž Sarah Moussa - The Writer
