Cambridge - Therapist - Ionut Gaina

13/11/2025

Have you been guilty of putting your friends or family before yourself? Of course it's important to give to others, but giving too much may make you resentful. Only give as much as you're comfortable with. Check in with yourself, paying attention to the fine line between pleasing someone else and how it makes you feel. If it doesn't feel good, you know you've hit your limit.

There will be times when you are not in the mood but you still have to make an effort for someone else. At those times, be clear about your boundaries. It's okay to say, 'I'd love to come to your party, but I can only stay an hour.' Or. 'I can help you with your house move on Tuesday, but not tomorrow.

Remember you are a better support for a friend, family member or partner if you don't take on their problem as if it was your own. Some distance is helpful for them and also for you.

Maybe you know someone who calls you all the time to talk about the same problem? They may be asking for help, but it feels like they're not doing anything to change the situation. All you need to do is listen and be there to support and hold and love, without trying to come up with a solution or attempting to 'fix their problem.

If you have hit a wall and can't hear it any more, be honest and tell them. You can say, 'I love you, but I don't love this situation and it is hard for me to talk to you about it right now. They may take offence, but try to stay steady and true to what you need to look after you.

11/11/2025

Confidence is the experience of knowing how you feel and believing it's okay to be yourself in that feeling, in that moment.

10/11/2025

As a dad of two and a psychotherapist who’s spent lots of time working closely with my children and other families, I’ve seen firsthand what truly helps kids grow into kind, strong, and caring people.
It’s not about being perfect—it’s about how we show up when things get messy.

When our children are melting down, crying, or furious, the best gift we can give them is simply being there with them. Get down to their level, listen without rushing to fix it, and let them know their feelings make sense. A gentle “I can see you’re really upset, and that’s okay. I’m right here” can change everything. It shows them emotions are safe, not scary or bad.

Kids watch us more than they listen. If we hide our feelings or snap when we’re stressed, they learn that’s how it’s done and that's what they need to do as well. But when we stay calm, name what we’re feeling, and speak kindly even when it’s hard, they copy that too. That’s how we raise children who can handle life with empathy and grace.

Picture your little one growing into someone who listens with their whole heart, speaks up without hurting others, and gets back up when life knocks them down.
That future starts today, in the small moments when we choose connection over control. You don’t need to have all the answers—just a willingness to feel with them. One calm, loving response at a time, we’re building a more gentle world. ❤️

08/11/2025

🌟 La mulți ani, Mihail și Gavril! 🌟

Astăzi, cerul coboară pe pământ:
👼 Sf. Arhanghel Mihail, sabia de foc a dreptății, care taie orice lanț al răului,
👼 Sf. Arhanghel Gavriil, mesagerul blând al veștii celei bune, care deschide porți de lumină.

Ei sunt:
✨ Conducătorii cetelor de îngeri,
✨ Călăuzele sufletelor spre Rai,
✨ Ocrotitorii voștri în fiecare clipă.

Fie ca aripile lor să vă atingă inima,
Fie ca trâmbița lui Gavriil să vă anunțe numai bucurii,
Fie ca scutul lui Mihail să vă apere de orice furtună.

La mulți ani fericiți tuturor celor care poartă numele sfinților arhangheli!
Să aveți o zi plină de minuni cerești și îmbrățișări de lumină! 🎉

03/11/2025

Comparing yourself to others is a normal, human impulse.

When you're feeling good about yourself it can even inspire you to make positive changes in your own life. But generally it's healthier to stick to your own path and not look around too much. Comparison becomes magnified by a million on social media, and too much of it can eat away at your own sense of self worth. Good things can come from social media, of course - it's a way to stay connected to people and ideas, and it can inform and inspire you - but it needs careful handling.

Maybe you've got a habit of getting online first thing in the morning, before you've even got out of bed? Or maybe you're sitting online for hours on a Sunday night, looking at other people's lives, checking out their weekends. What is she doing? Where is he? Why wasn't I invited?

Try to remember that what you're looking at online is other people's edited highlights. You're comparing their carefully curated photographs and words with your complicated, beautiful, scrambled human mess of reality. We all know this but we can't help ourselves scrolling through other people's feeds, judging them and deciding that they have more than us; that their lives are perfect.

After a session on Instagram or Facebook, think about how you feel. Inspired? Grateful? Happy with your own life? Or, more likely, not. Try to be aware of how time spent online affects your emotions.

03/11/2025

30/10/2025

Let what comes, come.
Let what goes, go.
Find out what remains.

Ramana Maharshi

When was the last time you felt peaceful? For a lot of us, it's hard to pinpoint that moment because feeling a sense of peace, ease and balance may be so unfamiliar that we struggle to remember it.

It is also because peace is the opposite feeling to stress, which is something we're all much more familiar with. Being busy and stressed can feel normal to us, but when we cultivate peace and approach life from that place, we're able to respond to the world in a more intelligent, thoughtful way than when we're running from commitment to commitment.

When life doesn't feel okay, just a moment of peace can help you feel that everything might be okay at some point in the future. We're not saying just have a quiet few minutes and all of your problems will go away, what we're saying is, at times of great personal strain, make sure you do small, good things for yourself every day.

Be gentle with yourself, as if you were looking after a friend who's going through tough times. You wouldn't tell her to pull herself together and get on with things. You'd be kind and considerate of her fragile state. Find some moments away from the onslaught of life and emotions, and that will leave you stronger and better able to get through them.

29/10/2025

The fact that you possess a surplus of things that you can't bring yourself to discard doesn't mean you are taking good care of them.

In fact, it is quite the opposite. By paring down to the volume that you can properly handle, you revitalize your relationship with your belongings.

Just because you dispose of something does not mean you give up past experiences or your identity.

Through the process of selecting only those things that inspire joy, you can identify precisely what you love and what you need.

02/10/2025

Descoperiți Liniștea Dedesubtul Furiei Voastre

Vă simțiți ca și cm furia este mereu la un val distanță de a se prăbuși peste dumneavoastră? Nu sunteți singuri – și nu este întreaga poveste.

Ca psihoterapeut autorizat și cu experiență în ajutarea indivizilor să navigheze icebergurile emoționale, am văzut cm acel vârf aprins ascunde o lume de durere nerostită, frică și nevoi nesatisfăcute sub suprafață.

Furia, de obicei nu este răufăcătorul; este semnalul.
Dedesubt?
Straturi de tristețe, rușine, epuizare sau dor de conexiune care merită atenția voastră blândă. În sesiunile noastre, vom descoperi împreună acele profunzimi – folosind instrumente pentru a topi gheața, a construi reziliență și a vă recâștiga pacea interioară.

Fie că este vorba de stresul de la muncă, rupturi relaționale sau acea durere tăcută pe care ați purtat-o prea mult timp, terapia este despre a vă elibera.

Apele voastre mai calme vă așteaptă.

Cu empatie și expertiză,
Psihoterapeut Ionuț Gaina

Transformând Furia în Conștientizare

26/09/2025

🌱 Schimbarea este inevitabilă, dar felul în care o primim depinde de noi.

🌟 Ca terapeut, te invit să privim împreună schimbările din viața ta ca pe oportunități de creștere și descoperire. Fie că e vorba de o provocare sau un nou început, sunt aici să te susțin să navighezi cu încredere și curaj.

💬 Hai să vorbim despre ce te preocupă – schimbarea poate fi un pas spre o versiune mai autentică a ta!

19/09/2025

Nu e o problemă în a le oferi copiilor tăi ceea ce nu ai avut tu când erai mic copil, dar nu uita ceva mai important decât atât: învață-i ceea ce nu ai fost tu învățat când erai mic, oferă-le suport emoțional și disponibilitate in timpul pe care îl petreceți împreună. Fii prezent alături de ei.

Timpul nu se întoarce, copiii vor crește, și nimeni nu își dorește să ajungă izolat de aceștia.