The Strange Secret to Healing Fear and Insecurity and Overcoming Your Demons.
I struggled with intense fear and insecurity most of my life.
It wasn't that long ago I was pretty much a shut-in in a one bedroom flat in London. I was too afraid to go out or speak to people. I was locked in an emotional prison of fear and insecurity and using addiction as a means of escape. I hated myself and felt completely unworthy of love, happiness and success.
Today I am a qualified emotional healer. I live in beautiful Cambridgeshire and have been happily married to my wonderful wife Lolly for eight years.
The solution to fear and insecurity is hidden in plain sight and so simple that most people will dismiss it as soon as they hear it. I sincerely hope that you are someone who "gets it".
You see fear and insecurity is a form of self sabotage. Likely to have been triggered in childhood from trauma or neglect and leaving you with a deep sense of not feeling lovable, not being good enough or deserving of much. It generates profound feelings of insecurity, self loathing and unworthiness.
Revealed here is the simple 3 step secret to finally overcoming fear and insecurity and healing your life.
It’s as simple as ABC.
A stands for Awareness. First you need to notice and become aware of when you start to feel self conscious and insecure. What kind of situations trigger the fear? What thoughts are you thinking? Where in your body does the fear manifest? How does it feel?
B stands for Breathing. Next you need to still yourself and focus on your breathing. Taking long slow deep breaths helps get more oxygen into your body, calms you down and allows you to think more clearly.
C is the last and most important step to successfully crushing fear.
This one idea completely changed how I thought about fear, anger, shame etc and helped heal my life. It can transform your life too if you allow it.
C stands for Choose your Feelings.
As strange as it sounds, with practice you can absolutely choose how you want to feel in the moment.
As a child I never really felt safe or loved or good enough a lot of the time. I realised I had carried those feelings of insecurity with me into adolescence and adulthood.
My subconscious goals were to feel safe, lovable and good enough but I never knew how to do it. Instead I would distract or numb myself from the pain using whatever dysfunctional means I could find.
Eventually through trial and error I hit upon the power of choosing ones emotional state.
I learned to relax, breathe deeply and say to myself "I am choosing to feel safe and loved right now", "I am choosing to feel free of fear right now", "I am choosing to feel good enough" and as weird as it sounds it actually worked.
With regular practice we really can absolutely choose how we want to feel in any situation.
I went from choosing to feel safe, to choosing to feel loved, to choosing to feel confident, to choosing to feel deserving of my best and the best. This practice totally transformed my life. I finally felt free!
No one ever tells us we can choose how we want to feel but with practice we absolutely can.
How much longer will you continue to live half a life? Never allowing yourself to experience the happiness and fulfillment you deserve.
The time to make a change is Now. No matter how long you live, life is very short. Starting now decide that you are going to take action to make your life better. The confidence, peace and happiness you deserve is waiting for you once you've decided enough is enough. Are you going to transform overnight? No, it will take time. Years of fear and insecurity isn’t fixed in an instant but it can be fixed. You can do it! You are worth it!
I can help you if you would like me to. We can have powerful conversations where I can help you reconnect to the immense love and wisdom and courage you have inside. You can contact me at sagaren.pillay@gmail.com
I look forward to helping you heal and making the most of your life.
