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05/11/2025

💡 How to Connect with Withdrawn Children Without Pushing Them Away.

If you’re a parent, educator, or caregiver, you’ve likely encountered moments when a child chooses isolation over interaction. It’s easy to take it personally, but often, it’s not about us.

Here are a few gentle strategies that can make a big difference:

🍽️ Create a shared routine Invite them to join family meals. Don’t bring food to their room, when they’re ready, they’ll come. Even one meal a day, around the living room table (yes, even with the TV on), can feel less formal and more inviting.

👂 Assume they hear everything Children are incredibly perceptive. Even when we think we’re shielding them from stress or conflict, they pick up on it. Use that awareness to model openness, share a story from your childhood or a challenge at work. It shifts the spotlight off them and invites empathy.

🧘 Don’t interrogate-just be present Avoid questions. Avoid pressure. Instead, say: "I see you need some quiet. I’m here if you want to talk." That simple message builds trust.

💡 Remember: withdrawal isn’t rejection It’s often sensory overload or emotional processing.

Giving space isn’t giving up-it’s giving room to return.
Sometimes they’re simply struggling with themselves, and it has nothing to do with us as parents. In fact, if we give them space-that space will allow them to come to us.

Photo by Rafael Garcin on Unsplash

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💡 How to Connect with Withdrawn Children Without Pushing Them Away. If you’re a parent, educator, or caregiver, you’ve likely encountered moments when a child chooses isolation over interaction. It’s easy to take it personally, but often, it’s not about us. Here are a few gentle strategie...

01/11/2025

🌿 Your child is playing with a friend or immersed in a video game. You watch him, see him laughing, happy, and calm. Suddenly, in an instant, he’s on the floor, hitting with his fists, kicking, and screaming. You have no idea what just happened-it’s as if he went from zero to a hundred in one second!

⭐ To us, it seems like everything flipped in a moment. But for your child, there was an inner process unfolding-a struggle to express something he couldn’t put into words. This is a challenge with emotional regulation.

📍 Emotional regulation is the ability to recognize our feelings and manage them, so our reactions fit the situation and don’t become overwhelming. Young children often find it difficult to identify and understand their emotions, which is why tantrums sometimes erupt.

What can we do? How do we support our children through tantrums?
First, remember, you are your child’s anchor and source of stability. If we respond with anger or frustration, the situation will likely escalate. Instead, keep your voice calm and soft, and show your child that you see and understand their distress.

🌿 When a child feels truly seen and understood, their need to keep screaming often fades.

Afterward, it is helpful to offer your child some practical tools:
💡 Gently talk with them without judgment- “I can see today was tough for you. Do you know what made it so hard? What or who upset you so much?”
💡 Help them recognize bodily sensations- “How did it feel in your body when the anger started?” This helps children learn to identify their emotions as they arise.
💡 Practice deep breathing together-Sit side by side and take slow, deep breaths, calming both body and mind.
💡 Encourage them to draw what they’re feeling-Art is a safe and creative way for children to express big emotions.
💡 Use emotion cards-Explore different feelings by playing games and naming emotions together.

⭐ Finally, help your child put their experience into words and remind them that it’s always okay to ask for help as soon as they notice anger or frustration building-before things get overwhelming.

⭐ Every child copes in their own unique way, and the journey of learning emotional regulation happens step by step. Every small victory is a real achievement! Continue to offer patience and compassion to your child, and just as importantly, to yourself. You are not alone in this journey.

🌿 Your child is playing with a friend or immersed in a video game. You watch him, see him laughing, happy, and calm. Suddenly, in an instant, he’s on the floor, hitting with his fists, kicking, and screaming. You have no idea what just happened-it’s as if he went from zero to a hundred in one...

31/10/2025

❣️ Setting Boundaries with Love: Parenting a Child with a Chronic Illness ❣️

When my son was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease at the age of 9, he said something I’ll never forget: “Mom, you know… it’s really hard for me right now, but I’m getting used to it. And when I grow up, I’ll know better than other people how to cope when things get tough.”

He said this after undergoing two colonoscopies, experiencing significant weight loss, receiving biological injections in his thigh every week and having weekly blood tests.

Watching your child face a serious or chronic illness is one of the most difficult and frightening experiences a parent can go through. It’s a real fear of losing your child, and an immense pain to see them suffer.

Fear and hardship place us in challenging situations and complex dilemmas. On one hand, our instinct as parents is to wrap our child in love, to pamper them, to give them everything they need, and sometimes everything they want.

On the other hand, the child’s medical condition often requires us to be physically and emotionally close to them, sometimes in intimate ways: helping with showers, getting dressed, and even using the bathroom.

These two factors - the urge to compensate and the forced intimacy, make it very difficult to set boundaries. Our hearts ache seeing our child suffer, and all we want is to shower them with love, both emotional and material. The intimacy blurs the lines, and we begin to see our child as helpless, even as if they’ve reverted to being a baby. And so, we throw boundaries out the window.

But Is That Really What's Best for Them?

Don’t get me wrong, I believe that wrapping, pampering, and rewarding a child during a difficult time is essential. But it can be done while still maintaining boundaries. Of course, those boundaries need to be more flexible, and every child has different needs. But boundaries send a powerful message:

That the child is not a victim of the illness.
That we believe in their recovery and their return to normal life.

Boundaries reflect our faith in them. They provide stability, resilience, and even hope. It’s precisely the difficult experience that can teach them the most about their own strength and capabilities.

Parenting a child with a chronic illness is a complex journey, filled with love, fear, dilemmas, and daily decisions. Choosing to set boundaries, even when it’s hard, isn’t a sign of insensitivity. On the contrary, it’s a deep expression of belief in the child, in their strength, and in their future.

❣️ Setting Boundaries with Love: Parenting a Child with a Chronic Illness ❣️ When my son was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease at the age of 9, he said something I’ll never forget: “Mom, you know… it’s really hard for me right now, but I’m getting used to it. And when I grow up, I.....

28/08/2025

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💕 Relationships: Not About Compromise, But About Growing Together We often hear the phrase: “In relationships, you have to compromise.” But what does that really mean? Are we expected to compromise on our values? Our dreams? Our inner peace? I’d like to offer a different perspective. Relati...

13/08/2025

🌿 The Quiet Children – The Ones We Often Miss 🌿

In every classroom, we notice the children who shout, lie on the floor, or act out.
We’ve learned to recognize their behavior as a call for help.
But what about the children who suffer in silence?
The ones we describe as “easy,” “well-behaved,” “no trouble at all.”
They don’t disrupt. They don’t demand.
And because of that, they’re often overlooked—by teachers, parents, and even therapists.

Some children don’t know how to express their pain.
They follow the rules, smile politely, and never complain.
But beneath the surface, they may be struggling deeply.

💡 If a child comes to mind as you read this—pause.

Ask how they’re doing. And if they say “I’m fine,” don’t stop there.
Ask about their friendships, their teachers, their feelings about school.
Watch their body language. Listen between the lines.

💡 Signs a quiet child may be in distress:
Withdraws into their room
Doesn’t share school experiences
Rarely expresses frustration
Always complies without question
You’re unsure who their close friends are

🧡 The best support we can offer is consistent presence.
Let them know they’re seen. That they matter.
Share your own childhood challenges—it might open a door to theirs.

Let’s not wait for a meltdown to notice a child’s pain.
Let’s learn to listen to the silence.

Photo by 🇸🇮 Janko Ferlič on Unsplash

🌿 The Quiet Children – The Ones We Often Miss 🌿 In every classroom, we notice the children who shout, lie on the floor, or act out. We’ve learned to recognize their behavior as a call for help. But what about the children who suffer in silence? The ones we describe as “easy,” “well-b...

10/08/2025

🎯 How to Respond When Your Child Has an Outburst – and Keep the Peace at Home

You know that moment when you approach your child, and for no apparent reason they explode — yelling and acting out? And before you even have time to think, you feel your own temper rising… and you end up yelling back.

That reaction is completely natural. When someone shouts at us, our brain’s automatic response is to fire right back. And so, a cycle of shouting and arguments begins.

💡 But what if we chose to respond differently?

🌿 Step One – Pause and Breathe

Imagine this: your child is yelling, you feel the pressure mounting… but instead of reacting immediately, you pause, take three deep breaths, and calmly say: "I can see you’re upset. I’m here for you if you need help."
Sometimes, your calm response will surprise your child, and they might still raise their voice. The key here is not to get discouraged — but to stay consistent. In every outburst, choose to remain calm and offer help.

🌿 Step Two – Talk During Calm Moments

Once things have settled, initiate a calm conversation. This is your chance to remind them that you’re here to support them and to help them use words instead of aggression. During this conversation, share with them:
How you feel when they lash out
What happens in your body in those moments
Which emotions come up for you.
This will help them learn to notice their own physical sensations when they get upset — and put their feelings into words.

🌿 Remember – It’s a Journey

This process takes time, patience, and persistence. The more consistent you are, the faster your child will learn to regulate themselves — and you’ll see a real difference in the home’s atmosphere. Because, like it or not, our children take their cues from us. And when we lead with calm and empathy, we invite more peace into our homes.

🎯 How to Respond When Your Child Has an Outburst – and Keep the Peace at Home You know that moment when you approach your child, and for no apparent reason they explode — yelling and acting out? And before you even have time to think, you feel your own temper rising… and you end up yelling ...

27/07/2025

☀️ You've hit on one of the trickiest balancing acts in parenting!

knowing when to nudge your child forward and when to give them the space to figure things out on their own. It's a beautiful, delicate dance, and honestly, it's something every parent grapples with. We worry, "Will they push back if I apply a little pressure, or will they feel abandoned if I step too far away?"

The truth is, there's no single right answer, especially when you have multiple children, each with their own unique needs and personalities. What works for one child might not work for another, and that's okay! It just means we, as parents, get the wonderful challenge of tailoring our approach, almost like custom-fitting a suit for each of them.

One of the most powerful tools we have in our parenting toolkit is open, honest communication. Imagine sitting down with your kids and sharing your thoughts, even your dilemmas. "Hey, I'm trying to figure out the best way to support you , and sometimes I wonder if I'm giving you enough space or if I should be cheering you on a little more. What do you think? What can I do for you?

Sharing your dilemma with your child is not showing a weakness, it's about building incredible trust. It tells them, "I value your opinion, I see you as a capable and responsible person, and we're in this together." And if you have a child who struggles to express themselves verbally, don't worry!
The market is full of wonderful card games designed to gently open up conversations about feelings and challenges. These can be a fantastic way to get those lines of communication flowing.

It's about being present, being attuned to their unique rhythms, and always, always keeping the conversation open. You're doing great just by asking these questions!

☀️ You've hit on one of the trickiest balancing acts in parenting! knowing when to nudge your child forward and when to give them the space to figure things out on their own. It's a beautiful, delicate dance, and honestly, it's something every parent grapples with. We worry, "Will they push back...

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