24/02/2026
Enjoyed running a session today as part of Zest Psychology’s Let’s be Zestie: Manager as Coach series, focused on difficult conversations at work, and I’m reminded (again) how rarely these conversations are actually about performance.
In my research, the conversations people find hardest tend to sit around:
health and wellbeing
boundaries and workload
emotion and distress
identity and inclusion
They’re difficult not because people lack skill, but because care, risk, and uncertainty are all in the room at once.
One of the tools I shared today was the Difficult Conversations Compass, a simple reflection map to help people orient themselves before, during, and after a challenging conversation.
Not a script.
Not perfect wording.
Just a way of slowing things down enough to notice:
what really matters
where the risk sits
and what’s most likely to make the conversation feel hard
What really resonated today was how closely this work connects with Dr Anna Kane’s doctoral research and work on Authentic Confidence, particularly the emphasis on connectedness.
Handled with awareness and care, difficult conversations can strengthen trust, belonging, and our ability to show up authentically with others.
In that sense, they’re not a threat to confidence, they’re often a pathway to it.
I’ll keep sharing insights from this research here, and if you’d like to explore Authentic Confidence further, or learn more about how Zest Psychology supports individuals and organisations to build confidence and navigate difficult conversations, do get in touch with them.
Always glad to stay in conversation with others navigating this space.