Tandem Therapy

Tandem Therapy Online relationship therapy and trauma counselling with a BACP-accredited relationship and couples psychotherapist and counsellor.

Ever feel like you’re chasing your partner…while they keep pulling away?Or maybe you’re the one who needs space,but it’s...
17/03/2026

Ever feel like you’re chasing your partner…
while they keep pulling away?

Or maybe you’re the one who needs space,but it’s never enough?

This is called the pursuer–distancer dynamic—and it’s one of the most common (and painful) relationship patterns.

It can leave you feeling:
💔 Rejected
💔 Overwhelmed
💔 Stuck in the same arguments

But here’s the thing… it’s not about blame. It’s a pattern, and it can change.

I’ve written a new blog to help you understand what’s really going on, and how to start breaking the cycle.

Read it via the link in bio or here:
👉 https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/pursuer-distancer-relationship-why-one-partner-pulls-away-and-how-to-break-the-cycle

14/03/2026

Struggling to communicate after separation?

Many separating couples tell me they want to resolve practical issues — but conversations quickly turn into arguments or misunderstandings.

As a family mediator and psychotherapist, I often see patterns that can make discussions more difficult during separation.

In my latest blog, I share practical mediation insights to help conversations become more constructive so couples can focus on solutions and future arrangements.

Mediation isn’t therapy. It’s about helping separating couples reach clear, workable agreements.

You can read the full blog here:

https://www.tandemmediation.co.uk/blog/how-to-communicate-during-separation-practical-mediation-tips-from-a-psychotherapist-and-family-mediator

🔥 Why Do We Love the Way We Do? 🔥Are you feeling anxious in love? Or do you tend to keep others at arm’s length? Maybe y...
17/02/2026

🔥 Why Do We Love the Way We Do? 🔥
Are you feeling anxious in love? Or do you tend to keep others at arm’s length? Maybe you swing between wanting closeness and pulling away?

Understanding your attachment style could be the key to transforming your relationships. 💡

👉 I just shared a new blog that breaks down:
✨ Secure attachment
✨ Anxious attachment
✨ Avoidant attachment
✨ Disorganised attachment

Whether you want deeper connection, healthier communication, or more confidence in love — this article can shed light on patterns you might not even realise are influencing your relationships.

📖 Read the full article here:
🔗 https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/attachment-styles-explained-secure-anxious-avoidant-and-disorganised-patterns-in-relationships

💬 Which style resonates most with you? Drop a ❤️ if you’re learning more about yourself today!

Infographic credit: Mick Cooper

Myth-busting: three common misconceptions about online relationship therapy — and the real facts. 💬✅Myth 1: Online thera...
17/02/2026

Myth-busting: three common misconceptions about online relationship therapy — and the real facts. 💬✅

Myth 1: Online therapy isn’t as effective. Fact: Jo uses flexible, evidence-based online tools that deliver the same structured support as face-to-face sessions, with measurable real-world outcomes. 💻

Myth 2: Therapy is only for crises. Fact: Couples use therapy preventatively or for steady relationship growth; Jo offers personalised, trauma-informed techniques to support long-term wellbeing. 🌱

Myth 3: Couples therapy is just for married people. Fact: Therapy helps partners at any stage or identity — inclusive care tailored to your needs. 🤝

Jo is fully accredited, so you’ll receive safe, professional support. Ready to learn more? Visit https://wix.to/Y4iYjyQ and book a confidential consultation.

26/01/2026

💔 Feeling overwhelmed by separation or divorce?

Separation isn’t just about legal or financial decisions — it’s an emotional journey too. Anger, grief, uncertainty, and stress can make communication and co-parenting much harder.

To mark Family Mediation Week 2026, the Family Mediation Council is running a free webinar to help people manage emotions during separation or divorce. This session shares practical tools to support emotional readiness, reduce conflict, and protect children’s wellbeing.

📅 When: Tuesday 27 January | 1pm–2pm
🔗 Read more and register: Managing Emotions During Divorce & Separation – FMC Webinar

Whether you’re separating, divorcing, or supporting someone going through it, this webinar offers compassionate guidance and strategies you can start using immediately.

23/01/2026

If you’re separating, or thinking about separating, you might be carrying a lot of questions right now.

Who will live where?
What will happen with the children?
How do we sort money, property – or even the family dog?

Next week is FMC Mediation Week (26–30 January) and there are free online webinars designed to help families understand their options and learn more about family mediation.

The sessions are run by the Family Mediation Council and are open to parents and individuals who want clear, practical information about:

making arrangements for children

sorting finances without going to court

reducing conflict during separation

I’ve shared more details and links to the free events here 👇
https://www.tandemmediation.co.uk/blog/free-online-events-to-help-families-navigate-separation-during-fmc-mediation-week-26-30-january

You don’t need to have all the answers — sometimes starting with information is enough.

🎄 Merry Christmas from Tandem Therapy 🎄Christmas can bring mixed emotions. If this season feels heavy or tender, you’re ...
24/12/2025

🎄 Merry Christmas from Tandem Therapy 🎄

Christmas can bring mixed emotions. If this season feels heavy or tender, you’re not alone.

Wishing you a gentle Christmas and kindness towards yourself as the year comes to a close ✨

🎄 Relationships at Christmas can feel more stressful than joyfulThe festive season brings closeness, traditions… and som...
14/12/2025

🎄 Relationships at Christmas can feel more stressful than joyful

The festive season brings closeness, traditions… and sometimes tension. Expectations, family dynamics, and emotional triggers can make even strong relationships feel challenging.

Our latest blog explores why relationships feel harder at Christmas and practical ways to manage stress, expectations, and emotional triggers.

Read the full blog here 👉
https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/relationships-at-christmas-how-to-manage-relationship-stress-expectations-and-emotional-triggers

💬 Not sure if couples counselling is right for you or your partner?Many people think therapy is only for relationships i...
08/12/2025

💬 Not sure if couples counselling is right for you or your partner?

Many people think therapy is only for relationships in crisis. In reality, lots of couples and individuals come to therapy because they feel stuck, emotionally disconnected, or unsure how to talk about what’s really going on.

You don’t need to be at breaking point.
You don’t even need to agree on whether therapy is the answer.

Couples counselling and relationship therapy can offer a calm, supportive space to:
✨ understand repeated patterns
✨ improve communication
✨ reconnect emotionally
✨ think more clearly about next steps

I’ve written a blog that gently explores how to know whether therapy might be right for you or your partner.

🔗 Read it here:
https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/how-do-i-know-if-couples-counselling-or-relationship-therapy-is-right-for-me-or-my-partner

We’ve started using attachment styles as labels… and sometimes even as weapons.“You’re avoidant.”“You’re anxious.”“You’r...
27/11/2025

We’ve started using attachment styles as labels… and sometimes even as weapons.
“You’re avoidant.”
“You’re anxious.”
“You’re the problem.”

But attachment patterns were never meant to shame us—they were meant to explain us.
To help us understand why we panic… or pull away… or shut down when love feels risky.

In my latest blog, I explore how anxious and avoidant partners can actually support each other in moments of trigger, and why the real issue isn’t your attachment style—it’s the fear underneath.

If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, overwhelmed, or stuck in the same cycles, this one’s for you.
💛 Read it here:
https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/understanding-attachment-styles-in-relationships-why-we-ve-started-weaponising-them

✨ Not all sparks are created equal. ✨That flutter in your chest? That racing heart? Sometimes it’s chemistry… sometimes ...
14/11/2025

✨ Not all sparks are created equal. ✨

That flutter in your chest? That racing heart? Sometimes it’s chemistry… sometimes it’s just old patterns showing up. 💔

True love isn’t just excitementit’s emotional safety. The kind of love where you can be yourself, feel seen, and actually rest in the relationship. 🕊️

Discover the difference between chemistry and safety, and learn how to spot the love that heals rather than triggers you.

Read the full blog here 👉 https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/how-to-tell-the-difference-between-chemistry-and-emotional-safety-in-relationships

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